Author	Thread: Always alone
Admin	Always alone Posted : 3 Mar, 2011 07:14 PM It is so painful for God to give you a desire for something you will never be able to achieve. It is not that I have never met any good women, it is that I do not understand how to start a relationship. I have been given a lot of advice, much of it conflicting, but I don�t understand the advice. My favorite is what gets passed off as God�s way of finding a wife. The saying is that God will bring you a wife, so don�t worry about it. But, He�s not just going to plop a wife in your lap, so you have to be �proactive� and ask women out. So, basically what it comes down to is this: You beat your head against the wall asking the wrong women out over and over again, being disappointed and breaking your heart over and over again until finally God feels sorry for you and brings you a wife. There is nothing right or wrong that anyone does, it�s all just �up to God� when he feels like bringing her around. I will never understand what it takes, so I will always be alone. Proverbs 15:13 (NASB) 13 A joyful heart makes a cheerful face, But when the heart is sad, the spirit is broken. James 2:15-17 (NASB) 15 If a brother or sister is without clothing and in need of daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, "Go in peace, be warmed and be filled," and yet you do not give them what is necessary for their body, what use is that? 17 Even so faith, if it has no works, is dead, being by itself. Post Reply
View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 13 Mar, 2011 08:23 PM I'm going to share a little bit of my life, please take . Been stuck in this life for the past few years, u can say plain life with no progress in all aspects of my life, I think I shared my frustration in the forum sometime last year. Don't know whether it's a good or bad thing but I didn't really have trials and stuff. The good thing bout trials is, we keep looking for God, and we hang unto Him always for sure. Things were just the same in my life, nothing really changed and honestly I was bored. I was ready for some progressions but seemed that I was stuck in the moment and couldn't do anything about it! Been applying here and there, even to be a missionary to Iraq, going on vacations, applying for different jobs and I still felt empty. As u can guess, yeah I was still single, and that was frustrating on having no partner to share about things. And then, at the end of December 2010, I decided that I needed to change and new year has always been the perfect time to start a new beginning, the old method of being grumpy, complained and kept asking God that 5W+1H, didn't give me the results I wanted. So January 1st of 2011, I told myself that this year 2011 is a good year, only good things would happen to my life this year 2011, this is the year where all my dreams come true. At first, it seemed silly and really really not encouraging. I felt like I lied to myself and somehow being a hypocrite since I kept complaining and I knew what I saw was far from good things, not to mention my dreams come true not (yet by that time). But I struggled and encouraged myself and kept telling myself that. I was so stuck even sometime last year when I walked the bridge, a thought popped in my head of "How does it feel to jump off this bridge?" Wow I was so shocked of that thought and ashamed at the same time! Imagine a daughter of King of all kings that should enjoy this life and all things, yet that kind of thought was there on my mind! And ya know what, for years of prayers, and kept calling God's name, I finally can see that it's the end of the tunnel, not another light from the next train coming. I finally got a job offering, they doubled salary and better benefits, and I think my prince is on his way to meet me lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 14 Mar, 2011 06:14 AM Robert Benchley once said, "The surest way to make a monkey of a man is to quote him." Therefore,"Drawing on my fine command of the English language, (I'll say) nothing."-Robert Benchley Post Reply
View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 14 Mar, 2011 06:51 AM Oh my goodness I didn't even realize that my post was cut in the middle! What I'm trying to say is, I've tried the new method of thinking that this year is a good year and the new method is working, that's all :glow: *bear hug* Post Reply
oldglory1999 View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 15 Mar, 2011 12:18 PM Been there and still there...for me, i just don't get i personally...what more do you have to do? Part of me cares, but the other part really doesn't anymore?? Personally i started thinking that love is not guaranteed. I've even wondered more if women still like the "gentlemen" trait?? I'm so confused on this subject...i don't know what to think anymore...I have prayed constantly that something may happened, but i've asked 3 different women out and rejected was always there....apparently single nowadays is the only way to go! Post Reply
oldglory1999 View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 15 Mar, 2011 01:00 PM Also...what really is "annoying" is that, at least for me, most everyone you know is either married or has a family...i turned 30 last year. I thought being single when your in your teens and twenties was hard, but this is ridiculous-ill be honest, i just figured that "singlehood" was meant for me...almost to the point where i'm believing it... I just don't know anymore.... Post Reply
DeeODoubleD View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 15 Mar, 2011 06:50 PM Brother in the OP, I feel your pain. I've felt what you're feeling and am frustrated by it now; Though, it will pass. I learned a very valuable lesson recently that someone already alluded to in a reply. Sometimes God needs us single and alone to do His will. If you are dedicated to another person you won't be able to reach others in the same way. Let me explain... I met a lady while purchasing a cell phone a few months ago that was an old acquaintance. Turned out I babysat her daughter years ago and also knew her through another close friend. Well I found her on facebook and we text on our phones, etc. from time to time. But it was never about dating or anything, although if I were seeing someone I probably wouldn't have pursued her, who knows. She really likes this guy and I finally got her to open up about it and this guy just lost his aunt (who raised him) to cancer. I helped her as I've been through the same thing as to how to be there for him. Now, if God had already put me with a sweet lady of His, then I most likely wouldn't have had time and would not have been talking to this lady who really needed a friend and Christian advice on a serious matter. She was obviously not getting it from anyone else and she was moved to tears. Times like this makes it worth it to know that God is in control and that if I need to be single a while longer to help others come closer to Him then that's nothing compared to the sacrifice He made for me. God bless and keep your head up! Post Reply
oldglory1999 View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 16 Mar, 2011 12:54 PM Thanks...but no matter what...nothing seems to help...i do pray a lot, but i'm not happy single, that's all there is to it. But, if this how my life is...i'll deal with it to the best of my ability. I'm just trying to understand why is it so """"" hard to find one thing in your life that when everything else is going great. Post Reply
View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 16 Mar, 2011 09:59 PM I hear ya, and I'm praying for you. ;) Post Reply
simplyme_jaz View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 16 Mar, 2011 11:24 PM Im too can relate of feeling alone always.Its hard when i see my few friends of mine,that already found their partner in life and have their own family too. And then people asking me "Why still single"?then you just dont know how you will answer them,all im telling them is i'll just lift it all up to God! Theres a lot of pressure for women to finally settle down,because we have our own clock that keep on ticking.That we need/must bear a child before for us to get menopause...By joining here last month,i know God leads me here for me to realized,he actually telling me that " hey child,not only you praying and longing for partner in life"!because sometimes i feel,like im the only one feeling that. I know he wants me to be still and really seek him first before and above all other things.To strive to please him in my daily life.JESUS already told us the secret to true fulfillment in{ matt 6:33}He knew us before he formed us and had all our days prepared.He didnt placed us here to languish or suffer in sadness.YES,we heard this a hundreds times before.In my case , i kn0w JESUS should be my first LOVE,i should obey and do his will. I just need to hang on and continue to trust his promises... If his will for me to be single all my LIFE,i know he will not leave me,he will prepare me emotionally,mentally,physically and spiritually to accept this. And he will fill the emptiness in my heart,whenever and everytime i feel alone....And now our good LORD knocking on my heart since midnight here,philippines time after i saw and read this post about feeling of always alone.His telling me to include cobbler and oldglory1999 in my prayers starting this morning.ITS TRUE that fellowship to one another is very important,for all we know "that no man is an island."! may our Good LORD continue to embrace us with his never ending LOVE:hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts: Praise God! Post Reply
View Profile History	Always alone Posted : 17 Mar, 2011 05:59 AM God bless you, simplyme! You have such a beautiful heart...and it doesn't take a spiritually sensitive person to see it either... cuz you're so full of the Lord. :) I love ya! Post Reply

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