Author	Thread: Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental?
Admin	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 10 Sep, 2010 04:26 PM I know I'm not the best looking guy. I know I don't currently have a job. I know I'm not perfect, no one is. I may not be the best at communicating or presenting myself. It's like something about my picture, my profile, etc turns women away. I don't know, maybe it's my personality. Don't know if it's just me but there seems to be a lot of superficial and fake christians on here. I'll admit I could give a lot of stuff over to God. And maybe I don't know what I want exactly in a relationship. I know it takes time. I know I'll never be perfect and whoever God has for me won't be perfect. All I know is I'd love to find a woman who I find attractive, who loves God with all her heart, and will love and respect me. There's a lot of things I'd love to have in a mate but some things are more important than others, I realize that, guess a lot of other people haven't learned that physical attraction isn't everything. I know distance plays a role too because it's hard to have a relationship with someone who's far away, and it's also hard to find someone when no one is faithful. I'm not a man who wants a million girls or the hottest girl, I just need the one woman God has for me. I'm constantly praying to always stay focused on God and grow closer to him. I admit I struggle a whole lot because I am only man after all. I also keep praying for God to bring that woman into my life, whoever she is. Believe me when I say I know God is more important, my relationship with him is more important than having a relationship with a woman. I'm having to learn to focus on him. Anyway, enough said about relationships among men and women, it's alot more rewarding to be one with God than it ever could be to be one with someone of the opposite sex. I know God said it's his gift to us to have a mate but people seem to forget that once you get in a relationship that it's more than yourself and that you start thinking of your mate instead of as much on God and what he would have for us. This is coming from my heart and although people are going to do what they want and think what they want, that's my two cents. Take it however you will. Say whatever you will. This is what God is laying on my heart. He's convicting me and showing me that I should think less of a relationship and more of the bigger picture of his love and his will. God bless you all. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 10 Sep, 2010 05:41 PM I've met a couple, but for the most part my experience here has been pleasant. :peace::peace: Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 10 Sep, 2010 07:26 PM as far the judging goes...if we arent the perfect match, most men wont even be your friend. that's really rude. but the other things you said CSN are right on target. We need to be in a right relationship with Him in order to have any kind of relationship with the ONE He sends our way. He's always first :) Post Reply
jlaughlin0002 View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 10:19 PM You are not the only one who is feeling that way. I feel like a lot of men are super judgmental. I am divorced, a single parent, I live in my parents home even though I work full time and go to college full time. I have tattoos and a nose piercing. I smoke cigarettes but I'm hoping to kick that habit. I read my bible take my daughter to church and associate with christian people. I am a good person and I am not bad looking either. I have so many wonderful personality traits and I'm looking for the one who I can share my life with and the one who will be an awesome father. I'm actually a pretty normal person but I hardly even get so much as a message in my inbox. I dunno buddy , you tell me.... Post Reply
matt101984 View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 06:03 PM Unfortunately you will get all kinds of people on Christian dating sites People who are not really Christians posing as Christians real Christians who are not seeking God. You just have to keep searching OP I am sure they are plenty of great Christian woman on here and who knows one could be your future wife.:applause: Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 08:26 PM Are women super-judgmental on this site? Yup. You pretty much have to be a Christian rock star to get any attention. By this I don't mean an actual musician, but someone whose life is going so awesomely that it's hard to believe that they walk on the earth like the rest of us. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 09:58 PM Silver might be right about a lot of women... I know my lady friends, particularly single ones who have never been married, have very bizarre standards that they themselves would never, ever meet. As far as I can tell you are an honest, articulate young man, and I personally like that your profile isn't simply you singing praises for yourself OR telling prospects what they have to be to get your attention. "Patience is the name of the game," but even bigger than that is keeping your priority with your relationship with God. Keep your priorities straight, and maybe if God has it for you an available woman will recognize and admire them. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 10:22 PM @Silver truthfully I dont think they are looking for a Christian Rockstar, because men and women like that are quite different than what the world percieves as attractive. I think what it is is alot of ppl in general dont have God Goggles on so those who are spiritually mature are missed, but there are very few of those types of Christians out there. Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 15 Sep, 2010 02:19 AM Awe Silverfire, sorry about your search so far. Don't worry the snobs. There are a lot of good ladies out there I'm sure. Maybe you need to meet more people not just on the net. People have these ridiculous expectations. Even the original poster started his criteria with attractive. That sounds a bit superficial if you ask me. There is a lot more to some one then the out side package. I always have dated by personality first. I don't really notice the looks so much at first. The interesting thing is that once you start get to know them there beauty starts to show. Every one is attractive in there own way. You just have to not have some preconceived idea of what beauty is. All that is bases on photoshoped pictures of fake perfection any ways. In time every ones looks fade. If you don't have more then you really have nothing at all. Best wishes that all might find some one special to love. For the people that think they are all that get over your self and have an open mind. You never know what's inside till you give them a chance. Ps I am not single but I am not a snob. I answer all my pm's Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 15 Sep, 2010 04:02 PM Everyone has different standards, goals, and circumstances as to why they don't reply. You can't hold it against them and it doesn't make them bad people. Don't foster false assumptions based on insecurity. Don't even think about it. Just take it for what it is (no reply, who knows why?) and move on and don't stop till you find what you want while learning to enjoy life as much as possible as you go. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it me or are most women on here super judgemental? Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 04:46 PM I live in Canada: CoolSoutherNights didn�t say that he wanted someone who was attractive, he said that he wanted someone who he finds attractive. That is two completely different things. I have met plenty of women who the world would not consider to be attractive, but I find to be beautiful. And while, yes, everyone is beautiful in their own way, that doesn�t mean that every guy should find every woman attractive. It just doesn�t work that way. Post Reply