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Who's the Boss
Posted : 16 Jul, 2011 01:00 PM

I recently broke a friendship off with a Retired Marine.

We met online Christian site and then Once in person.



When I learned he was an Unbeliever I still tried to

be friends to witness to him on phone.

It broke my heart because he wanted to move forward but I could not see any real future in him as a mate.



Why fall inlove with the wrong type?



We were only Platonic friends we only met inperson Once.



I do not want to be Unequal Yoked.



Do you think a Unequally yoked couple marry and get along? Just curious!

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Posted : 16 Jul, 2011 01:03 PM

He had a very controlling spirit due to his background

and serving in the Marines for 17yrs.

Actually, He always had to be Boss.

I feel any man should be able to comprise for some

lady he wants to spend his life with.:excited:



I never said I wanted to be BOSS.

How many men would want the Lady to be Boss?:excited:

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Posted : 16 Jul, 2011 06:46 PM

I truly think a Christian needs to marry a Christian and God needs to be in the center!

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Posted : 17 Jul, 2011 11:05 PM

I am sorry for the pain that you are feeling. You made the right dicision, even though it was a hard choice for you to make.



GODS ways are not our ways, and our ways are not GODS ways. GOD says not to be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14) and what GOD says does not always make sence to us, but that does not mean what GOD says is not for our own good.



Perhaps why GOD tells us not to be unequally yoked can be understood if we understand what yoked is (no it has nothing to do with having an egg thrown at you) Ayoke is the device that connects two objects together. The purpose of a yoke is to harness energy. So if you are a farmer and you need to plow a field you will hook your mule up to the plow. But sometimes the burden (in this case the plow) is to heavy for one mule to pull, so you go get a yoke and hitch both of the mules together. Then both mules will split the burden (of the plow). That is how to yoke things together. However you do not want to yoke a mule that is 6 foot tall with a mule that is 4 foot tall, because then the mules will not be pulling in harmony and your plow may not move.



So when GOD says not to be unequally yoked he wants the husband and wife to be able to work together. (and a christian and a non christian will not pull in the same direction because they have diffrent goals)



Its a seperate issue but you may be wondering why it was hard for the two of you to be "just friends" in my experence its sometimes hard to have a relationship "be demoted"



I just dont want you to think that no-one cares (Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2) :party:

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Posted : 18 Jul, 2011 02:57 AM

Thank you so much for your responses.

What you are saying here, is so true.

I appreciate you writing to at least show your

concern.

Thanks so much.

:angel:

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Posted : 18 Jul, 2011 11:42 AM

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Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 11:41 PM

Ya, the boss thing is a red flag. Men are leaders in their relationships with women, if you are talking about the boy-girl relationship thing...that however is not a boss thing, it is a leadership by example thing



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Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 10:45 AM

It was a Man, Women friendship.

Christ is Head, then Man, then woman for a Christian.

When men are Not Saved, they do not

know how to be a Real spouse.

God did not say marry and unbeliever. I had to let

it go.



Another one bites the dust. :rolleyes:

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Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 02:12 PM

Angel,

The head of the woman is the man in marriage, not relationships outside of marriage, like dating.



Men have to be the leader in relationships, a leader by example, however men are not the Boss of you, as an unmarried lady who loves the Lord Jesus Christ.



People who love you want "an Interdependent relationship" with you, that is they want of you honesty, consistency, mutuality....and they want you to get from THEM honesty, consistency, mutuality.



You are what you attract, Angel.

God bless,

michael

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Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 04:20 PM

You are what you attract, Angel.





That is false statement.



On these date site, I may be approached and contact

by anyone, like you even.

Photo's usually attract Most men. :laugh:

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Posted : 23 Jul, 2011 04:50 AM

Photos may attract most men, I agree. Perhaps you would agree that physical attraction doesn't last forever... That men who are attracted to physical beauty sooner or later are taking peeks at other choices.



I am sure also, that the reason only a few other folks on here have made any comments with regard to our ongoing conversation is that its most likely the most exciting entertainment they have seen on CDFF since joining up.



How is that "review" process going?



Bless,

michael

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