Author	Thread: What is Love???
Admin	What is Love??? Posted : 9 Nov, 2008 08:53 PM My question is how can you tell your in love? I have never been in love I only had one gf in my life and thought I was in love, but it turned out that all it was, was just my wants of finding love. I don't know how love feels or how to tell if I'm in love. I'm talking to a girl now, I can't help but feel nervous every time we talk. I also get butter flies when I talk about her to my family and friends, but the thing is I have never been able to show how I truly feel about some one in my life. I have always gaurded my heart from pain and showing my emotions since I was young, and then I gaurded it even more when my only gf broke my heart. So how do you tell if your falling in love and how do you know that the person your talking to is truly the on God wants you to be with? Post Reply
View Profile History	What is Love??? Posted : 9 Nov, 2008 11:07 PM Love is a choice. In the western world, we have made it into this mysterious feeling that we get. No, that feeling is called lust and it never lasts. We choose to love because of many things, principles, looks, compatibility, similarities, etc... The chemistry that Christian sites talk about so much is also lust. You can call it anything you want, but if it has to do with a physical attraction or response, it is the lust of the flesh. If you choose to love someone, you will. All the way until you choose to stop. I can and have written a sermon on this subject, so if you think I am making this up, let me know and I can give you plenty of scripture references. Love and peace to all, Leon Post Reply
View Profile History	What is Love??? Posted : 21 Nov, 2008 08:47 AM completely agree...I had the same question til I did what I was suppose to be doing - follow Fathers excample. Bible says that faith without actions is dead and so is love. Our Father GAVE His only Son because He LOVED us. There is no love if there isn't any giving involved. And any relationship ends when one decides to quit giving. That's why, if any of you ladies are reading, find yourself a MAN who is able to make decisions and decides to stick with you no matter what is the situation or how tough life is cause that's when love is needed, not when everything is wonderful. Post Reply
View Profile History	What is Love??? Posted : 29 Jun, 2009 08:14 PM Gamer, I just want to give you a hug. It seems as though you are struggling to force yourself into love, but you are not ready for it. I can't read your mind, but I know a few things about relationships. If you have closed yourself off from love, there is a very specific reason you did so. It is probably linked to some event in your past (parental divorce, abuse, etc.) Maybe you know what it is subconsciously, but have not dealt with it consciously. The only way to get past this block is to figure out what went wrong and develop a new perspective of the event. This is where therapists come in. I don't want to give you the wrong idea, I am not trying to 'therapize' you, nor am I looking for new clients. I know that asking for help can be intimidating, but if you are truely serious about figuring it out, I would suggest that you talk to a really good therapist. When you are ready and available for love, it will find you and smack you like a ton of bricks. Love is not just about finding the right person, but being the right person as well. Post Reply