Author	Thread: I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married
Admin	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 19 Oct, 2020 07:28 PM But that's further from the truth for me. I'm not happy being single. I'm sad, and getting to someone who loves me would make me even happier. And I know Jesus can make me happy, but do you ever think there's a reason why I'm sad being single? I've tried asking God to take this desire out of my heart. I've cried and pleaded for Him to take it out of me, but every time I do it's like the desire in my heart gets stronger. I've asked Him to remove other things from my heart, sinful things, and He did. I'm not going to say that I know for sure that it's His will for me to marry someone, but I don't understand why He won't take this desire from my heart. Maybe it's just me, I don't know, all I know is that I want this even more than I did years ago. The desire has gotten even greater since then. Maybe, if it's His will, He will use the two of us to give Him more glory. Maybe He's going to give me this desire in my heart and He's going to give me and her a big testimony. If that's the case then I hope and pray that He does. Because I get so much joy out of giving my Lord and savior praise and honor. And if He does choose to let me marry then it's not going to be because I do or what she does, it's going to be because of Him. And no, I don't believe she's going to be a sinner, I believe God will place me with a christian woman if He's going to place me with anyone. And I'd rather He did. I wouldn't want to marry someone that I'm not going to stroll over Heaven with. As long as the Lord wants it for me, then I want it. Also, writing all of this has restored my faith. For some reason I don't feel sad anymore, or hurt. Maybe the Lord wanted me to write this here for a reason. I really don't know. Whatever it is then I hope that all of you who happens to read this understands, or at least try to. That's all. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 21 Oct, 2020 09:18 AM As my late mum use to say "who can't hear must feel" I'm thankful to her for the many years of good advice...:-) Post Reply
View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 21 Oct, 2020 06:20 PM Well, good thing I can hear. Post Reply
View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 21 Oct, 2020 06:32 PM But, can you listen? Post Reply
View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 22 Oct, 2020 08:17 PM Yep. But only to what's worth listening to. Post Reply
Quiznos View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 26 Oct, 2020 04:13 PM Morgan, where have you been. Do not run away this time, even when people write what you do not like. Post Reply
View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 26 Oct, 2020 06:42 PM Hi Morgan. Hope you're in good health bro. Thanks for pouring out some of the agony flustering within your heart. It seems it's been on your mind for some time. I believe your desire is warranted. However, I would caution against idealizing a relationship. For instance, you mentioned you "don't believe she's going to be a sinner." I respectfully disagree since all Christians are big sinners. I won't pry or make any judgements on you. We never got to choose the cards we are dealt. I simply think this discontent you are feeling at the moment is deeper. Living jobless with abusive parents and being constantly compared to others around you can certainly be draining. God did not design men to live that way. The need to be free from your circumstances and the inner critic may have been transferred to your strong desire for a marriage. What a testimony you would have if you devised a plan to step-by-step to leave your circumstances behind and start a life on your two feet solely by the glory of God. What a testimony you would have when you healed from your trauma and are standing on your two feet with caring friends, colleagues, and a future wife. Kind regards Morgan. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 27 Oct, 2020 05:55 AM What uplifting encouraging words to him. JJ Post Reply
View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 27 Oct, 2020 04:54 PM I agree with Dave. It's important that you learn to be happy single. If you don't, you are very likely to make a poor choice of a wife, due to desperation. Then, you'll be even unhappier still. Also, expecting your wife to make you happy is a huge burden that is grossly unfair. No one can make you happy. No one is perfect. Everyone sins. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 29 Oct, 2020 03:33 AM The reality is people tend to gravitate towards those who are happy with their lot. Putting your fingers in your ears and going la la la doesn't change that fact ...:-) Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	I've been told so many times that if I'm not happy being single that I won't be happy being married Posted : 29 Oct, 2020 03:35 AM You can't keep doing the same thing and expect a different result...:-) Post Reply

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