I post this with the honest intentions of discerning other
people feelings, thoughts, and concerns in regards to the
above topic. Personally, there should be a difference, a big one, but it's like some things don't change even for "Christians" in search of a love interest.
Please don't misinterpt this as me being a "sore loser", but being misunderstood is probably the #1 problem I have
when communicating on this type of forum, but at the same
time, for any shy, distrusting person, this type of "bond" should liberate you a little more to open up and share, to
introduce the "real" you beneath the mask- be it a professional one or something else.
Why is it so hard for some people to answer a simple
question, like..What does your faith me to you? or
Why do you love Jesus? If you don't know what your
faith means to you, and you aren't sure if you love Jesus, I would politely argue that you are not a Christian or your faith is dead. Why is it really so hard to convey something personal that is truly meant to be a powerful and public display of Christ's love for you and your love for Him? Are you ashamed of who you are? Are you ashmamed to proclaim Christ and declare all that HE has done for you?
Who else has suggestions for improving personal communication?
1. Don't be misleading
2. Give people a sincere opporunity to commmunicate and clairfy
3. Be patient if misunderstandings occur..they will!
4. Don't be so quick to write a person off
5. Don't assume you know everything a person
6. Pratice being less judgemental
7. Pursue an open bond of truth and love
I know you can't be 100% of yourself over a computer which limits greatly the depth of a person's intentions, personality, passions, perspective, and things like that, but why be so quick to run away and so impatient in understanding these things? well... you're going to miss out on some beautiful moments of grace even if in the process you get frustrated in discovering the person you desire to know.
Unfortunately, the Christian sites are being taken over by secular people who are tired of the people they meet on other sites. In and of itself, this doesn't sound like a bad thing, but the numbers have increased to the point that it is starting to change these sites into the same as the secular ones.
The words have changed some, lust became chemistry, sex became fun, and many others if you read what they are putting in their profiles. You see more and more references to going out to the bars, and drinking all the time. Wanting someone close because they don't like being alone, etc...
I don't think there is a viable solution. These people have every right to try to better themselves, and if they find a true believer, they probably will. In the meantime we have to be tolerant of them and hold ourselves to a higher standard. I can only control me, but maybe others will see and do the same.
