Author	Thread: What does being single and living the single lifestyle mean to a christian man or woman?
angelgirl80 View Profile History	What does being single and living the single lifestyle mean to a christian man or woman? Posted : 17 May, 2010 10:00 PM I've been doing a lot of thinking on the subject and I am curious if it means the same to a christian man or woman as it does to a non-christian? What I mean by that is that the majority of single people I have noticed only see being single and living the single lifestyle as the total freedom to do stuff such as lay up in a bar or nightclub 24-7 and sleep around with as many people and have as many sexual partners as humanly possible and indulge in drinking and recreational drug use and have no interest in being in a relationship, much less finding someone to settle down with and start a life and family with and these types usually go for someone that is as wild as they are and are into the partying and promiscuous sex to be with,even if it's short-term and the damage done to that person is irreparable because these types of relationships lead to infidelity as well as trust and honesty issues in not just the current relationship but any relationship that they may have in the future because they assume if my ex treated me that way,then everyone else will be like that and causes a lot of problems and make it difficult for good people to find a good man or woman because they think the next one will treat them like their ex did and they start treating the new boyfriend or girlfriend really bad because they're still carrying baggage around from the way their former boyfriends or girlfriends treated them, whichever the case may be. Now, keep in mind that the majority of these people that I have come across and 99% of the time the people that I am trying to describe are non-christians and the 1% are christians but somehow got confused somewhere down the line,but nevertheless do live like that for whatever reason. I am not trying to judge anyone in any way, shape or form but I have been doing a lot of thinking about this lately because it seems like someone like me, a good, christian woman who has a lot of love and affection to give and who would love nothing more than to find someone to settle down with and start a life and family with and would do anything in the world to make that happen,always get rejected or even ignored by men for other women who are into the partying and promiscuous sexual behavior and are usually thinner and prettier and have a lot of money and material things as well only for this particular type of woman to use them for what they could do for them or to further their own selfish agenda and treat them badly in the process, that they would choose over someone like me who would treat them like a king and would show him every day just how much I love him and would go out of her way to make him feel loved, wanted and needed. Don't get me wrong, women are just as guilty of men because I know where women totally ignore men that would treat them like a queen for some guy that treats them like garbage and moves on to someone else. I just wonder if being single and living the single lifestyle means the same to a christian man or woman as it does to a non-christian,who generally live the way that I have described in my post because most christians know that God would not approve and what does being single mean to a christian if they don't live their lives like that. If anyone has any thoughts on the subject please feel free to gve them or any advice on how to attract a good christian mate without having to resort to being wild or promiscuous (i.e.,constant partying and clubbing and sleeping around all the time with many different partners)God bless you and be with you :) Post Reply
View Profile History	What does being single and living the single lifestyle mean to a christian man or woman? Posted : 18 May, 2010 06:45 AM angel, For myself, the key is not being in a hurry. The Lord knows the desires of your heart. The thing is...we want His will for our lives and sometimes (all the time) that means waiting on Him. It's one of the hardest things to do as a christian in my opinion. In regard to the girls who live the way you described, well there is something that needs fulfilling within them. What they are really looking for is love and you and I know they can only find that in Jesus. The men they attract are not ready for a woman like you and believe me you dont want a man like that anyway. They may look appealing on the outside but on the inside there is chaos going on. I'm like you...waiting on the Lord. I am not promiscuous, I dont go to bars or clubs, I just live my life and sometimes get anxious but I know there is a reason for the season I am in. Your question is a deep one I can tell it's something you have figured out, haha= your in a good place right now, just continue to seek the Lord and please when you get impatient ask for peace from our Father. One thing that helped me tremendously was when I gave my desire to be married to God. I told him if he wanted to give me the gift of celebacy then I would take it, as long as I was in His will...whatever He wants for me, I'll take it. That is more important than what I want. The bigger picture is being used by Him and if I had to choose it would be Him. LOL I dont think he's going to make me choose but in case He did, I choose Him. Do you see what I'm saying?????? Since I did that...that anxious feeling went away. I focused alot on what the scriptures say about me. Who I am to Him and I prayed those scriptures and I thanked Him for what His word says. Those 2 things got me on the other side of the season your in right now. You will realize your identity in Christ and hey, the man that tries to talk to you better approach you as the princess that you are cuz... your Father is a King. p.s. I know that you know these things, we just need reminding sometimes. In love, Riveroflife Post Reply
View Profile History	What does being single and living the single lifestyle mean to a christian man or woman? Posted : 19 May, 2010 03:30 PM Does the man stan up for the ladies? How does he treat other women? Does he know when a lady sends the message just friends? The same guys for guys. Post Reply