Author	Thread: Dating People from Different Denominations.
Admin	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 02:46 PM How do you guys feel about dating other people from other denominations? I have no problem with most denominations though,except that we all here have different views on the Bible,traditions & beliefs from our churches etc.I am of the Pentecostal denomination,but for some reason,a girl that is a Non-Denominational mostly message me or relpiles to my messages more than a woman who of my Denomination!:rolleyes::laugh: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 03:56 PM In my experience, a lot of "non-denominational" churches are fairly charismatic, and lean more toward Assembly of God or Pentecostal teachings/worship styles. No, not ALL are like that, but most of the people who have contacted me and claim to be non-denominational describe their churches by saying "It's a lot like a --- church." Some people think that we should just do away with denominations, since we are all God's children anyway. I totally see their point...BUT, at the same time, it's nice to know that if I see a Baptist church that is associated with the Southern Baptist convention, I can at least somewhat assume that I would agree with the majority of what is taught there. I would also know about what to expect as far as the service goes. If I walk through the doors of a non-denominational church, I have no clue what their statement of faith is, or if I would agree with anything they teach, or even what might go on during the service! I know from experience that my beliefs and (even more so) my worship style preferences do not facilitate dating someone who prefers a very charismatic church, regardless of denomination. Same thing for someone who prefers highly liturgical churches. That's not to say that inter-denominational relationships are bad. As long as two people can agree on core beliefs, they should be fine. I am a Baptist, and I dated a guy who was Presbyterian (PCUSA); while our churches were very different, we agreed on 99% of all issues and could compromise on the other 1%. If two people from two different denominations can work out their differences, great. If not, then they need to find a like-minded person. Did any of that make any sense? I feel like I rambled a bit, and didn't quite convey my thoughts as well as I would have liked. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 04:45 PM Growing up, I used to joke that I was a reformed Baptist, since I went to a Presbyterian church and a Baptist youth group. Later, I found out that there is such a denomination and that my joke wasn't really a joke. When I'm back home, I occasionally attend both a Baptist and Presbyterian church on Sundays, so clearly I'm ok with that split. Things get a little dicier when you start moving towards Methodists and the Christian denomination. People who don't believe in the authority of the Bible and do a lot of creative re-interpreting with Scripture are going to get frustrated quickly by my adherence to it. Finally, like BCPG, I'm wary of nondenominational churches. Without anyone to answer to, the leadership of those churches run a risk of backsliding theologically and giving us movements like the Emergent Church that are just completely out of line with Scripture. I'm not saying I write off all nondenominational churches. I'm just more wary of them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 10:22 PM This is an interesting subject and one that I would love to hear from everyone on this site. I have a question for you Tulip and I am not looking to start a controversy (just genuinely curious). My question is this. You write and I quote: ��Without anyone to answer to, the leadership of those churches run a risk of backsliding theologically�� My question is actually a two-part question. First, who would �the leaders� of these churches answer to and secondly�since you attend multiple churches�are you not being duplicitous by following more than one leader? I mean�the churches you attend are not exactly alike and thusly they both have somewhat different beliefs and by attending both you could be considered practicing a �cafeteria� type of religion (where you go down the �line� of Doctrines and �beliefs� and place on your plate what you like or feel good about or can truly �understand�). Again�I mean not to insult or judge or �anything��just curious as to your thinking. Thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 10:46 PM I attend a number of non-denominational churches and have friends at all of them. I think nothing of going to a new different church. I find the Holy Spirit really moves at some newer churches as the people are fresh, hungry and sold out to God. I have even attended a Jewish synagogue for awhile, it was rich with things the people there didn't understand because they rejected Jesus as Messiah. When they found out I believed in Jesus, I was rejected also. Was invited to a Jehovah Witness.service...wow what a eye opener mever went back. If you have the Holy Spirit and read the Bible I think you can go to church anywhere. However if you are going to share your innermostself with a church or spouse I think it is imperative you be like minded on the essentials. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 19 Dec, 2010 06:42 AM I guess I should have been more clear in my answer. The two churches back home meet at quite different times (one in the morning and one in the evening). While I don't necessarily agree with everything taught at the Baptist church, what am I going to do instead of going? Sleep in and watch TV? I'd rather worship. Going to both allows me multiple opportunities to worship corporately that day, as well as other opportunities to stay somewhat involved in the lives of the people at both. While very large churches can drift theologically (such as the Catholic church selling indulgences), denominations themselves tend to have a better system of checks and balances than a church with just two guys calling the shots. If both those guys read "The Shack" and like it, suddenly you've got a church headed off the deep end, theologically. There are many great, Bible based, strongly led nondenominational churches out there, though, so I'm not knocking all of them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 19 Dec, 2010 07:10 AM So, Tulip�you do not consider yourself a member of the �community of believers� in those churches, but you attend their service because you need the �company� to feel better while you communicate with God? (something like that?) That�s interesting. Do you leave and never return when they �head off the deep end� and then have to find another church? I�m also curious as to the Baptist church and The Catholic Church. You say that both have �drifted theologically� yet you still attend Baptist services? Is the reason you no longer attend Catholic Mass because they have drifted too far? Before my Ex and I got married we attended a service at her church and then we would find a Catholic Mass to attend. She finally found one Church that she really liked and that was the one we attended for Mass. For almost two years I attended two services every Sunday ( and would sometimes find myself having to defend my beliefs�go figure?) I like knowing what my Church believes. I like it being �spelled� out in black and white and Defined�where there is no chance of it being misunderstood or �twisted�. I believe that is what God wants. I wonder how many of my Brothers and Sisters really �know� what their church believes in? I hear them say that �it is Bible Based��yet, I see them leave that church when they find something that they disagree with (when that church �drifts� away). I can only feel sad for them�to be always searching for a �church�. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 19 Dec, 2010 07:40 AM Wow, talk about 'drifting'. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 19 Dec, 2010 10:14 AM Arch, when I moved to Defiance I started to attend the Nazerene Church here. They gave me a book that states what they believe.Ask me what you want too Arch.I will look it up in the book. PS. In the forum say something nice the why comes are there. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 19 Dec, 2010 01:23 PM When I was growing up, the church I was a member of did not have an active youth group, so I went to youth group with some friends. They accepted me, despite knowing that I was not actually Baptist, and invested in me spiritually for years. Both places are very dear to my heart, even if I don't agree with everything they teach. On the one weekend each month I'm at home, I like to attend both. You aren't really suggesting that it would be better for me to sit around watching TV than to attend a church service, are you? You're not seriously implying that attending a church service's only use is to provide company while we talk to God, are you? Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating People from Different Denominations. Posted : 19 Dec, 2010 01:36 PM Archimedes, shared : "I like knowing what my Church believes. I like it being �spelled� out in black and white and Defined�where there is no chance of it being misunderstood or �twisted�. I believe that is what God wants." Archimedes, With all do respect: With all the Councils the Catholic church has had over the last 1500 years, reading Catholic doctrine is like reading the IRS tax code! You know exactly what I mean : ) Post Reply

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