Author	Thread: Am I the only one who feels this way?
Admin	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 12 Nov, 2010 06:13 PM I really feel like going gay sometimes. I haven't had any luck with women so maybe I should try men. But then again if my luck is this bad I might not be able to find a guy either. I know the bible says it's wrong to be gay or lesbian but I don't know anymore. I just wish I could find someone to be with who'd love me and want to be with me and only me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 12 Nov, 2010 08:59 PM Well, somebody already does, God in all His fullness. It can get pretty discouraging when you can't seem to find a good gal to "complete" you, but, the only one who really can is God. A girlfriend can only do so much in satisfying your need to be loved and wanted. How has your walk with Christ been in general? Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 12 Nov, 2010 09:14 PM Dude that was gay! :rolleyes: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 13 Nov, 2010 11:44 AM Interesting question. My question to you is, why do you think you feel like you need somebody to love you romantically? How would that make you whole? I really suggest reading a Psalm or two a day. You see David pouring out his heart and soul to God, which I found very refreshing. The truth of the matter is, God is all that is good, right, loving, holy, just, and wonderful in the universe, so true happiness and contentment can only be found in him. Take what time remains in this year and promise it to God. Swear off girls and just go into beast mode for Christ. Don't be rude, but do whatever you can to talk to girls as little as possible. Fill your time with listening to sermon podcasts, reading books like Don't Waste Your Life and The Cross Centered Life. Read the Bible at least once a day, if not more. Pray, pray, pray. Find someone who is older than you at church and ask them if they would be willing to lead you in a bible study once a week. Devote the next couple months purely to seeking your joy in Christ, and I believe you will be surprised at how he shows up. Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 13 Nov, 2010 08:30 PM Dude that was good! :applause: Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 11:37 AM CSN, I understand how you feel. I have thought that it would be easier being gay, and I have suspected for years that men who are rejected by women endlessly do become gay because they think that they will never stand a chance with women. However, I knew two things deep down in myself as well: one, that the homosexual lifestyle is NOT this wonderful painless place. It's not what Hollywood sells it as. The average homosexual man has something like 100+ sexual encounters in his life, which means that he isn't fulfilled and all he's doing is chasing after an unfulfilling lust. The number of homosexual men that can commit to a monogamous relationship is most likely in the single digits. It's that bad. I also knew that entering into that lifestyle would eventually turn me against everything that I held dear -- my politics, how I looked at people, and my faith. I couldn't handle that, no matter how much I hurt inside. Two, I just couldn't get over the disgusting feeling of imagining another man touching me like that. Again, no matter how much I hurt, sex through that agent never became appealing to me. I would have had to do drugs (as many homosexuals do) in order to handle it. What made a difference for me was listening to what Jesus says about me, and then really believing it -- becoming unbreakable. Sure, it sounds cliche`d, but there is a lot of peace and power in that, and surprisingly enough, once you have that, you will become confident. You won't be Superman, but you'll be someone whom other people don't have a hold on and don't control. That kind of unruffled inner strength is very attractive to women. Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 02:17 PM Yeah I'm right there with you Silver. I feel exactly the same. Even though I hurt a lot because I deeply desire to be with a woman and have her love. I could never be a homosexual though either because naturally it wouldn't feel right, the bible says it's wrong, and well it does go against everything good still left in the world and my own morals. I was taught relationships were to be between a man and woman, not the same sex. My whole life I've looked at those people and just felt disgusted. So even though my mind has wondered off and wondered about it, it would never make things better in the end. I guess all I can do is to learn to love myself more and trust in God to work everything out in my life. I guess what it really boils down too is I have to learn to depend on God more and grow in myself too instead of thinking a woman is going to fill the huge voil I have in my heart and soul. It's just my whole life I've never had anyone and I've hoped so badly that I wouldn't have to be alone anymore but I just can't seem to find anyone. Not only am I single but I don't even have any friends or anything. My life is just so empty and lonely. Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 02:19 PM And believe me when I say I'm not wallering in self pity. I'm a lot better than that because I've done it before and I know it solves nothing. I'm just trying to learn to look past all the bad in my life and look for the good. I'm really trying to just trust in God. For me I seem to always be like the Jews in Egypt. I'm always looking back or around and everything seems so bad but I should really be looking forward toward the promise land sorta speak. The battle isn't won but I can't give up either. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 07:30 PM Um...yeah, if you're having those thoughts, you need to be getting closer to God. He loves you...but not in a gay way... :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 11:33 AM I know, but that doesn't mean you should be condescending. Maybe you didn't mean it that way but it just feels like you're judging me. I know I sound like someone who's really confused but at the same time I am sincerely trying to get my life together. I have tons of insecurities from my childhood, etc. I've been in church my entire life, read the word, and asked God into my heart but somewhere between it all I never learned to really trust people and truely love. I've been afraid of love but also because love seems to skip me. I don't feel loved by my family or anyone else to be honest. Love for me is something I only know from God but I guess I've been putting him off to the side or running from him. I really don't want to run from him but also I don't know how to tare down this wall I've built and I don't know how to make people understand me and even if they do I'm not sure they'll care. I guess in a way I'm a people pleaser because I want people to like me but at the same time I don't want to be a butt kisser or whatever you call it. I always feel like I don't have favour with anyone though, or with God. Of course having favour with God is way better than having it with anyone else of course. Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I the only one who feels this way? Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 03:40 PM You are not alone in feeling lonely~I won't judge the gay part as I know you were just expressing your desire for touch. We all need touch~in a healthy way. Embracing my singleness has been a hard thing after being married twice for a total of 32 years. They were not healthy years and much sorrow so I opt for waiting for the compatible partner over being in an abusive, lonely, looking for an out type of marriage again. It is not a cure-all to be married as it has it's won set of problems. But it is nice to have someone to fellowship with, eat with, shop with, spoon with, etc. I am learning to spend my time giving and with people who need that touch. Nursing homes, female friends, grand-kids, hospital patients, senior home across the street. I sing to them and pray with them and that always is a blessing. It truly is better to give than receive and when you can wrap your mind around that concept, things become more bearable. Maybe you could volunteer in your city for a big brother program, city charity help person or something on that order. There is so much need in that area. You might just meet here in one of those places? Peace to you~:purpleangel: Post Reply

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