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az130 View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 28 Jul, 2011 04:06 AM Why I will never have a girlfriend...,The media has set standards of acceptance in this society and if you don't fit them, you're out of the game. God forbid you're a few pounds over weight or you're not tall enough or you're not physically perfect in every way. Having high self esteem, a good job, a good heart/soul, lots of friends, etc. If you don't fit the bill physically, you're going to be alone for the rest of your life. I don't know.. it just seems everything i do is wrong... You know whats even more sad and wrong.. that I'm still trying... Why... I have been wanting to just throw in the towel so many times.. but why am I still trying And to make matters worse..(you guys are most likely not going to believe a word of what im about to say or care the slightest bit about it... but never had any one truly care about me that much b4.. why should it all change now) A hacker got into my account and wrote a lot of not very nice things, i changed it back, and he got in again, and replaced my whole profile section with copy paste copy paste over and over again... and made a mess of my profile picture.. A perfect picture of me that I asked a friend of mine to take for me on her camera and give it to me... that i told her was going to be used solely for this purpose. As if i don't already struggle enough... as if my dating life isnt already miserable enough... as if anyone is going to believe what im saying but heck why am I still posting this.. .... Post Reply
View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 28 Jul, 2011 05:38 PM Hi AZ...just hang in there :) All you really need is a positive outlook and self-esteem that God gives you because He cares. Hope you find someone soon. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 28 Jul, 2011 07:52 PM Dear AZ, While it is true that especially in this current age, people are not interested in investing the kind of time it takes to know a good soul, and only look at the shell, in the end it doesn't matter. God's perfect plan for you does not include what that loving woman will see with her physical eyes but with her spiritual eyes. Having lots of dates is not the goal... having God's choice for you is the one lady you are looking for in the crowd! Show her your beautiful soul and lay everything in trust before the Lord. I know the pain you are speaking of and am not dismissing it. I have been alone almost as long as you've been alive. And it's taken me until recently to recognize that this crazy mixed up self-focused world does not dictate how loveable I am or how much I am loved... He does!! And He loves me more than anyone on this site could, even more than any possible future husband could! That is a great love that builds confidence and self-esteem. And it's source is Him ... not 'her'. If you are truly depressed and not just discouraged, like going to any doctor, there is no shame in going for help in restoring a healthy balance on the inside. Then you will be able to show her the fullness you have to give her! :yay: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 29 Jul, 2011 01:37 PM Hang in there... Trust in the Lord and take this advise. It's better not to have what you think you want, than to have what God knows is the last thing that you need. This coming from a man who asked the Lord to marry a non-believer, who appeared to be a believer, and this He allowed. The result was my brokeness, my turn to serve Christ, first and foremost. Numbers6:24-26 Post Reply
az130 View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 30 Jul, 2011 12:22 AM Its okay now because im staying single forever... stuff this site.. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 30 Jul, 2011 02:01 PM I understand how you feel brother. I have a hard time getting any woman to even consider me, but I try to stay hopeful and life for Jesus daily. I had people me no woman will ever love me, but I want to keep trusting in God no matter what people think. God bless and don't be discouraged. God bless. Post Reply
Juno20 View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 31 Jul, 2011 06:17 PM you have a messed-up outlook on dating. 21st century media has made a great job at describing what a "perfect man" should look like: tall, handsome, skinny yet buff, and mysterious. guys have picked up on this trend and changed themselves to fit into it as best as they can. what happened to the ladies? well, they started getting bombarded by these guys, which led to the pursuit of a man who wasn't all talk but no walk. In other words, they want a stable partner, not disguises. work on your self-esteem; yours currently is at the lowest it can be--that's a big no, no when it comes to finding the right girl. tou want to show her you can care for her in all respects of life. much as if she was your very own daughter! is that a challenge you can take? think about it. when you do, you'll know you're in the right path when you first start making positive changes. god bless Post Reply
jaybirdz View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 8 Aug, 2011 07:59 AM I know this was posted a while ago, but I feel like I should put in my 2 cents on this. What the previous posters have said are all true, you need to be confident with yourself and raise your self-esteem in order to stand a chance in the dating world. In the online dating world, it's even worse, as people can be extremely unforgiving when it comes to your profile picture, what you put in your profile, and even messages that you send to women. The fact is that the vast majority of messages you'll send to people will never be responded to, and in a fair world, I would at least appreciate closure and have all of them say that they don't think that I'm a good match, but it just doesn't happen that way. Silence is most peoples answer, and unfortunately, you just have to accept it as the norm and move on. However, in my opinion, the #1 most important thing you need to work on is loving who you are first! There's no way that you are going to make a woman feel special and attractive if you aren't stable with who you are. The media is the worst thing that could have happened when it comes to this situation, and if you think us guys have it rough, women have ridiculous standards they have to live up to, and it's even worse because guys are vastly visual when they first make contact with a girl. A little trick I did a long time ago was to make a list of everything that you don't like about yourself. It's important that you write it down, or if you are an audial person, talk to yourself about it. This makes the issues tangible and I think simply that fact will make things much clearer in regards to what is bothering you. Once you've made the list, tackle each thing one by one and either find a way to improve upon it, or accept it for what it is and then move on to the next thing. I've been in your situation, I TOTALLY know how this feels. It took me a few years to work things out within myself, and we all go at our own pace. However, you must maintain the consistency of self-improvement and never give up when things look grim!! You know you want it and you want this part of your life to improve, now all you have to do is go after it! I say these things out of love; I hate seeing anyone struggle with this, and there are many more people than you think who cares about you. I'm just some guy on the internet, but I always want to see a brother succeed, so do your best and don't give up hope!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 11 Aug, 2011 05:10 PM Ah, buddy, you are by far not the only one who thinks this from time to time. Try forgetting women for a while and focus on your self-respect. That's what I would do. Good luck and hope you start feeling better about things real soon, brotha. Post Reply
Sheena19 View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 12 Aug, 2011 07:04 PM That is so true, and the sad part is that guys reply in silence just as much as the girls on here do; It's happened to me plenty of times. I get winked at and messaged all the time and can be having a a great conversation, and won't here from them again without any warning. It aggravates me a little b/c I also like to have closure, but I've learned to get over it. Post Reply
nightfarmer View Profile History	Why I will never have a girlfriend... Posted : 19 Aug, 2011 11:08 PM hi i understand what ur saying,, FIRST ur so young inpatient to maybe,,heres some advice ,,travel go to PHILIPPINES INDONESIA ,OR AFRICA, CHINA,,,,,,,,,,,,,NOW DONT VISIT THE TOURIST ATTRACTIONS!!! GO see the real people go low income areas ,i guarantee when you get back home you have a very difficult time feeling sorry for your self,, or to a childrens hospital.. then if YOU truly have a little CHRIST in your heart ,the start caring about the hundreds who are suffeing a 100 times more than you,the pain of hunger ,the lack of cloth ,the young naked or half naked child thats begging for some one to notice him,,as EVERONE he sees walks by like he invisable....then if you do try to make a differance you will forget your own pain and have compasion for those suffering more,,,And as you truly care for those ,then some one will love you for your heart ,not your picture,,,looks fade ! true beauty is in the heart ,,, and when you return from your travel ,you ,your life your atitude will be effected for the rest of your life,,then IF you have CHRIST in your heart ,,then many will love the real you:angel: Post Reply