Author	Thread: still hurting
oneofGodswarriors View Profile History	still hurting Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 05:35 AM i meet this wonderful girl 3 years and about 4 months ago yes i still remember the day i first saw her. We became really good friends and would talk over facebook nearly every night. I started to get feelings towards her but being me i prayed about it alot and felt like she was really the one for me and so i built up the courgae and talked to her about it and from then she never really talked to me again she would say hi when she saw me around but that was about it i would try to talk to her but nothing. But i just wasn't gonna give up so i conituned to pray and ask God about is and yet no change so i continuned to chase her and try to talk to her but nothing. I wish i could go back to when i didn't say anything to her. I wish i could just have that friendship back. I just wanna be able to talk to her again, know how she is going, know what she has been up to, but thinking about that hurts to much and i am still struggiling to move on. Having never been with anybody its so hard to know just what to do Post Reply
View Profile History	still hurting Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 03:02 PM Sounds like this girl just wanted friendship and nothing more. Relationships are best built with friendship first. But everyone friend does not want a relationship with that person. Not sure if you guys met just on online or inperson. But if you met just online, that is not a real relationship anyway. I say, that she didnt want to lead you on so she just dropped the friendship. That is really not a bad thing. Leading people on , is really not good thing because it just takes longer to get over a person if they keep the ongoing friendship when they do not want a Relationship. I know it may sound confusing. lol IMHO Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	still hurting Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 03:23 PM OK, I'm a little but confused as to the sequence of events... You met her over 3 years ago, right? How recently did you finally talk to her about your feelings? If you talked to her 3 years ago about your feelings, I don't really blame her for not being interested...you were 16! She may have just not been ready for a relationship at that point, and didn't know how else to deal with your pursuit of her. If you've known her for over 3 years, and just recently voiced your feelings, I'd say that she's just simply not interested, but doesn't know how to let you know that other than to just quit talking to you. Regardless of exactly what happened in your case, admitting that you are developing feelings for a friend is really tough and risky. Often, it is a matter of choosing which is more important at the moment: friendship, or romantic feelings. There comes a point where a decision has to be made and risks have to be taken. Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	still hurting Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 08:28 PM You can't go back in time...start looking forward and learn from the experience. We spend too much time wishing we could undo things...much better to focus on those things that can occur. Post Reply
View Profile History	still hurting Posted : 28 Sep, 2011 01:00 PM I agree with teach, you cannot go back in time, you cannot put the toothpaste back in the tube. And honestly the worst thing you could do is keep at her, and keep pushing. All you are doing is pushing her further away, scaring her more. What you see as a sincere desire to be friends likely seems to her as obsessive behavior. Think of it from her point of view. It's like a cornered animal who want to escape the situation all together. If you want any hope to salvage a friendship at all let her go, chasing her will just do more damage. Some friendships come back in time, others never do, but it's not up to us. Dwelling on it is not good either even if you don't act on it you need to allow yourself to accept what has happened and try to move on. Post Reply