Author	Thread: Dating?
Christiancowboy1 View Profile History	Dating? Posted : 1 Jun, 2010 09:04 AM Dating? A word created by man and with only worldly ways. Our modern day society created the term dating, and even we as Christians have adopted it and justified it as ok. Taking the truth of marriage and the ways of the Lord out of how the Lord intends it to be and be built. To explain further, I will elaborate. Today people even Christians look for someone who they are attracted to, and maybe even enjoy talking to, and then jump right into dating that person. Yes! Right into a relationship. All done with no consideration to being equally yoked or even having any idea of what it means to be equally yoked. I may sound upset, and that is because I am! Our society has totally abandoned the ways of the Lord and now even the church justifies these worldly ways of dating or being in a relationship. Then when these two people decide to marry, the church now wants to have premarital classes...lol what a joke! The relationship was not started in the Lord. The two have no idea what being equally yoked means, or how to wait upon the Lord and allow him to show them step by step before entering into even a courtship time before marriage. So, how can the church of today expect these marriages to last or even grow in the Lord when they were never started in him to begin with? My heart truly bleeds for today�s Christians and how they are being told to be equally yoked maybe, but never given true understanding of it or guided in it. First off, I don�t think most young people or people today really sit down know who they are in the Lord. What I mean here is. What gifts do you have? What is your thinking and beliefs in the Lord? What direction do are you being lead by him that you were created by him to be? To me, how can one even begin to think about a relationship based upon and in the Lord without know these things about themselves? These are just truths to begin with. It goes much deeper. Truth is the Lord created every one of us, and has a his will and purpose for each of us. What makes us think we are smarter than the Lord, and can pick own spouse? When I stopped to think about this, it truly blow me away! For yes, I thought I knew what was best, when in truth I had no understanding of what I was doing. That is where most are at today also. Most do not have any true idea or understanding of the Lord�s ways or how to even follow him or how to allow him to prove all things in time. For if you desire a relationship in and of the Lord, you must begin by allowing him to prove all things in time. To me this does not mean jumping into meaningless dating relationships to see. No, it means getting to know the person inside through talking and communication, casual meeting as only a friend. It does not mean you should or have to be in a committed relationship or do the worldly dating to allow the Lord to prove these things. What I�m saying is first discover who you are in the Lord, and stop focusing on having worldly things in common with someone. Start focusing on the gifts and things of and in the Lord you have. If you desire a godly marriage, you sure will not build through worldly common things, huh? My heart truly bleeds and yearns for all to come to understand how to come to know who you are in the Lord and then allow him to prove all things for marriage in time and not taking steps or committing to anything he does not prove in time and make totally clear. For to follow him is to allow him. Assumption is only of self and off the path of waiting on him or allowing him to guide you. I pray this can truly help and bless many to understand the truth of a relationship in the Lord. Gods Continued Blessings And Love, David Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Dating? Posted : 1 Jun, 2010 12:24 PM I still don't think it's a big deal. The biblical record of the "new relationship" process is not very sparkly. I guess I just think that 2 people should already be trying to obey God on their own...that should be enough to put God first in a relationship. I don't see the need for a committee to convene to decide whether or not two people are attracted to each other. David's marriage to Bathsheba didn't start with a church class...it started with adultery and murder, yet God brought Jesus and the plan of salvation into the world through that relationship. I just think it's very simple. If you want to be in a relationship with someone...make sure you're both walking the same direction before you're married. You're trying to build a relationship...and if at any point the building starts falling down or turning into a poorly designed mess or you're using the wrong materials, then you probably shouldn't get married. It should be obvious to see for anyone that is serving God first. We just have to keep following what we know is right and keep our eyes opened. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating? Posted : 3 Jun, 2010 12:47 AM David, I can see that your Heart is in the right place and you want to do God's Will. As Don't Hit stated...if two people are Focused on God first and diligently strive to do His Will -- their Fruits will show them if they are following the right path. As for dating...how else will we be able to learn more about our prospective mate if not through spending time with them? So...I see "dating" as necessary and if used correctly as a means to the final goal of marriage. As for being equally yoked. I see no way around both of them being Christians. They must both be Christian. Steve Post Reply
Christiancowboy1 View Profile History	Dating? Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 09:28 AM Dating is just a worldly thing. One can in friendship and the respect of God allow him to prove in time if a relationship is equally yoked and his will without entering into the worldly dating thing and then try making your own desires and will be in the relationship. Blessings Brother! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dating? Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 11:46 AM Sarah went into Abraham's tent and became his wife. Somehow I don't get the feeling that both sets of parents and a priest were there to supervise while they talked about ministry strategies. Courting is based on biblical principles, but people are too quick to turn it into legalism. Two people with a strong focus on God being intentional about dating for marriage and with accountability in their lives don't necessarily have to be involved in a formal courting relationship. You never see the institution of courting in the bible, so all you can do is stick to the principles you see laid out and apply them as you see fit in each situation. You can't seriously expect a high school senior living with her parents to look for a husband the same way a 28 year old woman living three states away from her parents would. Post Reply