Author	Thread: Giving a woman your phone number...?
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 05:16 AM Hi guys, I have been here a short while and already have some interesting tales to tell.. In the few weeks that I have been here I have had two men give me their phone numbers (without me asking).I know this is the virtual world and things work a little differently than IRL, but I am rather traditional in my thinking. I think the man should be the pursuer. Because of the nature of this medium, I will sometimes initiate communication. I prefer to chat via email/IM for a bit before talking on the phone. And even than I don;t do the calling (I obviously do return calls..) In both cases I have thanked the men for offering their numbers to me and have explained why I wouldn;t be making the initial phone call. I have a point here somewhere. lol... I quess what Im asking is, have you done this here or IRL? What are your thoughts on the initial phone contact thing? Shouldn;t men ask for a woman's number? Melissa Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 02:56 PM Since answering the same question in another section, I have given this some thought..... ....How much does a spammer make off your information? 50 cents? A dollar, maybe 2? Hmmmm....... So maybe I should charge 5 dollars for my phone number, 100% refundable in the event of a first date? That should solve the problem, don't ya think? Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 17 Jan, 2011 09:10 AM Wow, 2sp. You were like no help at all. SMH:dunce::laugh: I have had the same thing happen to me many times. Scammers do like to do this because they like to make contact as quickly as possible and make as much money from you as possible. The quicker the better. Some are looking for a quick hook up, so they see online dating as a way to get in touch with women without having to be bothered with going to the club or even leaving their home for that connection. To me, someone who is serious about finding the woman God has for him, will be just as cautious as we are taught to be. Sidenote: I understand those who have the American traditional mindset in believing the man should always make the first move and some quote the scripture, "A man who finds a wife finds a good thing". I believe that this is a statement rather than a command. To me, it reads that a man who has a wife has found a good thing in God's viewpoint, not that men should be out finding a good wife. Just read what Ruth did to get Boaz. I'm just sayin'... In conclusion, :zzzz:, I let guys know that I am not ready for that type of contact and that we can communication through messaging first. A true man of God will respect that and you for it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 17 Jan, 2011 11:33 PM Good reply, Babygirl. :applause: I would add this~when you do make that first call, use *67 so your number is not visible. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 18 Jan, 2011 12:12 AM Sorry, I was thinking so far out of the box, I wasn't even relevant ...lol. SOOOOO..... Here is my answer : If you have a traditional mindset on marriage, like staying home, having babies, being a good Mom and Homemaker then the Man should make initial contact. However if plan on your career as having equal importance, and take the position there is no leader in a marriage, then it doesn't matter who makes initial contact. Like the saying goes...You can't have your cake and eat it to. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 18 Jan, 2011 02:13 PM Did someone say cake ??? Yummy ! Angel Food is my favorite :applause:...Oh sorry...:winksmile:...yall was talkin bout phone #'s & spammers... Hummm...well...ima old fashoined an believe the Gent should iniciate contact...after that...what ever you are comfortable with...ifin its straight out the startin gate...ima not comfortable with it an CDFF usually handles those... I did ask a Gent Ive been communicatin with here for a bit ifin he would like to chat on the phone...His reply...Yup !...Yall know ima Yup kina Gal...:laugh:...I gave him my #...Its All GOOD...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 18 Jan, 2011 06:47 PM Good for you, GJ! :applause: Hope it all goes well. Thought you were kind of scarce these days, but in a good way, eh? :laugh: TS, That sounded pretty harsh and I have to disagree on initial contact by the man first, in every case. Just because I say hi to a guy or like his profile, does not make me a "libber" girl who does not like to be at home with the kids and homemaking life.. It's no different that being at the grocery store, library, church, bookstore, laundry mat or any place else and saying "hi" or initiating conversation. I don't do it often, but some guys feel it's okay and if they don't? That is fine with me and I leave em alone. On first time phone contact? If we both feel up to talking on the phone after some pms and emails, I ask for the guy's number so I can make a safe phone call with *67 and that works out best for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 20 Jan, 2011 08:51 AM my phone number is 911. feel free to call.:ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 21 Jan, 2011 05:38 AM My number is 411-- if Dennis doesn't answer you can call me. twosparrows-- you're worth more than that! You should charge at least 10 Simple remedy to this dilemma--- if he gives you his number and you don't want to call--------- DON'T ! :ROFL:chevy Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 23 Jan, 2011 08:46 PM Melissa,I'm with you on this subject.If The man is to be the spiritual leader in the home,then he can show some leadership and responsibility by asking for the woman's number,to start.Women,if you want a good man let him decide what he is looking for and seek you out.Just because he's interested doesn't mean you have to say yes,you still have some control in this.But at least you know you have a man with courage. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 31 Jan, 2011 12:38 AM Melissa your right a guy should ask a woman if she would like to call him and not just assume she wants to . He should give her the same kind of respect as he would in person for example In person he would ask you to dance, out on a date, or for your phone number so the same has to done here Post Reply