Author	Thread: Dating Just For Fun?
Admin	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 14 Aug, 2010 06:03 PM Hi :waving: I have always found this is to be a topic that is somewhat contraversial among Christian circles....so I would like to know your thoughts on it..... How do you feel about dating "just for fun". As in, not dating someone because you could see yourself with them for a long time or you could see yourself maybe marrying but rather "just for the fun of it". Do you think it is Biblical? Do you think its a matter of personal conviction? If you think its ok.....state your case! If you dont think it's ok.....state your case! Do you think it is ok if both individuals understand it's just for fun? Do you think it's not ok and that it could really end up in a broken heart or hurt emotions? Do you think that dating "just for fun" is just fun or do you think it's seeking to find fulfillment through having a relationship just for the sake of having a relationship....rather than seeking to fulfill a need through Christ? :nicenurse: Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 14 Aug, 2010 08:23 PM I have dated just for "fun" and then realized that it wasn't right. Not only was I toying with my heart, I was also toying with someone else's. I'm not sure about "biblical" but the Bible does say to not awaken love before it's time. If one does it regardless, I would hope they would be honest with each other up front because you might end up really hurting someone if you are dating for fun and the other person isn't. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 14 Aug, 2010 11:38 PM Mathew 25:40 "And the King will say, 'I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!' Galatians 5:25 Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit's leading in every part of our lives. Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap 1 John 3:14 We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers. Anyone who does not love remains in death. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 John 4:19,20 20If anyone says, �I love God,� yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. 21And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother. I would say its not the best of ideas. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 02:11 AM I think it's ok to date just for fun or not be serious. As long as you're respectful and considerate of other peoples feelings by being honest and upfront. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 07:23 AM In my view it is a complex issue without just one answer. I've had my first relationship with a guy when I was around 15-16 and even though we did love each other and in our naivety we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, which was a beautiful dream, but only a dream :) we did grow up together and were the means of personal growth for one another. Sharing things in life we learnt to respect the other person and got more mature in general. But we also had to face some problems, temptations, hormonal issues and so on, and we weren't always succesful in that. My point here would be that as long as one is guarded and does not do anything to hurt the other person, dating as such might be beneficial. The most important thing is to remain true with oneself (and the other person) as not to deceive or hurt them. But there's more to it - dating or getting involved in a relationship means certain distractions and temptations. It's always good to be aware if the 'dangers' which might become stumbling blocks. And coming to this, I think Jesus in Mt 5:29-30 tells us clearly how we should get rid of an eye/a hand that causes us to stumble. The way I understand it is that for some people it may be better not to start dating until they actually are ready to commit and get married. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 01:22 PM Is this "I see you less than once a week" dating or "let's hang out three times a week and talk every night for a year but i don't want to marry you" dating. The first is probably fine, but I'm not in favor of the second. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 03:48 PM *scrathes his head*' Did ya'll not see the scripture posted above :-/ Loving someone is in a sence looking out for the best interest of another, and sometimes that means guarding their heart as much as it means guarding your own. I see dating for fun as a door way to trouble that should be steered clear of. It is written the prudent person forsees the dangers and takes the apropriate step, while the simpelton goes on and suffers the consequences. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 06:44 PM So my son is 15. He is interested in girls. He can go with a group to teen church activities, mall and school games. He's a good son and I've taught him what he spiritually needs to know to make whatever decisions he's going to make. At certain points in our life we are not ready to commit. Should we not enter into any relationships? You are either going to sleep around or you're not. As for me, I have no script. I enter into relationships as God leads, period. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 08:16 PM It would seem the best way to enter into a relationship is to build a friendship on Christ, and get to know one another before the romance and emotions has your head full of honey. I've hurt a few women by getting caught up before I knew if it was right for me. Anything else seems self serving, and isnt Gods best, anyway thats my two cents. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 03:15 AM Rabbit, I agree with you, but as you see the viewpoint changes rather dramatically with becoming older wiser and growing closer to God. What you know now being 33 is the result of your own experiences, the lessons you've learnt and the changes God has persistently made in your own heart. Now how would you convince a 15 (18, 22...) -year-old that it isn't good for them to date yet while all what they see is there must be something wrong with you if you don't have a bf/gf at this age (it's the worldly view of course)? I don't regret the fact I was dating when I was younger. I only regret not having been enough close to God as to prevent irresponsible actions (and hearts from being broken). I guess Tulip is right here - there's nothing wrong in dating as hanging out some times and getting to know each other. Becoming dependant on someone and 'playing' a married couple can be destructive mentally emotionally and spiritually. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Dating Just For Fun? Posted : 23 Aug, 2010 11:47 PM I think, and I dont know because I dont have teens yet, but I think you reach them by being real. By letting them draw the conclusions, by letting them see hwere you fail. I guess you just have to prophesy into their life. Its very difficult, because I can still get caught up, its a very difficult situation. Post Reply

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