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CDFF21467^ View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 02:50 PM Given how toxic and antisocial my generation is on top of their hateful views on christians and relationships as a whole what's the point of even bothering trying to find someone??? i mean I been looking for almost 8 years since my late fiancé died and been on a small handful of dates. like literally no one my age wants relationships. everyone my age just wants a sinful hookup or a free meal. and kids nope, kids are apparently a burden to be avoided like a plague. heck it's hard to even get someone my age to say hello back when I say hi. like why would I or anyone my age even bother trying to make friends with someone our own age let alone bothering to try and start a relationship???? Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 03:50 PM Don’t give up‼️ I know that feeling all too well. I always seemed able to find some theological fault with nearly all my dates. Later, I kinda wondered if I shoulda married one of em—-but maybe not. Too many ladies seem stuck on some sort of relationship with their religion and its traditions rather than seeking a relationship with the God and his word as guide. Some women remain stuck in their self-imposed forms of charismania with all its peculiarities AND other sets of nonsense. Can’t be too harsh on the ladies alone because most have been taught a bunch of twaddle and tosh from an unqualified “pastor” who found his ordination card on a cereal box You’ll think I’m really picky, but why do women think they look better after they chop their long hair off⁉️⁉️⁉️ 1 Corinthians 11:15 but if a woman has long hair, 👉it is her glory👈👈? For long hair is 👉👉given to her👈👈as a covering. Post Reply
CDFF21467^ View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 04:15 PM "I know that feeling all too well. I always seemed able to find some theological fault with nearly all my dates" at lest you're getting dates. i'm super lucky to get a hello. Post Reply
CDFF21467^ View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 04:18 PM and the guys my age are just as bad. try being friends with them and it's the same antisocial nonsense. I have two friends my age, two, the rest are 10+ years older. Post Reply
NarnianGirl View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 04:32 PM I'm sure many ladies of your age group are thinking the same.. 'Where are all the men, who can communicate and are willing to build a relationship?' That has been the question of Christian women as long as I have been one. All around the world. It is not any better with the men of my generation (40-50+).. In the last ten years, I have known a handful of dudes who were able to relate to ladies as human beings & sisters in Christ. and actually have a friendship. I do get it that social anxiety is a common problem, and seems to be getting worse. Still, it does make things very challenging.. as a woman I cannot keep on carrying the man on my shoulders, he has to have his own backbone and ability to do his part to build a connection. The natural ebb and flow. So sorry to hear it is hard in your area. Keep on asking, knocking and seeking... Post Reply
CDFF21467^ View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 04:42 PM "social anxiety is a common problem" you sure got that right Post Reply

CDFF21467^ View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 04:47 PM 8 years of trying has gotten me nowhere at all. girl one, one date then a text claiming I caused her to lose her job, something about a google review 🤷‍♂️ didn't even know where she worked 🤦‍♂️ girl two send me nude photos at flipping church, like literally at a a church service 🤮 girl 3 just wanted a free meal... the rest I can't even get a conversion out off. like what's the point when people my age are so crazy and toxic??? Post Reply
NarnianGirl View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 04:54 PM Wow. Sorry to hear.. nude pics, yikes. (something that too many men are willing to provide, too! does someone really think it makes them look more appealing as a potential spouse?) Sounds like you need to expand your horizons and look elsewhere, outside your exact location.. Post Reply
CDFF21467^ View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 05:24 PM 'Sounds like you need to expand your horizons and look elsewhere, outside your exact location..' I have. it's an common thing with people my age. I been messaging people all over the county. also don't even bother setting foot on a non christian dating site, you will want to poke your eyes out. Post Reply
NarnianGirl View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 05:28 PM Yeah. Not worth it... (even though I have heard some Christians meeting even at secular sites... not something I'd ever try.) Post Reply
NarnianGirl View Profile History	what's the point of even bothering? Posted : 22 May, 2023 05:35 PM Not wanting to bash Christian men .. but I have come across some who have very strong theological doctrinal convictions and conservative political views.. and they don't see anything wrong with some sex talk etc... There's someone I have known just as a brother (nothing romantic from my side), and all of the sudden, he tells me he's busy video chatting with a non-Christian woman Someone apparently not too prudish. ... Had he talked with a Christian woman, I would have been happy for him... but nope. This supposedly a mature Christian, decades in the faith. Some people - men and women - don't let their beliefs bother them too much, if they want to enjoy some 'forbidden fruit' for entertainment and ego boost... Post Reply