Author	Thread: How early is too early?
nutrlivingwell View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 05:14 AM Hi all.... Ive often wondered how long should one wait after divorce or being widowed to feel its ok to date again? I imagine this will be different for everyone...but what is the thought on this as far as what is socailly acceptable? Thanks Post Reply
View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 08:36 AM 9 months, 3 days, 4 hours, 29 minutes, and 13 seconds. Geez, I thought everyone knew that. But the scriptural answer would be ' when your loins tell you it is time! Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 09:42 AM O_o Post Reply
View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 11:01 AM There is no set time, it all depends on if you are ready to open your life to a new person. My pastor met his second wife 6 months after his first wife passed away. But, his first wife died of cancer, so he had about a year to say good-bye to her. Biblically, when your spouse passes away, you are released from the covenant of marriage. Post Reply
nutrlivingwell View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 02:09 PM LOL twosparrows..and what page might I find that in the Bible : ) ? Post Reply
View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 02:49 PM 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 Now to the unmarried and widows I say : It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. didn't think I really had a scripture for that.. .huh?. . . Lol Post Reply
nutrlivingwell View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 04:14 PM @ twosparrows Thank you ....that answers my question...God is wise about His creation : ) Post Reply
View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 08:50 PM There is a danger of not being in your "right mind". There is a period after divorce where we want to find that "perfect" person that we might feel God has for us. We are also quite vulnerable and need to be Loved. Just as you don't go grocery shopping when you are hungry...perhaps one needs to wait a while until you are Ready to date again and have gotten over the divorce. You might be surprise how long that might take. My guess is at least a year...maybe longer? Time is distance that you need to be more Objective and not prone to "being on the rebound". Go Slow GrassHopper! PS Never listen to your loins (as a indicator of Love...lust maybe). Post Reply
nutrlivingwell View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 25 Oct, 2010 04:51 PM @Archimedes sound advice......but who are you caliing a grasshopper?:rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	How early is too early? Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 12:43 PM There are many thougths - Prayer is what is first needed. Christians we may be but being human we can't escape! At first, or somewhere near the beginning of being single again, there can be the overwhelming experience of being alone. Do not get lost in that phase. Many do. Don't 'latch' on to someone just so you have company. You may accept someone that you normally would never have allowed into your life - and then you find can NOT get rid of them easily. I HATE being alone - but I'm not going to rush. I now know more about myself and more about what I want in a spouse. Another thought - other people have their own idea of when enough time has passed. And they very well may feel they know who is good enough for you or not good enough. All this while you may have more confusion in your life than you've ever had before! You, as an individual, are a strong person. God didn't make us weak. WE made or 'allowed' ourselves to be uneducated about certain things. My mother was a Home Economics teacher - but me in the kitchen though? It's embarrassing!! But I am learning on my own. Let me just say that as a man looking around for the second time, I have seen a lot of women's profiles that I've been quite impressed by. They have noted things they've learned to do on their own, and it's been quite impressive! Let me just add don't get carried away by doing it all yourself! It might become to addictive! lol Don't dwell on being alone. Learn how to handle those 'little' chores at home. Learn how to keep up with the needs of your car. Learn how to manage your own finances. Just because you don't want to be alone doesn't mean you can't learn to be independant. With much prayer! This is one of those time of great conflict - human and Christian. Humans want to DO, Christians know PRAYER is the most powerful thing to do. I pray God gives us patience as we wait for HIS choice as our mates. Lloyd Post Reply