Ok so I know this is a question some people ask, hmm why is it so bad, is it really a sin? What if we are going to get married? Etc etc.
My whole life from the age I was sixteen I got raped, to the age of 26 sex was a part of my life. It was like eating, sleeping, etc.
It was a way to get attention from a man. Because my dad, and brother were lacking in it. It was a way to feel better about myself, to get away from my problems.
I learned how to have sex without loving a person. Without being intimate. I became addicted to it. Every time I would give myself away to these guys, for a couple hours, days, months, however long it lasted. Usually only a couple days, before the guy was ready to move on. And then I was crushed, and needing my next fix. I tried to stop so many times.
Well this past month. Something incredible happened. I dated a guy for a month, he opened me up, and I fully trusted him like I never had before with any guy. We had the most intimate intense experiences. I fell hard for him. I thought this must really be love. I want to marry him. He wasn't a christian. My church warned me. I would have left my church, and quite possible left God for this man.
I thought this has to be right, this man is nice, doesn't abuse me, cares, and we have this wonderful intimate sexual relationship.
WRONG.
The dude was using me. And realized I was falling hard for him, he didn't have the balls to break up with me. He kept giving me hints, even trying to hook me up with one of his christian friends.
Finally I broke up with him. Went back to church. Broke down to God, my church, my friends, forgave, prayed, everything.
Well this guy wouldn't stop trying to talk to me. He wants to remain friends. I have no idea why. Everytime I get a text or call from him, I get upset, and cry.
He opened something in me that no man has ever touched before, and then pushed me away. I told him he raped my heart and my soul. That it was not his to take.
Yes it takes two. But when we met he knew I was vunerable. He told me straight up he wasn't looking for a relationship.
I feel used. I told him today, I want nothign to do with you. I forgive you. I wish you the best in life. But get out of my life.
So what is my point? My point is, your 10 sec to 4 hour. lol however long it takes satisfaction is not worth the pain you will go through when yall break up. And if your having premarital sex, your most likely going to break up.
So think before you do anything. And don't let anyone pressure you into this. Especially the virgins out there. You hold on to that beautiful piece of you. God will reward you I promise you.
To the women that haven't been through this kind of heart break. Be happy. Your single, yes thats lonely. But its worse when you give your body and heart away to a man, only to have him use it for a while, then give it back to you, and move on to another woman.
Another reason not to date a non christian person.
Well have a great day, thank you for letting me rant.
Liar liar pants on fire. So I just seem to have come to my senses. I was talking to some of my christian friends, and they helped me put things in perspective with the word. So then I was talking to the friends with benefits guy, and I told him, I really can't do this, because I know I will fall in love with you, and you just want me for sex. He is a christian man. Well he told me then lets not do this. We can just be friends, or nothing, he doesn't want to hurt me, or be the reason I fail.
So then I prayed and watched some christian tv and then read in the bible about healings and then found this:
1 John 3 15-17
Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever.
Totally spoke to me. I contacted my mentor, and we have an understanding now. I know what I have to do now. It's going to be very hard, but if I can fight and push past it. I will be blessed with this war being less and less, and me overcoming it.
lol dream, I knew you would comment on my thread. Hugs to you. I don't like this fight, but I am better equipped now to fight it. And I am really surprised my mentor doesn't just slap me one day. lol.
HELLO- mis luv-:rolleyes: that really touched my heart luv- you are 100% right and just for the record- i love peanuts but there are two things thats a must- one (1) they have to be bought by me (marriage) and two (2) i dont eat out of any ones jar but my own (trustworthy) any thing else is fair game between me and my beautiful wife- thank you so much for your post it was a blessing, GOD BLESS YOU:glow:
Hi all let me tell you a story (true) it might give you young ladys out there a little insight to wait on the Lord for His timing is perfect timing.
Back in 1982 I was in the service stationed in Boston Ma. I met this young Lady at the USO Center there when I went to purchase some Boston Celtic Tickets with a Military Discount. She sat there real quiet and look bewilded but manged to squeek out a little hello. While I waited my turn at the front desk, I sat down and spoke with her.
At closer nspection I saw that she had been crying I gave her a tissue and asked if she wanted to talk about it.To my surprise she said sure why not you can't help ,but I need to talk "it" out with someone.
So we moved to the small lounge I made us some coffee, sat down and her incredable tale unfolded, You see about 6 weeks befor our meeting she was at a college party with her friends enjoying herself and acting like single worldly girls do just having fun.
Till a young man slipped a "ruefy"( Date Rape Drug) in her drink she then felt dizzy,lathogic and numb. He took her upstairs along with her Virginity the young man and 4 of his friends took turns with her.
It was all a blurr and thought it was a bad dream till she awaken in some guys bed alone,very sore and sick.Then it all came back to her like a flood. A few weeks later she found herself at her Doctors office and he told her her Virginity was gone and ask for "His" Name. of course she didn't know she asked why.
Her Dr. proceeded to tell her she had contacted HPV (Genital Warts) and He should be checked as well. She was stunded. He suggested a pregnacy Test prior to her being treated so percautions could be taken during the treatment of th HPV.
She tested possitive and was 6 weeks along. Thats when I meet her she had only learned ofthe pregnacy that afternoon.
Her first thought was abortion, not tell mom & Dad and pretend like it never happened, but she loved babys and could not come to terms to destroying the life now in her.
Well, I never bought those tickets I walked her home had a talk with her mom & dad after there daughter explained everything. Mom went to her to consoul her dad was discusssed and left for a walk.
We ended up datting and I never made love to her through the entire pregnacy,I was her birthing partner, went to Dr. appointments for the prenacy & the HPV Treatments as well.I treated her like royalty all the through it.The little Girl was Born and when the nurse brought her to thr room. Her mom& Dad were there.The infant was beautiful and Perfect God's creation.
I took her dad out to the hall way while he held his granddaughter spoke with him a while. When we returned I droped to one knee and propsed to herright ther and then.
Latter we were married I adopted the infant since she had no father.
We will be married 28 years come August she has given me 2 more daughters and a sonsince that night,It took almost 3 yrs. of couseling,hours of prayer and a mirid of support from friends and family not mention Gods Love & Guidence to get her through that night many yrs. past.
But everynight I get on my knees and thank the Lord for allowing his angel to fly low to the ground and allowing me to catch her 28 yrs ago. So Ladts do not fret Seek God first and all other things will be given to you. I pray that this story touch a person and opens her heart to give the Love of God a chance.
In regaurds tomy last story It is all true However I wrote it in (My Voice) as my friend told me not to use his name. I am NOT the Husband to the Lady I speak of I was the Best Man at Their Wedding. Thank You all & God Bless
