Author	Thread: Continuity
Tulip89 View Profile History	Continuity Posted : 8 Sep, 2010 09:00 PM Following Brandon's post, I think it's important to make sure that we work on continuity in our behavior. Too often, people "get" a date and feel the need to spruce themselves up. They try to be funnier, dress better, wear more makeup, speak more spiritually, etc., even though these behaviors aren't present in their every day lives. You can't expect to have good posture on a date if you never focus on good posture the other 6 days of the week. You can't expect to look comfortable in a dress if that's the only time you wear a dress. You can't expect to be able to come off as a spiritual leader, much less actually lead a relationship spiritually, if your relationship with Christ has no bearing on your every day life. Putting your best foot forward on a date is a good idea, but it needs to be YOUR best foot, not some artificial foot you think people think you should have. First of all, there is no value in getting someone interested in a you if that's not the real you. You'll never be able to keep up the act. Second, authenticity and confidence are incredibly attractive on anybody. If you work on your posture daily, having good posture on a date will hardly be a thought. If you clean up the way you dress some, you won't look so uncomfortable in that button down and khakis. If you focus on your relationship with Christ daily, you won't feel the need to pretend you're more spiritual than you really are. Whatever your issues are, address them as best you can in every day life, and you'll be able to be much more authentic with the opposite sex. Post Reply
View Profile History	Continuity Posted : 8 Sep, 2010 09:44 PM Good thoughts, Mr. Tulip =) Post Reply
View Profile History	Continuity Posted : 8 Sep, 2010 10:57 PM Yeah good post. I like to think of it as an ice berg. Post Reply