Why do guys get offended when we (women) tell them that we'd like to get to know them a little more, before meeting with them in person or giving them our phone number?..
For if a person has had their phone number for a good length of time, anyone can pull their information up (such as different background history, address etc.), and truthfully I don't care to share my personal information with just anyone... Even if you block your number "most of us and now days, don't accept call blocking (for safety precautions)...
It's not that I'm against meeting a man (I just don't want to meet "any man"). For once I have learned & become more acquainted with him (on this site), and the feelings are mutual, "I'd love to meet him in person"... But there are steps we must take, just in order to get to the first phone call... For I'd like to know enough about him and feel comfortable "before meeting him in person or providing him with a number in order to talk on the phone"... (I've tried blocking my number and calling them, "only to see that they have a feature on their phone that doesn't allow blocked calls")... Then when you tell them about it, their reply is "they didn't know" (excuse me, but that is a RED FLAG and WRONG ANSWER), I then perceive you are on someone else's phone or in a relationship... That is why I believe in going through a process of elimination...
My rules and reasoning's are as follows:
1. Communicating on the site (first); This will show his or her patients and willingness to communicate (as well as getting to know more about them)...
2. Don't Move Quickly or Take Desperate Measures; Because I'm not desperate for a man, yet it's my choice to be in-love & pure with a Godly Man...
3. My Reasoning For My Decisions; Just as I like to take extra precautions before pulling out of the parking lot or follow a maps direction, "I want to know who, why and where I am going"... Can you relate to that?... Or is it me?
Is there some new ways to dating or carrying yourself (as a woman), "that I'm not aware of?" Maybe there's some things I need to be aware of, because I was with my last husband for seventeen years (and was married to my kids father and with him for almost ten years). So honestly, this is all new to me again (especially when I'm not a club goer, drinker, smoker or drug user)... I'm beginning to feel that there's a foreign formula or equation to dating (during this day & age)...
I've been told by a few men that "I appear to carry myself with confidence and security, as if I was still happily married" (with one being a married member, at the church where I've been attending for about four years). But it's really funny, because how does a man see or feel something like that? Or what does that actually mean?
Better yet and to address the ladies, why are unwed single women jealous of a woman that has been married "when they attend single activities in the church?" I can't steal, nor take something that God has for you and vice verse (and I sure wouldn't wish the abusive marriages on you, so I don't have nothing up on you or to brag about). But I can offer you a word of wisdom & good advice, "LOOK DEEP BEFORE YOU LEAP" (smile)...
Please, I know I'm not alone and we as Christians should be able to help or discuss solutions, in order to better equip the bodies of Christ (meaning Christian Men & Women)...
I'm just an old fashioned girl, awaiting my man with that missing rib... However, I want to be the crown of wisdom, love and virtue to my King (so I can make my Heavenly Father proud of His work)... Because greater is He, that is within me!..
Love Ya Much, Brotha's & Sista's N' Christ:waving:
I hear you sister and I feel ur pain. We're in this together. I like you an far from desperate when it comes to meeting my man.
I didn't wait this many years for chopped liver I'm awaiting for what God has reserved for me and settling for none less than God's best.
I get irritated when the man acts like somethings wrong with you when you refuse to ride in his car with him and when u refuse to be alone with him. I'm playing it safe when it comes to meeting these men over the Internet. If the guy has a problem with this then he's not for me. There are a lot of wackos out there and some right here on this website been already finding out.
Us women have to use discernment and a lot of prayers to Jesus when it comes to meeting someone off the Internet.
One thing that has been working for me is I have a prepaid phone that I give out to men who ask for my number and I let then call me on that then I ask them if I can call them back on my main cell phone number that has all my free cell phone minutes on it.? When I call them back on my main cell phone number I block my number. So far the guys haven't blocked me fromcalling them. I like doing this way cuz I like the guy to initiate interest and take the manly role by calling me first.
