Author	Thread: High favorites list
rainbowian View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 11:15 AM Is it worth attempting to contact a woman that appears on a lot of favorites lists? (10+) I don't want to have to fight through a crowd. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 11:34 AM At least 3/4 of those are probably guys who have never contacted her. If she's a high quality woman, she's likely going to have been favorited a good bit. Does that mean favorites numbers determine a woman's quality? In no way! But you're hardly ever going to stumble onto a woman who you notice, but nobody else has noticed yet. Grab your bootstraps and go for what you want! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 11:53 AM 22 guys have added me to their favorites list over the past 14 months that I've been on this site...but only one or two of those guys ever contacted me, and I wasn't interested. I wouldn't let it stop you if you want to contact a girl who is on a lot of favorites lists. Chances are, she's just been on the site for a while and has collected a lot of fans, but probably hasn't been too impressed...hence, the reason she's still on here! Post Reply
View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 12:36 PM I agree with Tulips and bc: don't let it stop you! I've been on this site for almost 7 months now. In the past couple of months, my favourite have fluctuated between 20 and 28. Guys are always adding and deleting me. Most of the people who've added me haven't contacted me. Maybe 5 or 6 of the people who've added me have ever actually talked with me. A lot of them have sent me winks. For the most part, they're not men I would even consider (based upon their profiles). So, I wouldn't look at that favourites number and assume that she has this crowd of men around her. I do tend to get a fair amount of messages (and winks) on here, but I'm most usually interested in those people either! Since reactivating my profile a few days ago, I've only been getting 2-3 messages from guys a day, which is pretty slow for me actually (but no complaints there!). There have been times when I've gotten 20+ messages a day, but have only actually responded to 1 or 2 of those with anything personal. Before reading a guy's message, I usually click over to his profile to see if there's anything there that would immediately disqualify him (which there often times is), and then I click back to the message and read it. I must admit that I have to be fairly impressed to send anything back other than the generic "I don't think we'd be a good match" response. All of that is to say that your message should stand out, because while she may not have a crowd of men around her that she actually likes, she may be getting bombarded with messages and not really have the time to look at the majority of guys/messages in-depth. Post Reply
View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 12:46 PM Oh, here is something else to keep in mind... A girl may not really want to get to know multiple men at the same time... meaning that if she's currently messaging with a guy that she's very interested in, she may send back that generic response to everybody who messages her, even if she'd otherwise be interested. I've had guys reply back to the generic message to ask for more specifics, and I've been happy to explain the reason behind the message. In the cases where I'm interested in someone else and pouring my energy into that, the guys will then view my profile quite a bit and contact me at a various intervals to see if I'm available yet... haha... (And good luck with that, because I seem to move quite swiftly from from one man to the next!) So, don't necessarily get discouraged if you get a generic message back and don't be afraid to ask her why she's not interested. Post Reply
View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 02:25 PM Pixy, you should create a waiting list. Tell them that you will put them on the list and that you will get back to them as soon as you can. :ROFL::yay::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 03:18 PM ha... that's funny. Post Reply
View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 10:46 PM A waiting list... LOL... You shouldn't give me ideas like that, Cobbler. I'll be tempted to actually try that now! My next message to a guy can be this: "I'm occupied with another member of the male species at the moment, but I can put you on my waiting list and will send you out a notification once a position becomes available." Ha! You know what's kinda weird? When I was previously involved, guys would message me to ask me if I was with someone on this site and, if so, who it was... And I would be thinking: Why do you need to know? Are you going to message him and try to talk him out of being with me or something? Post Reply
View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 06:51 PM Some girls may have high favorites lists because a lot of guys find her attractive or liked something they saw in her profile. And as some have already said, most of them probably haven't actually contacted her. You could certainly try to message her and see what happens. You never know. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 08:14 PM I just wan to this- go for it! why worry about it? I once wondered that question myself and thought that since all of these guys are interested in her,she may not want to talk or message me back or i may have to try to get "rid of the competiton" .But now thinking about it, iv'e now realised that the guys might put them as their faourites either they choose them ofr their "sexy model pose pics" or hope that they may get in contact with her since you don't see her again if you choose her in the above section.The question shoul really be is WHAT would you say IF SHE MESSAGE YOU BACK!!!!!!:excited: Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	High favorites list Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 09:54 PM Well, 4 of the 6 people who have marked me as favoritess are women...I've made FRIENDS hera who are a mix of men and women. ~ GraceMae Post Reply

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