I dont know, but i feel like my heart doesnt want to beat...
I�ve talked with some guys from this page, and all have been gentlemen and a good christian guys and good friends... and when at least im interesting on someone special... for some strange situation can not be true or reality, there are a lot of excuses of them to me: for example the distance, age, or because I'm Mexican, because mexico is unsafe, because i'm not white and their parents will not accept me as a wife hahaha, so an unlimited number of silly situations that show that men are not prepared to have a real and a full of love relationship as i wish to have a real christian relationship.
But at the same time I am experiencing a strange situation that someone wants to fight for me and my love, but I do not feel completely drawn or attracted to that person, but do not know what to do about it. because I'm interested in someone else who is really important for me, but talking with also a friend almost brother for me , he told me, Yoshua you're a princess, you deserve that someone fight for your love, not you fight for the love of someone, but I do not completely agree on this argument .
I cant love both cuz i dont know them in person... but im very interested on one of both.. but.. i dont know sometimes.. i feel like he doesnt want to fight for me as i wish...
and of course i will not ask him Please fight for me �� im not that kind of person.. and im praying all days.. but God only tell me.. Joshua 1:9
but also i think on the guy who wants to fight for me. and travel to the old continent for me.. and maybe that�s the man that God wants for me.. but i dont know.
But this guy knows that i dont love him and i dont feel nothing emotional for him but he still want to fight for my love.. so... What should i do?
the best advice i can give you is seek the lord only he knows what is best for you and you need to pray and tell god im here lord guide me and let me know who is right for me someday when the lord feels you are ready it will all become clear but seek him in pray
then your not ready the lord will never forsake you i struggle with this subject alot trying to rush into relationships or trying to figure out whats best in reality the best thing to do is wait and pray and when the lord thinks your ready he will bless you for instance in the bible the book of daniel Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego had faith God could deliver them and they would be safe from the fire pit or furnace and they just trusted in the lord and had faith they would be ok we just need the same faith they had and always know when the lords ready or thinks your ready he will show you his plan
YES Read Daniel 3 -and also consider that shadrach meshach & abednego also had no promise from God for deliverance in that situation, but swore to remain obedient even if God didn't rescue them (vs. 17-18). The lesson here is to remain faithful to God because you DO have a promise that He will care for you & you can trust that He will honor His word. You need to know the Word of God in order to know what truth God has ordered for your life & how to live in His reality.
That said - your issue of fighting for one another...
A man who is worthy of you WILL fight for you, but just b/c someone does fight for you does not necessarily mean he is yours. Men are created to love & have an inner need to win a woman's affections. He will fight for you or any woman he sets his heart on b/c it is in his makeup to feel a drive to do that. It's wonderful, but it's because he's a man not b/c of you in particular. There4 it is not wise to choose a mate simply b/c he is a man. You want to know which (of all men, available and unknown) is YOURS. So-trust the wisdom of God. You have already confessed to your lack thereof & have need of your Heavenly Father to take up your cause & fight for you & He will if you will let Him have the issue & stop trying to create it for yourself.
DON'T fight for a man that isn't yours. Until God gives him to you (marriage) -it is the man whom God will commission in your direction. In the meantime, your job is to ready yourself for that relationship by excluding all others until he comes -not whining or complaining that he isn't here yet.
Your faith in God will require your prayers when you are lonely or anxious for companionship.
My suggestion is find some more girlfriends & get busy at church serving God. It will take a LOT of the loneliness away & will solidify some more healthy relationships that will make your marriage a lot more intimate & well-rounded & spiritually healthy as well when the time is right.
That was my reasonable response. Emotionally, this isn't easy for you & my heart feels compassion for you. God has made you a woman who longs to love & be loved & it isn't easy for a woman to wait & not know what she is waiting for. Our tendency & experience is to hope for disappointment & this makes us afraid & desperate for more control, so we take matters into our own hands & trash the fruits of the Spirit in favor of temporary fulfillment which just makes us miserable all over again & more resentful when it doesn't work out b/c we're convincing ourselves that we're good & we deserve it.
What you deserve, you have already gotten: the Father's love, Jesus' sacrifice, eternal life, freedom from guilt, full healing................
You CAN'T improve on what God has for you. It is the sign of a really wise woman to surrender ALL to Christ & let God show you His timing, choose for you, & guide your every relationship. FULL dependence on the Holy Spirit, sister!!!!!!! It will change your life!! And happiness will seem a trite request when you see the FULL JOY He has for you!!
You have every right to lay down the burden & carry only what God gives you. Go serve someone else. Everybody needs your life, not just a husband you don't have yet. Let God take care of that need & do what He has already given you to do: love & trust HIM & obey.
It's a GOOD life -full of peace & joy & expectancy.
Yoshua, I find that when I'm confused over something, that it is not a good time to make a decision. I would keep praying. Ask the Lord for wisdom. It is possible that you should not be involved romantically w/ either guy and perhaps that is why you're not getting any clarity.
Also, it's important to remember that love is something that takes time. Just because you don't have romantic feelings for something in the first few weeks/months of knowing them, does not mean that you won't later develop feelings. Take things slow...
Add fasting to your prayer if you're REALLY serious about getting an answer. Ask a trusted spiritual advisor to help you.
Don't feel like you need to do everything (including decisions about your spiritual life & relationships) on your own.
It's a trap of the devil & can get you into some really dangerous places.
Please be encouraged. God is your Father & He will protect you & comfort you & meet all your needs HIS way if you let Him.
Carefully consider your trust in Him -your faith will be directly linked to how well you feel you can TRUST God. You can NEVER improve on His love for you either with your love for Him or someone else or someone else's love for you. NOTHING can replace it or ever fulfill you more -but you won't KNOW that until you are completely surrendered to it.
God knows you best & loves you most. Let Him show you how well He can fulfill every desire of your heart & how extravagant & wildly passionate HE is about you.
I'm telling you!!!!! It's an experience you can NEVER replace!! I have much hope for you. God, give you peace.
I know what you mean i want to thank yoour time!!!
Pixy and Sweet
Here it is 2:25 am and i cant sleep..
Im thinking about it all the time...
Cuz i dont want to hurt either
When i prayed to God for a christian relationship
I was thinking in a christian guy who loves God and would fight for my love..for who really i am..for discover me as a good woman of God and walk with me in good times and bad times and live our love as GOd wants.
Where i live im not the kind of girl who is very socially with a lot of friends there... or flirting with anyone, or dating with a lot of guys.. haha no im not like that, even i dont have time to go out so much, i am always working in my business, and also Im very reserved and shy:)
so i decide to looking for a good friendship here and maybe who knows a good christian relationship
and i guess i found two possibilities.
The guy who wants to fight for my love is from UK, I have met like 5 months and little bit of more...
HE is a really a good man, He loves to our Father GOd with all his heart and mind!, He is not handsome (and i dont care, im not beautiful too) but what i really like from him is that he has a big big big and wonderful heart, he�s patient, and very loyal, always i have an email on my account from him, always!! there is noday that i dont have an email from him, something like a letter of 2 papers! haha something like that and sometimes he told me so much things and sometimes i dont have answer for all what he says, He always has been my friend.. but he now is asking me for a formal relationship, i told him ok.. we can have a relationship (just like online but doesnt mean nothing ok?) this is not valid for me.. cuz i dont love him, and he knows very well that im not in love with him but he always is there... and he always is respecting my decisions.. my hard decisions... I dont know if im doing good, i dont know.. i just told him.. we need to resolve this.. cuz i only appreciate you like a friend.. but i need to see you and see if i could love you. or maybe you dont like me ... or viceversa. He says.. so much things.. but the truth is that im so cold with him cuz.. i dont want to get my heart damaged again! he says no i will not do that Yoshua, but men always tell the same thing! hahaha the point is.. that i�d like him like a friend.. im not attracted to him... but sometimes i want to try to meet him.. and see what happend.. but all the time in my mind.. and God knows!! there is the other guy who is more cold.. and he only told me that he liked me, i know of him so little, but i know too that he is a good guy, is more like me, i think he is sexy! haha but that�s not all... when i see his eyes on his photos, im just lost, i�ve never tell him about it, he is angry right now with me, i guess, he doesnt let me explain nothing, really this is hurting me so much, cuz he is important even when i dont know him so much. But, God knows that he is important for me.. i guess more than my friend.. but the other guy is my friend a good friend.. who wants to make me happy and he wants to show with facts his love for me... !!!
I mean, i have an oportunity from someone who really wants to fight.. but sometimes i wish was the other guy... My bad boy... :( He doenst know that im calling him like that way... i missed him so much so so so so much..i cant concentrate me, sometimes in my heart i feel like he is what i want, but i guess he is not more interested, i dont know Im really sad.. cuz. if only he wanted to talk with me.. just one more time.. but i guess he dont want anymore... Im crying again right now..
