Author	Thread: How long should a man wait before he proposes?
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 02:39 PM How long should a couple date before a man proposes marriage? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 04:54 PM They should have gotten to a point in their lives where they will be able to actually get married, as well as make a clean break from their parents financially, emotionally, etc. If his girlfriend still has to call her mom 3 times a day, she clearly isn't ready, and if he still has his parents paying his bills, he clearly isn't ready. When all that stuff is in order, it's really just a matter of praying about it and being sure that the two are meant to get married. 6 months is a good guideline, but some people need longer. Others need less. Post Reply
Miss_Chris View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 07:02 PM There are definite signs of being too early to ask like the other poster mentioned. Also if a man asks you to marry him after dating less than 6 months, I would run. On the other end of the scale, if it's been 2 years and no mention of marriage, I'd say you two just were not meant for each other. Or he might be a man who just never will end up getting married. This is based on what I have both been through and have learned from other women. Each couple has different variables going on though. I think the main thing is, is it a healthy relationship and is this the person that God has put into your life? If it's God's will you will marry them, then it will happen. Post Reply
View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 17 Dec, 2010 10:25 AM A week or 2 is fine! Just kidding. I really think it varies, but if it didn't happen within 2 years, I'd probably move on. Ideally, I'd be married to a guy within 1-1/2 to 2 years of knowing him. That allows for some casual, "getting to know each other" time, around a year of serious dating, and then a few months to plan a wedding. I'd much rather elope than have a wedding, but I have yet to meet a guy who's cool with that. So, it looks like I'll be planning a wedding at some point in my future. Post Reply
View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 17 Dec, 2010 07:28 PM When you can both pass gas in each others presence it is time for somebody to propose. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 17 Dec, 2010 09:52 PM Every relationship and every couple is different. I think that a couple can (given the right circumstances) meet and get married in less than a year. Personally, I would like to get to know a guy casually for 2-3 months, then date seriously for about 6-9 months, then get engaged, and get married 4-5 months later. That puts my "timeline" at having known each other for anywhere from a year to a year and a half from first meeting to marriage. But I agree with what a couple other people said...if there is no proposal after 2 years of dating, something's wrong and you need to move on. Same thing though if the proposal is made after only a few dates...something's wrong! I also agree that a man should wait to propose until he is actually ready to get married. I don't agree with a guy proposing, but then wanting an engagement that lasts for a couple years. If he's not ready to get married, he needs to hold off on proposing...but if he's going to have to hold off on proposing for more than a couple years, he might just need to rethink the whole serious dating thing. Post Reply
View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 04:59 AM Setting an artificial timeline is dangerous. The time to propose is when the two of you have discussed what marriage means to each other and what roles each is expected to do in a marriage. Two people can spend years together and never talk about marriage, or a couple could sit down over the weekend and work things out. There are plenty of guidelines out there. Joshua Harris� book �Boy meets Girl� has a worksheet at the end of their book, and I think it was Pixy that posted one in this section a while back. http://www.christiandatingforfree.com/forum/forum_details.php?topic_id=7005&forum_sub_cat_id=11&start=0 Don�t worry about the amount of time it is taking, worry about how much you are working on the relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 20 Dec, 2010 07:56 PM Cobbler: exactly! TwoSparrows: Heee. I think a lot of the "how long" discussion depends on how old you both are and what sort of dating experience you have. (That being said, there are exceptions. My sister dated only the one guy, and didn't date him till she knew he was someone she could marry. Then they dated (long-distance) for a year before he proposed and for another year (still long-distance) before they married.) For another example, I was married for nearly twelve years. I'm rapidly approaching forty, and by now I know myself, my wants/needs, and what I have to give to a relationship to make a determination fairly early on as to whether the relationship will work. At least, definitely if it won't. Post Reply
View Profile History	How long should a man wait before he proposes? Posted : 20 Dec, 2010 08:00 PM Pixy: I know a number of guys who would *love* to elope! My next 'wedding' will be very simple. Outdoors, casual, just us and my kids (and his if he has any) and a few friends, then a party/barbecue afterward. Very low-key. Post Reply