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You have the final say in choosing your spouse....
Posted : 9 Sep, 2009 03:20 PM
This Is just Something I came acrossed and I wanted to share It with you all.
Articles - Relationships
by Creflo A. Dollar
Adam liked what he saw and accepted her as a companion and friend. Eve was first a companion, then later a wife. The best relationships stem from solid friendships.
If you feel alone, be a friend or companion to a few of the five billion people on the planet today. You don't need to marry any of them to solve your loneliness problem.
Be a friend first�your wife may come from that relationship! I'm sure you've heard the phrase, "God chose that person just for me." That's absolutely false! God will not and cannot make that choice for you because it would violate your freedom of choice.
If He only made one person for you, then He would be taking away your free will and taking on the responsibility of that relationship. And He's not going to do that!
The relationship you develop with another person�how you establish and maintain it�is your responsibility. This means you are responsible for both the successes and failures that may come of it. So when you choose, don't be overly spiritual or spooky.
The common everyday events of life aren't super-spiritual. You've got to use common sense and mix it with spiritual maturity if or when you choose a mate.
Forget the idea that there is only one person in the whole world for you. There are many "right" people, and God will make many presentations to you. It is His plan to give you the right to choose.
He has purposely limited Himself to only expressing His wishes and His will for you. For example, it's not His will for anyone to live or die without knowing Jesus Christ, but He has left the choice up to every individual.
Make The Choice
Adam chose to take Eve as his wife, just as you must choose someone. If he hadn't chosen her, I have no doubt that God would have made another. God illustrated our power to choose by simply presenting Eve to her future mate.
That's a vital truth that you can't afford to miss.
Hook, Line And Sinker
I'll never forget the day that God presented Taffi to me. I was sitting in Bible study and I heard the Lord say, "Look up." There she was! God asked me, "Do you like what you see?" I said, "Yes!"
I had enjoyed the presentation, but the rest was my responsibility. Of course, I was a little slow in making the first move, so she had to help me.
One day after I finished teaching, Taffi walked up to me and said, "I just wanted to let you know that I'm interested in you, so do whatever you want with that."
Then she turned and walked out of the room!
I thought she would be all over me after that announcement. But then she acted like I didn't even exist. She would walk right past me without saying a word. She had given me the bait, and if I was too stupid to get it, then she was obviously through with it!
Taffi has always been a wonderful soul-winner, so true to her nature she started bringing other guys to my Bible study group. And they weren't average guys�they were good-looking gentlemen!
Can't you just picture me? I could hardly teach wondering what was up with all of that. It was becoming very clear that I had to hurry up and make a move. So after another Bible study, I caught up with her.
I said, "Don't bring anyone else to Bible study."
She said, "Doesn't the Bible tell us to do that?"
"Yes, the Bible says that," I shot back. "So let someone else bring them. You need to come to Bible study with me and let them get here in whatever way they can!"
I was determined that the Lord would help them, but Taffi was coming with me! After that, we dated for three years. She was my friend and companion at first. We had a great time together playing tennis, going to the movies and just talking.
Then one day my eyes were opened, and I realized how much I loved her. She was my choice for a wife. Men, when God presents someone to you, act on it! A woman likes uniqueness, honesty, integrity and straightforwardness.
Don't sit back trying to think of a line. Just be yourself and say something simple like, "Hello, how are you? My name is so and so. Do you think we could go out with some friends and have dinner sometime, or could I call you to talk?"
If she says no, then that's the risk you have to take. You have to know how to walk away from that rejection and remain whole. Don't feel bad about yourself or get upset and start talking about her.
You must learn to pursue what you are interested in. Sometimes a woman says no just to see if you are really interested.
At times it impresses her if you try again another way. Whatever you do, make a move! God will not do it for you.
Source: The Successful Family Book by Creflo and Taffi Dollar.
Excerpt permission granted by Creflo Dollar Ministries
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