Author	Thread: Still think about her
Samsonoxide View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 12:01 PM It's been a few months since my ex told me i wasn't for her. ofcourse i was torn apart because i really thought she was the one for me. but i realize that she wasn't. even though i realize logically that she isn't for me and we are better off going our separate ways, i still think about her from time to time and know i still have strong feelings for her. i dream about her more than any past girl in my life also. i know this is a part of me working through letting go, kinda like a grief process. but everytime i hear about her or think about her or someone brings her up in a conversation, those feelings of frustration and depression comes back like not a second went by. i really do want to move on, and i know time and love from God is the best way to heal through this process and move on. just wondering if anyone had any pointers to help get through this a little easier. i seem to be perfectly fine until i dream about her or it is brought up in a conversation. Post Reply
View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 12:08 PM No wisdom here. I just wanted to send hugs and tell you I will pray. Aren't you glad it's called our "walk" with Christ and not a "mad dash?" Post Reply
View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 12:40 PM RidleySeaTurtle, @ last we meet and I can congratulate you on having the coolest screenname ever :laugh::Mug: Post Reply
View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 02:09 PM You honor me, my brother. I went to college in Melbourne, Florida. Manatees wintered in the Indian River, and sea turtles (but not Ridleys) hit the sand to lay eggs. While I never saw a live turtle, there were many of us from college who used to "patrol" the beaches watching for nest vandalism or violation. When I turned the ripe old age of 40, I decided to get a small tattoo on my outside left ankle. Known for being a bit "old fashioned", I thought it would be fun to do something...different! So, I chose to get a Ridley Sea Turtle tattoo as a salute to our Father's Creation. (Ridley Sea Turtles are the smallest of the sea turtles. They became endangered in the 1970's.) I think that the Lord has given aquatic creatures an important job in the environment. Have you ever noticed whenever there are threats to the environment, our water critters suffer first? When they suffer, it is like an alarm. Our Lord has considered everything. Post Reply
View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 07:25 PM For me getting over some one that really crushed me when they left was reading up on psychology. I was looking for the site I was at, but can't find it. Just the same though, one good thing I learned was it's not her I missed so much as what she symbolizes. I'd say be more aware of separating what was real about her and what was just a symbol. Hope that helps or at least makes sense. Yeah it takes time, but how much time it takes depends on how wisely you use it, which brings me to my next piece of advice, make sure you get serious about getting over it. You really can do it and you'll be much better. You will find some one better than her. Post Reply
View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 08:02 PM Remembered the website: 2knowmyself. com Post Reply
View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 08:35 PM Sorry your are hurting~there is no fast exit from this valley of hurt. I went through two hurtful divorces and thought I would not make it to the next day many times and then a good friend would encourage me, pray for me and just sit with me, at times. It helps to talk to a friend, pastor, counselor etc. as often as you need to. I learned much about suffering with Christ during those times and feel that I will always walk with a limp from the heartbreak. Brandon said some good things that make sense. The security of having someone in your life is a natural desire that we see in real life, magazines, movies and internet. It seems magnified when you go anywhere and see other couples hugging, , holding hands and all the symbols of love that you long for. The mind is so strong that it comes out a lot in our sleep. I really feel for you and please know that you are not alone. :purpleangel: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 08:57 PM I understand what you are going through, I really do. It's been 8 months since my last relationship ended, and only recently have I been able to even think about the guy without getting upset, depressed, or just plain mad. Now I'm just glad the relationship is over, even though it really hurts...yes, even this much later, it still hurts some. What Brandon said about missing what a person symbolized rather than missing the person was absolutely true in my case. I realized that truth the day he said the relationship wasn't working for him. But it didn't make it hurt any less. Only time and intentionally forcing myself to trust God has helped that. Give it more time, and just remember Jeremiah 29:11. I found such comfort in that verse that I printed it out on nice paper, put it in a picture frame, and put it where I see it first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 25 Dec, 2010 02:32 PM Samsonoxide Yes it will take a while to get past the lass. You will have ups and downs in your process of healing. When ever she enters your mind try to focus on what you didn't like about her and the relationship. I have found this really helps as a lot of we think they are is really what we hope they will become. Oh and I had a little look at your profile and saw the picture of her and you together. Now I know that true beauty comes from within but you definitely could find better. Too much facial hair and white blond hair:ROFL: Post Reply
Samsonoxide View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 10:49 PM thanks everyone for your encouraging words and advice. i can totally relate to missing what she symbolized. the stability, affection, and all the good times we had. i do look at the negatives a lot and try to think logically whenever she pops into my mind that God has someone better for me and she isn't for me. i think the biggest part of the hurt, is the rejection. i know that this is normal to feel rejected, even when people sometimes drift apart or have different goals and are better off in different directions. but i know i'm still hurt by it cause i catch myself being defensive when i'm around women sometimes. like that little wall we put up to let us know we arn't quite ready to be broken down again :P anyways, once again, thanks everyone! Post Reply
View Profile History	Still think about her Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 01:36 PM how sad. l have been in the some situation is very painfull but just put evey thinge in Gods hands be happy that u are goinge on with ur life u wil find sobody who wil love GOD BLESSE U Post Reply

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