This is a proverbs 31 woman.The chapter gives advice on being wise and of good council.Even befre marriage she will save herself for the man god has for her.She wats to please god by making wise decsions to honor her husband.She comes togod in a humble manner.Not puffed up or stubbern.But willing to submit to god and her husband.She knows that her husband is the priest and the leader of the home.This is appointed by god.
She is wise in her council and waits on god to bring her good things.She is not one who will rush to a fast decsion or make rash judgements.She will show respect to het husband even before god reveals that man to her.She will honor him in not even taking the appearence of foolishness.Read this a few times.
I have read so many times on profiles and posts how men are looking for the Proverbs 31 woman. BUT, are they really? A proverbs 31 woman is not going to condone activity that does not glorify God. A Proverbs 31 woman is a rare and special person, and if a man is praying for one, he better make sure he has all his stuff together and in order, because God is not going to hand out the best of his daughters to someone who isn't worthy of it. And that means to men who think they shoudl have dominance. A Proverbs 31 woman is not a slave except to Christ.. and is not to be Lorded over except by her LORD. She is submit to her LOVING husband.. but I have heard this passage used over and over, as well as other scripture in marriage to make the woman feel beneath the husband.
And as far as submitting to a man before he is her husband. I completely disagree. You cannot ask a woman to do that unless she is within the safefy and security of the marriage convenant. Intimacy isn;t reached on the wedding night.. It is built in conversation and relationship. For you to ask her to submit to your authority before you are wed is to expect TOTAL intimacy before there is a marriage and that is completely ungodly.
There is a great book I read about Biblical Womanhood and Manhood and it realyl helped open my eyes to TRUE Biblical truth.. It is by John Piper andI suggest anyone who wants to understand Biblical submission, andthe ROLES within relatioships and marriage.. to read it.
I'm still looking for the Proverbs 31 man? They would be the ones worthy of the proverbs 31 woman.
How is it possible to disagree with being a woman who submits her self to gods will and her husbands will before marriage.
Even if you do not know who he is you expect to get treated a certain moral way.Do we just throw morals out the door?
See my point.
I have never had a intimate relationship outside of marriage.It must also be that way for both sexes.You submit yourself to your future husband by doing gods will and behaving as if you already know who he is.This is not being a mans slave but just expecting guys to treat you as if you were there sister.
Once you are saved you change to be a new creature in christ.
In this country it is a fact that the liberal womans movement has twisted what submission is.They say it is ok to have childern outside of marriage.God has always said different.He put a father and a mother here for a reason.
God the father is the head of the house
The Holy Spirit plays the mother who lets us know the fathers will by pointing to Jesus.
Jesus is the 1st born son who looks out after all his younger brothers ad sisters.
Do you now see my point here?
If you disagree with not behaving as if you were married before meeting your husband is it ok to have sex outside of marriage,surely not!!!!!!
This post was meant to bring out gods will in a positive way.If you disagree with this maybe some soul searching needs to be done?Is this to high a standard for you?Are you being convicted by god about an immoral decsion you have made outside of gods will.
My X wife was only supportive of me when things were good. When things got bad she flew the coop and left. We need commitment before marriage and after.
i think sometimes women who look for a man worthy of a proverbs woman and sometimes the men who look for a proverbs woman ,sometimes i believe we may be looking for perfection too much..
as thats very hard for anyone to live up to..
the proverbs woman wasnt she something? that woman was smart , a hard worker, wonderful homemaker,wonderful mother,wonderful wife, wonderful business woman,good neighbor,and she had a servants heart.. a heart for others more than herself..
In no way was I condoning or supporting any immoraitly, or anything outside of Marriage.. What I mean by submitting ourselves to men before they are our husbands.. is this.. There are men out there, who expect that if you are in a "pre marriage" relationship (without a ring..) (aka dating, courting whatever you want to call it).. that you are to submit to them as your LEADERSHIP. I am not saying intimatly.. I am saying.. in every way but.. That you should submit yourself to THEIR "approval" before they are the "HEAD" of a HOME..
That is what i am saying. And I SAY that is unbiblical. Because God does not call a MAN to LEAD a woman who is not is WIFE..
and Marriage bring about privilages (including intimate oness)... that are ONLY given within MARRIAGE and Headship is one of them.
and I have heard many men say.. ifyou arent willing to submit to me before we get married, how am I to know you would submit after we are???? And I am like.. have you no faith in GOD, and can you not see me submitted to HIS will enough to KNOW that I would within the confinds of marriage???
But these women DO exhist. And the thing is.. They won't be advertising it. They won't be pointing out things that you should see shingin from them. Because they are too humble to do it. They just do what the know the Lord has told them to do.. and leave the rest in his hands.
And that is the way it should be. And I agree that when you say that is what you are looking foryou have already placed a HUGE Expecatation on the relationship. And it is one that any woman is NOT going to live up to all the time.
So it's just too much to ask. Especially if you the man are not willing to do the exact same thing back... and that means in all areas of your lives..
Too many men want this.. but it really woudl shame them if they had it.. They couldn;t handle it. It woudl be too much to their "self worth".. if a woman can do all these things.. and men are supposed to be LEADING.. doesn't that mean the MEN shoudl LEAD by EXAMPLE?
Being a good Father, husband, neighbor, buisnessman, homemaker/caretaker.. etc.etc.etc.
Do MEN REALLY want to step up to the plate? Cause that is what GOD wants.. MEN TO BE MEN... and STEP up to the PLATE.. Men shoudl OUTSERVE their Wives.. because that is how you LEAD.. by example.
I'm interested in reading the book you recommended.
I find that men abuse Proverbs 31 and use it as an excuse to walk on their wives like doormats then they blame their wives for leaving them. Wake up men and smell the coffee. Husbands are suppose to be humble to their wives like Jesus was humble to his disciples. Men are suppose to love their wives like Christ loved the church. Wives likewise are called to be humble to their husbands.
The bible intends for men to love their wives and women to love their husbands. It's not one sided.
If ur demanding ur wife to submit to you then you have the wrong mindset and should never marry for ul surely end in divorce. No real woman is going to put up with that treatment for long.
Your wife will crave and yearn to be humble to you when you love her like Christ loved the church and dont just say you do but treat her as such every day. Actions speak louder than words stop taking her for granted. She will respect you when you place Jesus first in ur life.
I don't want a perfect man in fact the character flaws makes me more intrigued in his uniqueness. When I break up with a man I remember his flaws most. I equally am far from perfect but with that said I refuse to settle for less than God's best for me. We should never get desperate and settle for less than you deserve. I would prefer singleness over being married to a man who demands me to be a door mat. One thing I will never be is any man's door mat. Wrong girl for that. Don't play that game. I was raised better than that.
