Dictionaries define serial monogamy as a form of monogamy characterized by several successive, short-term marriages over the course of a lifetime.
I never knew there was a trend with this acronym until after my ex enthusiastically divorced me "from the blues".
Blame me folks, but I didn't research her before falling into "the will of God' with her. She's been twice married and divorced before becoming "born again" to meet me in church and employ smooth spiritual "thus says the lord" to lure me. Do I sound too much like a person suffering from victim syndrome? Probably - that's what the serial monogamist make you become after he/she is finished with you.
You are just one of the victims in their "murderous love" escapade.
The SM jumps in out of "love" at the drop of a hat. Oh, how fanatical they sound regarding spiritual matters - in fact, they sound like angels - sanctimonious and always in "God's presence". They erroneously believe God is on their side always, because "God knows my heart" - they whine!!
They have an unending trail of wounded lives who they are quick to demonize - of course, they must have reasons for every of the chains of divorces. Every other party is wrong - except the SM.
If someone has championed divorce: once, twice, thrice and counting - that is a sure sign of SM. Run!!
It is a different thing if it was not the individual who initiated or consummated the divorces - in that case, a victim.
One bad thing is that the SM makes the innocent spouse a fellow SM in the process if care is not taken to kill the trend.
if someone has been married several times, there are serious things going on and should seek counsel and I'm gonna get in trouble for this but should also seek deliverance.
Am I reading it like you are saying you would marry a SM just to show him the "love of God"? - If so, we really need a serious conversation here if not counseling :stop:
Additionally, you seem to be second-guessing yourself on your "deliverance" idea. The whole world needed a Savior to deliver all from the curse of sin, satan, sickness, poverty and all othe effectcs of sin. That's the general view of christianity on salvation.
Now, "deliverance" as championed by so-called "demon busting" fanatics is a controversial notion and subject to heightened scriptural scrutiny if that's what you seem to suggest here.
It will be disingenious to impose a narrow religious view on just about everybody, simply because they have one problem or the other.
Contrary to the uninformed fanatical notions of most deliverance ministers and ministries, without the devil's influence, humanity is capable of generating problems for itself - hence free will/power of choice by intelligent beings.
If you want to debate your idea of "deliverance" I will be glad to participate.
You just provided us with a scriptural instance of SM and how Jesus confronted it. Just as pointed out by ROL1 above, Jesus showed "love" to the Samaritan woman (by logically reasoning with her to change her ways - and be committed to just one man, instead of hopping relationships).
So, yes Sir, I will agree with you that she was a serial monogamist.
River didn't take the bait, so I guess I'll say a little sumtin sumtin.:dancingp:
I can see one of the very crafty ways in which Satan is discrediting God's truth is by using ppl as vessels who are willing to be deceitful, conniving, and dishonest. They do things with what is God given (such as the use of spiritual gifts, which come without repentance) and make a mockery of it by doing crazy things that everybody and they mama can see is wrong and wayyyyy left field. Then ppl say that that particular thing isn't real.
I've seen spiritual deliverance (meaning casting demons out, demons speaking out of ppl, etc) and I've been the benefactor of it as well. So, no amount of argument or debate will be able to take my experience of what I KNOW God can do away from me.
But I will admit that ppl are out there trippin', (false prophets, ppl selling healing cloths, etc...) and all kinds of craziness. They will have much blood on their hands from the ppl they have led astray.
I will also agree that many things that are attributed to demons are of our (ppl's) doing. Some things God tells us we can take off on our, such as malice and anger. Some things are strongholds because ppl have given them so much place in their lives, so that there is a spiritual connection that needs to be broken along with the physcial, willful choice to let it go.
Dang, gotta pick up my kids, but I think thats all I had to say.
Don't make me have to jack you up, River is my girl and I fight.:boxing: Dang, I'm just playin!:laugh:
Food for thought...deliverance isn't a choice, it is ordained by God. We have the power through Jesus name, and Jesus said in John 14 we will do all this by His name. The but is after the Spirit comes, then we can do all things through Christ Who gives us strength.
The second marriage I had I fell victum to a SM who was married three times, had five recorded children (that I knew of) with four women. I didn't know all of this until after we were married (I dated for a solid year without incidence of question until the weekend we were married). We can only be as informed as we search for answers that are provided. How many people do you think are reading these forums compared to the people that are out there being seduced by the lying spirit within these SM?
I was seduced the minute I put something above who God is in my life. That something was the idea of a Christian spouse in my life. I don't need to say more. I hung myself when I fell for the lying words of the SM. Hopefully I won't be fooled like this ever again. Thx for the beautiful warning Boaz, but our ears need to be listening first.
There is some great advice from people in here Boaz for you to absorb.
Getting away from "God speak" for a minute though.
May I suggest that it's understandable that you are in the "anger" phase of your grieving process still.
As I've read your posts, I understand that you got "hoodwinked" by somebody, but I think you might want to adopt a phrase that I learned a long time ago.
"You can't have a con man (woman) without a person willing to be conned."
While this person that you were married to might have been deceitful in their intentions, I think it's important for you to possibly investigate and pray on your not having "discernment" when picking her.
We all have our moments in our pasts where we clearly chose somebody who was not right for us.... and I will go so far as to say that each of us had "red flags" flying in the air (those are the moments when God IS talking to us...) during those relationships that would have made sure we don't end up with the wrong person, but we chose to ignore them because we are more concerned about "romantic wordly love".... NOT the type of love that allows us to choose a partner who is actually "equally yoked" in ways of "value systems".
In your posts, it is sounding as if you are trying to come on here to gain majority consensus as to what is the best way to punish the other person who may or may not be responsible for your hurt. It's understandable of sorts. But may I also suggest that instead, you use this time to better look inside yourself to become more discerning, take this time as a learning experience, and to really sit down and decide what qualities really constitute the right partner.
It sounds to me, based on your assessment of "SM", that you are the type to fall prey to those who suffer from "narcissistic personality disorder". Which you might want to read about.
In the end though..... you will come to find, with enough prayer and healing.... that the person you need to find out most about...... is YOU.
May I also suggest you go and read a book called "Ten Stupid Things That Men Do To Mess Up Their Lives" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.
I also recoomend you pick up a copy of "Bad Girls Of The Bible" by Liz Higgins.
In both books, you will come to find not only what to stay away from in the future.... you will also come to learn a bit about yourself and WHY you are picking the ones who are not right for you.
