Author	Thread: commitments
Admin	commitments Posted : 25 Jan, 2010 07:33 AM This is what everyone who has never been married should read.What are your duties as a spouse? How far must you go to protect your family? What would you really do to save your family? Many of you have different ideas.What is your responsiblity? Svitlana my x was from eastern Europe.90% of the women over there have never driven a car.I taught her after we got married.I was cool and calm.Russian women are the worst drivers.:ROFL: Funny joke. The 3rd week of the marriage was the worst.The Ukrainian elections took place.When the Ukraine president lost he said that was wrong.He really won.Svitlana's son was in the army.She thought cival war was going to happen.This all happened Thanksgiving week.I shut my mouth and took the heat. When her son's release date came the Major wanted money to sign the release papers.By the way this was a bribe.I paid it.We had only so many days till immagration canceled her sons chance.So,I was stuck.That major knew this. The ukraine pays privates in the army $4 a month no jokes people. I took my wife to Orlando FL for a nice vacation after we got married.I gave up the rest of my vacation time the next 2 years taking my wife and step son to immigration. I got my wife her job, a friend of mine hired her because she needed a job.She was still learning english.I did the same for her son when he got here, a family friend hired him. Some of you have said that you would leave you spouse if they behaved a certain way.Like drunkness, mistreat you, or several other nonbiblical reasons.I do not believe those people understand what love and commitment are.taking care of children is a bigger responsiblity than I thought. Paying a bribe!!!!!!! It was her son. she wanted him to come to the USA.I paid for our trip to New york to get him she paid for his ticket.This dismisses the false idea that some guys on this site want a slave for a wife as I was accused of. With out do cause?I paid and I paid,ok.Immigration fees are not cheap. So,what is love about people.She left me when things went bad for me.When I got laid off and was told I would not get my job back she bailed out on me.I have one thing to say, remember those vows I kept them, she did not. For better or worse sickness and health richer or pooer wow:glow: As she left she said I did nothing wrong.Of course I didn't. I was the loyal spouse.This is what you need to think about. The only 2 reasons to end a marriage is for adultery or if a unbeliever wants to leave you. This is all about love and commitment.What price will you pay! I could write so much more but I will stop here. Post Reply
View Profile History	commitments Posted : 25 Jan, 2010 10:51 AM dear dg, you was a mighty good man to this woman.. im very sorry you got left by her.. you made a deep committment to her.. if i remember right you said she left you when you lost your job.. thats tough.. have you ever been able to find it in your heart to forgive her? cause thatd take alot of forgivin.. i am sure it was hard to do. ole cattle Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	commitments Posted : 25 Jan, 2010 08:03 PM hi dgr.... You are a blessed man. You did what you were called to do according to your commitment to God. Some get it, some don't, but God is the one who is in control and He sees all and knows the hearts of man. We have to be mindful all the time in remembering (as you have) that the commitment of marraige requires a spiritual faithfulness to God to be able to do what we're called to do in obedience to Him alone (as Christ loved the church) to enable us to be equipped to do the sacrificial, unconditional things that will test our faith and our obedience to being that Godly husband or wife. The book of James tells us to "count it ALL joy" and the testing truly does build up our endurance forthe rest that we don't know is coming in future. All we have to do is walk it out, stay committed and go through it. I believe God reveals all, and He gives His best to us all as we succeed in "standing" in our faith. Even through the recovery, especially through the recovery of the bad times. ~ GraceMae Post Reply
View Profile History	commitments Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 08:20 AM I have forgiven my x, Svitlana and moved on.As I wrote that I had to stop.Much more to say.My wifes future daughter-in-law was plotting against my marriage. So, it was not all the x wifes fault she allowed herself to be influenced.Dennis Post Reply