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Tulip89 View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 10 Sep, 2010 11:05 AM We don't consciously decide who we are attracted to. It isn't a logical decision. No man or woman sits down, makes a pros and cons list for someone they just met, decides that person checks off enough boxes on a list, and then decides to find that person attractive or unattractive. Instead, everything about that person gets run through the brain, and "I'm not attracted," "I'm a little attracted, so there's potential for more," or "I'm REALLY attracted" comes out. Keep in mind that this is about way more than just physical attraction or chemistry. It's everything you've shown that person about yourself up til now that leads to overall attraction. Am I trying to say that we have no control over who we date or get involved with? Not at all. We can know that getting involved with someone wouldn't be a good idea and choose not to get closer to them and risk our feelings taking us where we don't want to go. What I am saying though, is that it's important to remember that people are attracted to who you are and based on who they are. Getting mad at someone for not being interested in you is a waste of time, because it's not really their fault. They didn't choose not to "click" with you. You can't expect someone's feelings for you to change just because you feel a certain way about them either. All you can really do is seek to become the best version of yourself you can be. Positive changes, such as getting in better shape, keeping your apartment cleaner, becoming more reliable, taking up a hobby, getting out of your comfort zone, reading your bible and praying more, getting more involved at church, etc. are all a part of cutting and polishing the diamond that is you. That way, when you don't click with someone, you'll be much more likely to think, "Oh well, I guess we just weren't meant to be" because you're content with who you are and know that you are the best you that you can be. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 10 Sep, 2010 05:29 PM GOOD POST! Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 10 Sep, 2010 05:44 PM :rocknroll::peace: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 11 Sep, 2010 07:48 AM Great post, Tulip! Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 08:20 PM I see you've discovered David D'Angelo. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 10:01 PM Please don't say this was from David Deangelo...I may have to retract my endorsement of this post...:ribbit: :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 10:50 PM No, I had no idea who he was til I googled him. I got this from my friend Carrie. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 07:43 AM Ok...*whew*. Didn't think it was because it included "study your bible" and I don't think David DeAngelo is into endorsing that to much. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 08:28 AM I'm sure all the really successful seduction experts tell people the best way to be successful with women is to pursue a close relationship with God. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 06:00 PM Hmm...good point...probably right before they tell you to try to have as many inconsequential sexual relationships as possible. I missed the meeting on the flow styles of their instructional seminars. Bible...then fornication...Got it. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	We don't consciously decide... Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 07:09 PM I don't know. I'm pretty sure the best seduction experts tell you to wait til marriage. Post Reply

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