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Admin	for the guys and girls Posted : 13 May, 2010 04:30 PM let's say you are dating someone a couple times and all of a sudden they do the thing, the thing that you cannot STAND and you know from that time forward that you will NEVER call this person again. What is that thing? or maybe it's not that your "dating" the person, but maybe a few phone conversations and they say something and you thought UH OH, forget it. what was it that he/she said???????????? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 13 May, 2010 05:17 PM Good question! The "thing" for me would vary depending on the stage of the relationship. All of this is assuming that the basics are there...single, Christian, and interesting as a potential 1) In the phone conversation stage: the "thing" would be making inappropriate/obscene comments on any topic. 2) In the actual dating stage: the "thing" would be acting inappropriate (particularly in a sexual way) or showing violence in any way. I'm sure there are other things that would make me say "no way, uh uh", but those are what come to mind right off. Post Reply
View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 13 May, 2010 06:57 PM Good question! It would vary, I guess. Lying -- for sure. Revealing themselves to not be a Christian. Coarse language or inappropriate humor. Unkindness to children/animals/older people. Those would all do it. Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 13 May, 2010 08:05 PM River... the one thing that would probably make me change my mind and back off would be his insistant approach of wanting/pursuing physically intimacy. Particularly if we are both professing Christians, yet this is the one thing (celibacy) I find out as we progress that he doesn't buy into. Of course there is the other things that bcp and godslamb mentioned too. ~ GraceMae Post Reply
View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 13 May, 2010 08:59 PM for me, "the thing" is revelation of the true person: specifically a case where i do not see the slightest reflection of Christ in them. evidence would be as listed by persons who replied before me and in my case the biggest red flag is a person who relies on me more heavily than they do Christ, "can't win with it! can't play with it! can't coach with it! *shaking head* can't do it!" (any TYT viewers in here?... no one?... oh well :laugh:) Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 13 May, 2010 09:18 PM Most likely it would be some sort of way out there theological statement. I'm fine with slightly different interpretations of the bible, especially if we're both open to opening the bible, praying, and really trying to figure out what it says. However, there are some pretty crazy beliefs out there that I just couldn't handle. On a similar note, if the girl is too immature to forgive me for past mistakes, then our relationship isn't going any further either. The biggest one is premarital sex. I am committed to seeking to honor God and not even pushing the boundaries with any future girlfriends, and I've asked God's forgiveness for my mistakes, but I'm not a virgin. Sadly, that is a deal breaker for some girls. What it says to me is, "I've made mistakes, but I'm very proud that I haven't made the same mistake you have, so even though Christ has forgiven you for it, I'm still going to hold it against you. Christ's blood was not enough to wash you clean in my eyes." Post Reply
View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 14 May, 2010 01:51 PM Based on if the Gent has stated he is a Christain.... # 1 Biggest Thing...When a Guy says G** D** it !!!!.... # 2 is I dont really buy into the whole God was man in the flesh thing or religion...an I dont go to church any more.... # 3 is lookin at other gals when ima talkin to him an when he sees my raised eyebrow offers...what ? its what men do !... Well...you may do all this else where...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 14 May, 2010 03:15 PM 1. It turns out that they're not actually a Christian in the first place. 2. They say obscene/crude things on the phone or in IM or in person, etc... 3. They do drugs. 4. They don't see a problem with drinking excessively, or smoking. (I cannot stand smoking, or the smell of cigarette smoke, and so I won't date someone who smokes- they are actively choosing to hurt their lungs and give themselves lung disease or lung cancer.) 5. They aren't willing to accept me as I am- flaws and all, but instead want to change me. "Why can't you just be cute and say yes?" someone told me once, because i offered an explanation for something instead of a one word answer. Sorry- that's just how I am. And always will be- though i sometimes attempt to curb it. 6. Pressures me for physical intimacy or fixates on talking about it and asking me about experiences and likes/dislikes in that area- ESPECIALLY when I've only talked to them for two days. 7. They are significantly different in beliefs from me- I'm Baptist/Southern Baptist... and not EVERY denomination is compatible with that... it doesn't matter if you don't like denominations... the beliefs you have themselves have to match up, because agreement on spiritual matters is important to me. Post Reply
View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 15 May, 2010 07:30 AM When I was on the phone the other day one of my cats went after my pizza.what do you think happened?????? Extreme violence and threats to the cat. Would you still date me ladies? After hearing me say, "I'm going to end your stupid life, you stupid cat, stay away from the PIZZA!!!!!!!!!!!" Post Reply
View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 15 May, 2010 10:37 AM threats to a cat with normal language are fine, lol. if you had used expletives... that would make me feel uncomfortable to listen to on the other end of the phone. I am firmly persuaded that expletives don't have much of a constructive place in the english language and that most of the time people use them because their vocabularies are too small to communicate what they intend to, and they need to go buy a dictionary. Either that or they think that expletives are cool.... and crude does not equal cool. Post Reply
View Profile History	for the guys and girls Posted : 15 May, 2010 12:13 PM yeah, I'm with you guys. foul language, bad temper, the talk of sex or suggestions, when he does nothing but talk about himself or brings up past relationships.:rolleyes: those are huge for me. also impatience is a turn off Post Reply

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