Author	Thread: My divorce
Admin	My divorce Posted : 16 Nov, 2010 08:59 AM I never dreamed I would ever be divorced. I kept my virginity until I was 36 years old until I got married. God has always been first in my life. I met her in Seminary where we were both studying for ministry so I thought I was safe. A little over a year ago, I found out she had been lying to me about where she was going at night and the weekends. There was not night job or a friend in Canada whom she was visiting. I can't tell you how badly I was crushed. I had to go to work each day knowing that my wife was with someone else. I balled my eyes out every day crying out to God for help. And even though I had a right to divorce her (Matt 5:32; I Cor 7:15), I chose to stick it out. For months, I lived in the deepest depression I could ever imagine. I begged God to save her. That's still my biggest pain. Now it's not that she doesn't love me, but that she doesn't love God. But as God saved my brother the night before he unexpectedly died, I know God can save her. I thank God for making a little sense of the situation by the help I was able to provide some of the people on this site, by His marvelous grace. But it does not take away the lonliness that is often present. In this situation, it would have been better to have not loved than to loved then lost. Post Reply
View Profile History	My divorce Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 05:17 AM Sorry lovesoflove2give, I understand your pain believe me and had somewhat of a similar situation. It's been 5 years since my divorce. I kept trying to figure out why things happened the way they did?? Why he did what he did?? Let me tell you that I've concluded that I will just never figure it out?? I just have come to finally understand to put it behind me as it's my past and concentrate on MY future. We need to learn from it and move on. I know it's easier said that done but it has to be done, so we can heal!! Good Luck Brother and I pray God comforts you, as He has me!! Post Reply
View Profile History	My divorce Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 08:34 PM I'm sorry about your pain~I understand it a lot~ and know that God will mature us through it all. One of my favorite scriptures is "Phil. 3:10~That I might know Him in the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His suffering" That, my friend is a place to hide during the the dark night of your soul. May you find his blanket of comfort in the secret place. Post Reply
View Profile History	My divorce Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 11:43 PM Thanks guys for taking the time and courage to voice your opinions. We could all learn a thing or two. Since i refused to sign the papers (God hates divorce) my ex left our home to go his separate way. In Malaysia if you live separately for 2 years the marriage is considered null and void automatically. But he sent the court petition even before 6 months had passed as he had already found someone new. He had also been unfaithful in .. the past. I tried to live my life the way a Christian wife should be,(submissive, respect him etc..) never argued with him, voiced issues in a very diplomatic manner, always cooked his favourites, made sure he came back to a warm family atmosphere, made sure i spoke about problems or issues about children only when he had eaten or had a drink and was relaxed, our sexual rela`p was good.... When he left that Feb morning,(12 yrs ago) his parting words were "you are a good woman but I cannot live under the same roof as you". I know the reason he left. The Bible says light and darkness cannot dwell together. When we were married, I was a new Christian and there was no Christian counsellor to advice me about the dangers of being unequally yoked. I did want to break off the marriage but my ex said we could work things out. (He was an atheist then). When my kids were younger he allowed us to go to church and even sent the kids to Sunday school!) but as my faith began to grow, I used to fast and pray, for him, the ugly anti-Christ spirit began to show in him, whereby there was a confict in our spirit. He began to listen to his mom who is a Hindu. The invaluable lesson to be learnt here is (if you are unmarried) if you are a commited Christian, living by God`s word, you cannot get married to someone who is not converted. Wow...such a long story! Hope you guys are not bored:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	My divorce Posted : 3 Dec, 2010 01:57 AM Not bored at all! Thanks for sharing! Post Reply

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