Author	Thread: Do you offer as much as you are seeking for with a person?
Admin	Do you offer as much as you are seeking for with a person? Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 10:25 AM Lots of profiles show lists of specifications that they are wanting in the person they are hoping for. Do you think that these people's profiles indicate that they have to offer the same/equivalent? The longer the laundry list, the less people will be out there to qualify. Many of these lists are their standards of perfection. Not many of us would ever measure up, for how many of us are perfect (at any age). Yes, it only takes one, but how many wonderful people are being overlooked that might also be just right for them. Do you think a lot of us show a false entitlement to the perfect mate who satisfies your every dream and hope about marriage? Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Do you offer as much as you are seeking for with a person? Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 03:27 PM Amen and Hallelujah Wanda!!! I'm with you sister! You and I remember when the store only had 3 flavors of ice cream and Burger King's "Have It Your Way" was revolutionary. With the advancement of technology, the generations after us have grown up with "instant access." This carries over into every area of life and our young people don't even recognize themselves as being impatient or their "ideal mate" as unattainable. They have grown up being able to buy special orders made to their own specifications and delivered FX next day. In our mass production, machine assembled society, can our young understand the unique, individual treasure that God wants to mold for them? All human beings come with "some assembly required." But, in our world of constant self-gratification, no one wants to take the time for assembly - just send it back. For several years now, I've wanted to bring in an art teacher to show our church kids what it means that God is the potter and we are the clay and to show the kids what happens to the work of art if the potter rushes the process. Don't know that I made a point here, but thanks for letting me sound off. Rose Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you offer as much as you are seeking for with a person? Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 05:50 PM Good illustration, Rose. We do live in an "instant society". Just take our computers, for example - if a site doesn't load in less than a minute, we are stressed! Regardless of age, we all seem to be impatient to find someone, some days. By saying "some assembly required", I know you mean that it takes a person's time and effort to get to know a person well for a healthy relationship to grow. Not meaning, to try to change a person to your liking. God's Word likens us to clay, and God, the Potter. We should all want to be perfected by the Master. Any one rethinking about shortening their "gotta have" list ? You just might get more interesting people contacting you. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Do you offer as much as you are seeking for with a person? Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 10:40 PM I am confidant I can, but my weak point is always the intial delivery of my words. It almost like an egineered weakness to keep me humble. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Do you offer as much as you are seeking for with a person? Posted : 13 Aug, 2010 11:29 PM I think the only things we need to worry a ton about bring to a relationship are: "Will I treat him/her better than myself?" "Will I always have their best interests in mind over my own?" If both parties can offer those things then it would be a perfect relationship. Those things influence every single thing from health to chores, and if two people are treating each other like that as much as possible, the benefits to the relationship would be exponential. So basically...unselfishness...which just happens to be the name of the street Jesus walks on. Coincidence? I think not. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you offer as much as you are seeking for with a person? Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 04:30 AM hmm... Well for me the short and quick of it for all the fronts that matter is: No. Not even close. But I'm aware of it, and have been working on it. Progress is slow and difficult, but that is a good sign that it's actual change and not just another "aha" moment. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you offer as much as you are seeking for with a person? Posted : 18 Aug, 2010 06:13 AM I hear ya on the poeple who want to place a "turn resume here" type of thing are truly limiting themselves alot, but I do agree with having some expectations that would keep the chaff out though. Like the few point that I use to determine, is this a freind, or maybe something that could be more. - Is She a Christian? (kinda big really) - is she going in the general direction in life? after that though its really up to the situation and the decisions of both people. Post Reply