Author	Thread: To the pure
Admin	To the pure Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 07:44 AM Ok I'm going to apologize in advance if I offend anyone with this post. Just need some advice on some things. If you don't feel comfy posting it in here, message me. Ok this question is for the virgins, and to the pure, living a pure lifestyle. How do you do it? I am getting better, but still struggle with thoughts. I am purposely not dating right now. I know if I was it would be a lot harder. So message me with advice, or tips. Thanks. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 10:05 AM I'm going to send you a message. I want to say some things girl-to-girl, and don't want it here for the whole world to see! Post Reply
View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 11:33 AM Thank you. I am starting to feel better about things, as I talked to some people, and got some scriptures. Post Reply
View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 12 Apr, 2011 05:02 AM So God ends up answering my question, in the form of a book. I found it, and started reading it yesterday. It is called, 'Every young womens battle". It's about purity. Sopposidly they have different books, one for men, one for women, and then one for young men, and one for young women. Its cool. :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 12 Apr, 2011 07:37 PM Staying close, very close to Jesus, and staying busy, very busy. Post Reply
missmelanie View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 12 Apr, 2011 08:57 PM You know it is difficult at first, but it's a combination of things that help me. Keeping away from men who think its socially acceptable to have sex outside of marriage, the next is knowing the guilt/shame that directly follows the act, and finally knowing your self worth and knowing no man has payed your price except the one you marry!. Post Reply
View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 06:03 AM thanks miss. I like how you put that. Post Reply
missmelanie View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 01:09 PM No problem sis! :) Post Reply
View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 16 Apr, 2011 05:51 AM Well, the first thing that helps is not being able to get any dates, can�t be tempted if nothing is around to temp you. On a more serious note, setting up some boundaries helps. Never be alone with someone of the opposite sex. That doesn�t mean that you have to double date or be chaperoned, it just means that you should always be in a position where you can be easily seen or discovered. Limit you physical contact to that which does not temp you. Don�t try to see how far you can push it, just keep it on the mildly affectionate side. As missmelanie stated, keep away from those who think it�s acceptable to have sex outside of marriage. Last, and the most important, you need to determine ahead of time that sex before marriage is not a suggestion, but a command, and there is no �special circumstance� that will allow you to change your mind. If you have even the slightly hint of the possibility that you are willing to have sex before marriage, you can guarantee that Satan will tempt you. Post Reply
Jewels133 View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 17 Apr, 2011 12:50 AM For me, I had been with one person before I was saved, and then I made a vow when I became Christian to do my best to live my life according to His ways. I pretty much made big mess of my life without Him...so I decided to try doing things His way. I vowed to save myself for marriage. It hasn't been easy, and I'm not perfect...I may not do everything right, but in this one area, I haven't given in. I made a vow to myself and to God, that I refuse to break. Once you make a similar vow to yourself...and remove temptations, it get easier. 1.Don't allow yourself to be alone with men, or to flirt with men. 2.When talking to men, see them first and foremost, as your brothers in Christ, and Holy children of God. 3.Do not allow yourself to be around people who have loose morals. 4. Don't watch or read too much romance. It only makes you want that kind of thing even more. 5.Renew your mind. Replace old thoughts with NEW cleaner thoughts. How? Write down your thoughts about men/relationships/sex etc. on paper...leave room under. Then go through the Bible and write down scriptures that speak against those thoughts. Those scriptures are your new thoughts to mediate on. Keep the pages in your Bible or some where you will see them a lot. Say those scriptures to yourself whenever you feel temptations or negative thoughts. Eventually you're mind will go to these scriptures first, instead of your old thought patterns. This is what it means to renew the mind and take each thought captive. (# 5 works for all kinds of negative thought patterns.) The following is a portion of a blog I wrote once on the subject of purity... Men and women both struggle with sexual purity, because they are so desperate to fill that lonely aching void in their hearts. What they don�t realize is that sex is such as spiritual experience they are giving away little bits of their spirit each time they sleep with a partner. So there are a millions of people walking around with parts of their spirits missing, and an ever growing ache inside them. The morning after they feel dirty, and guilty. They get that deep pit- of- your- stomach feeling of emptiness, and still have that aching void in their heart, and it hurts so much they go out again the next night and try to do it all again, in hopes of numbing the pain. Some fill that void with addictions like drugs and alcohol, others with porn or sex, or often combination of the three. These unbelievers will never find true happiness, peace or love, because they are all looking for love in the wrong place. They are looking to people to fill a need that is really a spiritual need for God in their lives. Deep at the core of our being we are all relational creatures. We were created and designed that way so that we could have a deep, mutually loving relationship with Jesus. We all have that empty void in us because it�s the part of us that is meant to be filled with the love of Christ. The people who accept Jesus, will have that void filled with an awesome sense of peace, joy and love. Some won�t because Jesus has been mis-represented by people who don�t know Him. They believe the lie that God is distant and angry or non-existent. That�s just not true! God created and designed everyone to love them, and for them to have a relationship with Him. His design was that all people have a deep and loving relationship with Him first, and a spouse second, children third, and family and friends fourth. We all crave deep and lasting, loving relationships with each other all our lives, but many never find it because they lack understanding of what love is. JESUS IS LOVE! If people would come to Him first, and let Him love them the way they dreamed of being loved, they would have peace. People are so blinded by evil and pain of past hurts, they will never have peace without God in their lives. I tried the worlds ways of believing and thinking, and dating before I became a Christian. Why would I want to go back to any of that? I�d rather wait for my Adam, and know that when God finally brings my husband to me, I will have a better, healthier, Christ-centered marriage, because I took the time to learn what real love is. I saved my heart and spirit for him alone. There is no better gift a bride can give her husband. Post Reply
View Profile History	To the pure Posted : 2 May, 2011 10:27 PM Staying close to God, working very hard, and refusing to be tempted has worked for me since I was 13 years old and was born again. Post Reply