Author	Thread: 5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend
Handyman62 View Profile History	5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend Posted : 17 Nov, 2024 12:37 PM In my quest to become more informed on female nature I ran across this Female marriage therapist and found her to be very honest and knowledgeable on female and relationship dynamics. She has many you tube videos on the subject and I would put a link to them but as some people don't know it's actually against the terms of service on this site. Anyway I just posted a couple paragraphs of the beginning of the video. I also added girlfriend to where it said wife because I believe it's just as important to apply what she's saying to a girlfriend or just about any other male/female relationship. I can confidently say that because I'm having the same type of problems with all the women on these forums because I tell the unvarnished truth. If you want to see the video I'm referencing or others she has posted you can do a google search for Karyn Seitz - youtube. You can then go to her video section and pick and choose from her offerings. 5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend By Karyn Seitz. So I'm not condoning or telling good men to lie, but helping women and good men to understand that as women you'll hear this many times today that we (women) are not emotionally mature enough to handle the responsibility of knowing the truth. So how do we understand that both as women and good men, and find what works in the relationship? It's not good or bad, we literally are wired differently and we literally live in two different realities. Good men must know you cannot trust your wife/girlfriend with the truth and yet there are times you are going to need to share the truth. We'll talk about how to do that for good men and how women are to handle that, but good men need to see the reality of their wives/girlfriends and understand the dynamics in your relationship so that you are not duped by your wife/girlfriend. Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend Posted : 17 Nov, 2024 04:55 PM CONTINUED: I'm not emotionally mature enough that you are supposed to be completely transparent which is what we Gaslight you to think you should do. But you can't and this is for us as women to understand our differences, accept them and find a path forward in the marriage/relationship that works. As I shared I'm not wiring as a woman to handle all the truths my husband might tell me and I have a very very honest husband that knows. And if he was with me today would tell you he overshares. He's an over sharer and he knows that and I have to embrace it to make me stronger but I can't always handle everything he tells me and there's plenty that I would rather not know that about ourselves. As women us thinking that we need to know every little thing in every deep thought or fear or feeling from our husbands and embrace our differences and find that dance and actually create a safe environment when something does need to be shared that we can put on our big girl pants, find the emotional maturity in us and work through it and not weaponize it against our husbands Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend Posted : 17 Nov, 2024 05:21 PM Women weaponize truth Five reasons a good man should not be honest with his wife/girlfriend and knowing that there are caveats to this and not condoning lying but understanding our differences as women and good men. Number one women weaponize the truth and vulnerabilities of their husbands/boyfriend. Women will use a good man's vulnerabilities and truth as ammunition as to why our husbands/boyfriends can't be trusted which results the response of a good man to his wife/girlfriend knowing his truths and vulnerabilities are used as ammunition against him is why he begins to hide things it's a protective mechanism. It is not a malicious path to hurt his wife/girlfriend. An example is telling your wife/girlfriend about your past mistakes even before you met her you think it's a safe place to share your past maybe mistakes you've made, relationships you've had with women. You share thinking that it it's okay to do so and your wife/girlfriend says yeah you can share that with her and then she stores it and we use it as ammunition against you in a multitude of ways. Tell me the examples men or ladies how you've done this and and Men sharing examples of how this has happened in your marriage/relationship that helps normalize these issues for each other to know we're not alone. The second reason a good man should not be honest with his wife. Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend Posted : 17 Nov, 2024 05:27 PM More to come: Just to be clear I only planned on posting a small portion of the video but it's to juicy and most will probably not look up her videos. Also I have to get the text from google translate so it doesn't do a perfect job transcribing and I have to try and fix what I can so it takes time. I will post more of it tomorrow afternoon. Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend Posted : 18 Nov, 2024 02:36 PM Your honesty will be perceived as hurtful: Honesty and vulnerability will be perceived by your wife/girlfriend as hurtful and wrong for who she is so for example. A Good Man is a problem solver he would like to share with his wife his challenges in the marriage and relationship and his experience. Some of you listening may have done this by sharing a video or two with your wife/girlfriend. So lets say you bring up to your wife/girlfriend "you don't listen to me" Meaning I share with you what I'm feeling or a problem I'm having and you don't hear me and you're not willing to do anything about it and you just make me feel like I'm wrong. You tell your wife/girlfriend that in a kind calm way to try to work on the issue and then the wife/girlfriend will turn that around and take it as a personal attack and perceive that you're telling us we are wrong or defective in some way. And then we'll go into total crazy making mode and turn it back onto the husband/boyfriend and make him the bad guy of why we do the things we do which then a good man gets sucked into that gets gas lighted thinking that there's some validity to what his wife/girlfriend is saying and the issue gets turned back on him and things he needs to change. A good man will try to change those things and his wife/girlfriend still isn't happy and is still making him wrong and the bad guy. Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend Posted : 18 Nov, 2024 03:14 PM The third reason a good man should not be honest with his wife/girlfriend is women can conflate what you do and associate it with something totally unrelated. It's not uncommon to tell your wife/girlfriend one thing and then she turns it into a totally separate issue and conflates the truth you are telling her and we will say if you did this how can I trust you over here with that and and just blow it up to be so much bigger than what it is. Maybe you shared with your wife/girlfriend that you went to a strip club once with some friends and she gets upset and says well if you did this once how do I know you're not doing it now? Or if you did this then how do I know you're not cheating on me with other women and she will totally conflate that. I have another example from a student who his wife/girlfriend was constantly on him about what he ate and his diet and he is a healthy guy. Physically active and reasonably healthy. But he liked to enjoy an ice cream from Dairy Queen once in a while and he also liked some Oreo's. And his wife/girlfriend would fly off the handle if any of those things were in the house and this was like a a pretty stout guy. I also remember him sharing that his wife would make him lunch but only make him half a sandwich with a little side of veggies to eat. But he would hide Oreo's in the trunk of his car so when he wanted an Oreo he could have them without his wife being on his back about having an Oreo and she conflated that with if you're lying about this and hiding this from me then I can't trust you with anything. So what else are you lying to me about? And that's how women conflate the issues. Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	5 Reasons A Good Man Should Not Be Honest with His Wife/Girlfriend Posted : 19 Nov, 2024 12:19 PM Telling the truth makes you a liar: Four of why good men should not tell or not why good men should not be honest with their wives telling the truth makes you a liar in her eyes. This one really looks to me was a total mind Fbomb. This is what we do and I had to see this in myself again while I was late coming on today I had to see these things in me in a deeper way than I have before. Telling the truth makes you a liar in her eyes ain't that just like crazy. So some examples, maybe you were scared to tell your wife you were going to go away with some buddies for a couple days to go hunt or fish and didn't want to face how she would make you feel doing that. Or say you've got a a business trip so you tell your wife I've got a business trip these couple days but you're actually going hunting or fishing with your guy buddy and lied. So you tell your wife I lied and I am really sorry I told you this but this actually what happens when you tell the truth and then she makes you a liar. Well you're a total liar so what else are you lying to me about? So telling the truth makes you a liar in your wife's eyes and number five why a good man should not be honest with his wife we twist your truth into our victim hood. Post Reply