Author	Thread: Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views?
Admin	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 10:30 AM I was always taught the man was the head of the house hold and what he says go. How do you feel about that? A man and womna is equal right? But I believe and was taught man was man after God and woman was made after man so through the chain man is over woman. Anyway, I know a lot of people's feathers are going to be fuffled by what I just said but a man is supposed to be the dominant one and the one is supposed to sumbit herself. Am I right? So nowadays women seem to want to be dominant and the man wants to be dominant because it's his nature. So how are the two supposed to get along? Post Reply
View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 10:32 AM I meant man was made after God and woman after man so logically speaking theres a hierarchy there. I know we're both children of God and both just as human but men are supposed to be leaders. Am I right? Post Reply
T4gsds View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 12:23 PM No... not in the sense that a man should be beating his wife to submission or anything. Unfortunately, many men who claim to be biblical use this concept to abuse their wives (physically and emotionally). It is not good for a man to be alone, which is why woman was created. She was created to be man's helper. Yes, the man should be the leader and have the final say... but not without counsel from his wife. Many men use this as a power trip so that everything he says goes. Not so. Even as the man being the leader in the marriage... marriage is STILL about compromising, working together and most importantly SERVING EACH OTHER AND GOD. A man can not serve his wife properly if he's jamming commands down her throat all the time and not allowing her to voice her opinions or concerns. If husband and wife are in disagreement over something, my suggestion would then be to seek outside counsel on the matter. Whether it is a pastor at the church, or another married couple that both husband and wife agree would be wise to help in providing counsel. I've recently listened to some good sermons online on this topic. I will come back and post once I find them. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 12:45 PM In Genesis, we see that Adam was inadequate and needed Eve. In Ephesians we see mutual submission described. While the man is called to be the head and the wife to submit to his leadership, he is to submit to her best interest over his own. I don't know how much dancing you've ever done, but the image I always get from the bible is a couple dancing. If two people try to lead, it looks bad. The man leads gently, and his goal is to make sure the girl looks beautiful the whole time. He can be neither passive and hesitant or dominant, as either extreme makes the dance not go well. Post Reply
T4gsds View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 01:25 PM Here's just one sermon on marriage and men http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/trial/marriage-and-men Also, a sermon on marriage and women http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/trial/marriage-and-women Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 01:43 PM I like your example of dancing Tulip...it really makes a lot of sense! I've also heard it put this way: A man leads by taking responsibility, not by taking control. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 01:54 PM Worse yet, women want a man to dominate, even if he doesn't really care about dominating anyone. That attitude (either from men or from women) is the code of the cave-man, the mindset of the barbarian, the haven of the thoughtless. Domination is for the insecure. Having the man be the leader of the household is more accurate, but even then there's so much disrespect for men now that you won't find many women willing to follow a man, unless that man is a movie star. Post Reply
T4gsds View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 02:39 PM "there's so much disrespect for men now that you won't find many women willing to follow a man, unless that man is a movie star." I completely disagree with that. Yes, there are women like that... but not ALL women are like that! Just as men don't want to be lumped into generalities, neither do women. I am perfectly willing to follow a man that has proven himself worthy of being a leader. Unfortunately, I'm not having any luck finding that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 05:12 PM I like your example Tulip. That really put it perspective for me. Only problem is nowadays most women don't want to let the man lead. Also nowadays everyone has multiple partners. All I want is one woman to love and respect. I will think about her before myself and be there for her and listen to her. I will love her with all my heart, body, and soul. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 05:17 PM I agree with T4gsds... there are women out there who are willing but finding a true man who doesn't use this position of leadership selfishly to the detriment of the woman is becoming harder to find. the relationship model isn't meant to mean that the woman's only words allowed to be spoken is "Yes master" and trust me... there are many guys out there who have that viewpoint. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Ok so can someone give me advice on how a relationship/marriage is supposed to work? Your views? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 07:24 PM "Also nowadays everyone has multiple partners." Where do you get that? Post Reply

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