Author	Thread: The debate of kissing
Admin	The debate of kissing Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 07:21 AM Is it reasonable to think there are guys out there willing to wait until he is at least engaged to kiss? This is something I feel God is laying on my heart and although my friends support me and have even joined me, all I keep hearing is that is it impossible. Any thoughts? Post Reply
wademach1977 View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 11:06 PM If you have standards for someone and the person really loves you, they should be willing to respect those standards. Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 24 Mar, 2011 11:02 AM Personally, i had no problem with waiting over 6 months or maybe almost a year before kissing until the last young lady led me on for almost a year into the relationship before telling me she was scared to be in a serious relationship. She was just using me for someone to hang out with and because of what she did, MY VIEWS ON WAITING TO BE SHOWN AFFECTION HAVE PERMANENTLY CHANGED!!! If a young lady wont show me by her actions that she is seriously interested in me, then im GONE! Please understand, I wanted to be able to wait until being engaged before kissing, but i cant trust young ladies without proof anymore. It's kinda like this...If someone says they have faith but they dont have works to back it up, THEN THEY DONT HAVE FAITH AT ALL...they are deceiving themselves. It's no different with a relationship...If the young lady says she is interested in me then she better be willing to show it by her actions because i dont believe words anymore...IM SORRY BUT IVE JUST BEEN WAY TOO SWEET OF A GUY IN THE PAST AND IT ISNT HAPPENING ANYMORE. If youve ever wasted almost a year getting to know someone who was just leading you on the whole time then im sure you will understand completely...I wish i could wait for the kissing but i cant anymore...It wouldnt have been so bad if it hadnt been for the fact that i only get into a relationship with one young lady at a time and i passed up someone else that seemed interested in me because i was already in a relationship with the young lady who was just using me...I WOULD NEVER BE THIS WAY ABOUT KISSING IF IT WASNT FOR PEOPLE WHO THINK ITS OK TO PLAY GAMES WITH SOMEONE'S HEART! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 24 Mar, 2011 11:40 AM WhereIsMyPrincess, I tried to send you a message, but your age restrictions prevented me from doing so. I just want to ask you this, and I'm asking it out of Christian love and concern: When you DO meet a good Christian girl who seems to be serious about a relationship and is willing to show her affection openly through kissing, what will you do if she breaks up with you? What will you "require" of the next girl you date? Will you insist that she sleep with you to prove that she's serious? If THAT girl breaks up with you, will you insist that the next girl prove her love for you by living with you (as if she were your wife) until you believe that she is serious? My intent is not to criticize your desire for a girl to show you affection, but rather to show you that this could be a slippery slope...once you start "requiring proof" through kissing because of what one girl did to you, where will it stop? I'm sorry you have been hurt. No one deserves to be treated like that; I know, because I went through a very similar situation about a year ago. I have come to realize, though, that every person and every relationship is different. It would be unfair of me to judge other guys by the actions and words of my last boyfriend. Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 24 Mar, 2011 05:50 PM I WOULD NEVER DEMAND THAT SOMEONE SLEEP WITH ME BEFORE MARRIAGE! That would be against what i believe...However, holding hands and kissing is a MUST before marriage...especially after what happened to me. And by the way, it says in the Bible to greet each other with a holy kiss...a holy kiss is like a peck on the cheek...If we are permitted to kiss any other believer on the cheek then we ought to be able to give someone a kiss on the lips if we are in a serious relationship...thats just common sense if you ask me...The last young lady made a big deal out of giving her a peck on the cheek even though we had been seeing each other for about 10 months before putting any pressure on her about it...so you be the judge...who was being unreasonable??? Her or I??? I spent countless hours playing games with her because thats what she liked doing...we went bowling a few times...we also did other things like going 4 wheeling...she took advantage of my kindness and love...the young lady knows that im a decent Christian guy because she keeps asking my sister-in-law if im searching for someone else now...the young lady was 24 years old and was still afraid of being in a serious relationship... FEAR IS WHAT SATAN USES TO TRY TO DESTROY THE BLESSINGS GOD SENDS OUR WAY...BUT EACH OF US HAS THE POWER TO OVERCOME FEAR BY FAITH IN GOD'S WORD...THE CHOICE IS UP TO US... FAITH COMES FROM GOD BUT FEAR COMES FROM SATAN!!! Post Reply
chakal View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 25 Mar, 2011 09:09 AM I don't think kissing is a proof of anything as some people can express their feeling in different way from culture to another...as I'm not American can't judge here:rolleyes: but I think it is better to not be judgemental as if she really love you she will express her feeling in many different way not just by kissing so expect a lot of signs:peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 25 Mar, 2011 10:05 AM Kissing and hand-holding are things that couples should discuss when they are beginning to date seriously. If one side does not want to do either outside of marriage, the other needs to respect that. People are affected differently by both, which is why communication in this area is huge. Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 02:44 AM Impossibel for someone? Ok move on find another. Never change your standards :) Being very pure is awesome Post Reply
Jewels133 View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 15 Apr, 2011 09:24 PM If that is the boundary you set for yourself and any future relationship you have, then you need to find a mate who has those same standards, so that there is no conflict. Any man who really loves and respects you will not pressure you to do more than you are willing. I suppose it would depend on each individual couple. I've heard of some couples who don't kiss until their wedding kiss. Some people might like that idea, but it's not for everyone. Personally, I plan to wait until my wedding night for sex, but I have no problem with a little kissing, just so I know there is some kind of a spark before we get more serious. Physical attraction and chemistry is important to a healthy relationship. Not the most important thing, but it's still on the list. Post Reply