Author	Thread: Giving in to the hate
Admin	Giving in to the hate Posted : 2 Jan, 2009 12:49 AM This is mostly to others who have been cheated on: How do you not give in to the hate? It's so very tempting. Post Reply
cranston View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 2 Jan, 2009 01:35 PM pray and ask the Lord to fill your heart with heavenly love: you must forgive so that the Lord can forgive you. Pray and ask to remove any and all stem of bitterness in your heart. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 10 Jan, 2009 09:53 PM Sanctified: That might very well be the best question I've seen on this site. I won't pretend to have the cure all answer, and I've struggled with this too. Giving it to God (which is the cure all answer) is the only way to do it. The really hard part is getting to that point where you can. For whatever reason the hate is there, you won't be able to let it go by yourself. What I've always done is take the time to pray, asking God to take it from you, then take a few minutes to pray for that person. Don't pray out of malice, like "God, help this person to change their ways", but pray that God will bless them. It sounds strange, and it will feel strange, but it will make you a stronger person. And, really, isn't that why God let's us be tested like this in the first place? Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 11 Jan, 2009 06:05 PM Sometimes hate can be very alluring ~ difficult to resist. But just as in every other spiritual attack the enemy may send your way, resistance is so vital. There are many Scriptures which tell us how to resist our enemy ~ don't hesitate to use them as weapons of warfare ~ to me spoken is best (there is much power in our words). Additionally ~ when things just seem to powerful for you to overcome alone ~ iot can be of great benefit to reach out to someone who you know to be a strong 'Prayer Warrior'. Being completely transparent about your situation. Do you know of anyone like this in your church perhaps? Hate can be such a powerful stronghold ~ digging in roots that can destroy the person in whom it thrives. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 14 Jan, 2009 04:17 PM Now that I've calmed down, I've come to realize something vital to this matter: forgiveness. While past hurts may have been forgiven, what needs to be included in that is any continued offense. As such, forgiveness is almost a daily choice. Post Reply
justgettingby View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 16 Jan, 2009 12:38 PM It is not easy, I know the feel all to well. I have found that by filling myself w/ scripture, worship music, reading devtionals, talking to friends, helps me overcome those emotions/feelings. My stb ex did everything and anything a person could do to destoy me (lost my house, car, her, even watching my son grow up, and also she has primary custody of my youngest daughter, tried to get me arrested, threatened me, talk bad about me, etc) but the more I realized she was lost the more I felt bad for her. Someone had to pray for her and even though we are divorceing and she has a bf and I belive is engaged, God wants me to still prayer for her soul and show Christ's love to her. YES it is hard, YES I fall short in that sometimes. But all I can do is ask God for the strength to get through. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 18 Jan, 2009 11:03 AM Good question, I wasn't even cheated on and I feel hate toward my x fiancee. Every time you think your past it, something triggers those feelings of hate and your back to square one. My only thought is to seek the Lord and he will get you through it. Post Reply
evona View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 19 Jan, 2009 06:59 PM I ask God right now to show this soul a way to find deliverance and freedom from this thought that he will give in to this hatred that is a lie from the enemy Holy Spirit you who indwell in this dear brother fill Him with the wisdom he needs to rest in God's presence and seek His will a wounded spirit and heart is needing healing Lord Jesus only you can do that many turned their backs on Jesus and He said,"Love your enemies and do good to those who use you. pray for those enemies!(this is in matthew5:43-48 God will do it He will comfort you brother! trust Him your sister in Jesus barbara ann Post Reply
TerrTerr View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 25 Jan, 2009 04:52 AM Always remember who you are. We are all works in progress. If you have reached a time of giving in, this is a good time to "Be still and learn..." Open your heart to what is good, know that you will have to own your behavior, tell yourself that you need to change. We can't change the past. We can change our thoughts and reactions. Sitting still long enough to focus on who you are and how you would like to communicate your feelings. Ask yourself what do you believe in? Put your faith in to action. God wants us to be balanced inside and out. Let the good out - this is how we change the future! Help change the future for others by setting the Godly example. I pray this will help... Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 10 Feb, 2009 10:37 AM Always remember, to forgive others is not meant so much for the benfit of the other person. But instead, it is for our benefit emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. It reduces our stress and prevents all kinds of health problems that attack our bodies due to sins we have not forgiven... ....Give us our daily bread. And FORGIVE us our debts, as WE FORGIVE our debtors (those who have sinned against us. If you forgive others who hurt or sin agianst you, God will forgive you for your sins and hurt you have caused HIM... Matthew chapter 6... Post Reply
Juvie View Profile History	Giving in to the hate Posted : 28 Feb, 2009 09:28 PM *************** Jubilee I shall not remember this offense in the world to come, So I will put it out of my mind in the here and now. Every one of my tears is destined to be wiped away, And I shall not be able to recall the former day. So why should I waste the present in rehearsing your crime? Indeed, I think instead I should rather redeem the time, For He said He will not forgive the one who'll not forgive. That one, devoid of understanding, knows not how to live; And as faith, if it has not works, is dead ~ being alone, An atonement denying forgiveness does not atone! In refusing others what we think we have received, We testify against ourselves ~ we've truly not believed! The richest depths of grace are found within; beyond the veil! Righteousness, peace, and joy abide where love will never fail, Free entry is provided by the blood Christ shed for sin, So, cast aside that which besets ~ have faith and enter in! October 21, 2008 1:20 a.m. cst By Juvie ************** Blessings! :0) Juvie Post Reply