Author	Thread: Forgiveness
Admin	Forgiveness Posted : 23 Jun, 2020 11:38 AM If someone gets angry with for something that you've done and you don't even know what you do you apologize to them? If you do and they don't accept your apology how does it make you feel, especially if that person claims to be a christian? Are you wrong for apologizing? No. Is the person that person you apologized to wrong for not forgiving you? Yes. Because if they claim to have the love of God in their hearts and they don't want to forgive you for what you may or may not have done then they don't have the love of God in their hearts. We should forgive everyone, no matter how much they do against us. Isn't that what God does? And yes we are not God and we are not Jesus, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try to be more like them everyday. We should put ourselves last and put the Lord first. We should throw out our pride and let the love of God guide our hearts. God loves you and He wants you to love one another, no matter how hard it might be. I love you. God loves you. He is good. God bless you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Forgiveness Posted : 23 Jun, 2020 12:41 PM If you apologize to get forgiveness you are apologizing for the wrong reason. Forgiveness and apologies are two separate issues. Nine Essential Ingredients of a True Apology 1. Does not include the word "but". 2. Keeps the focus on your actions and not the other person's response. 3. Includes an offer of reparation that fits the situation. 4. Does not overdo. 5. Doesn't get caught up in who's more to blame or who started it. 6. Requires that you do your best to avoid a repeat performance. 7. Should not serve to silence. 8. Shouldn't be offered to make you feel better if it risks making the other party feel worse. 9. Does not ask the hurt party to do anything, not even forgive. Dr. Harriet Lerner Author of Why Won't You Apologize? Not all apologies are worthy of being accepted. Some are don't amount to much. Once, someone apologized to me. She wasn't sorry for what she did. She was just sorry for doing it in front of me and it was something would have been wrong even if I hadn't seen. I didn't accept it. Also, are you talking about the woman who accused you of stalking her? I read your account of that. According to your own words, she asked you to not contact her again and then, after that, you did contact her again. It may have been to apologize, but that makes no difference. An apology doesn't mean much if you are doing what you are apologizing for at the same time that you are apologizing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Forgiveness Posted : 23 Jun, 2020 01:58 PM Country, I don't care how the apology is worded and I don't care about the reason why they are apologizing. We should forgive them no matter what they did. Even if they don't apologize we still need to forgive. And no, I'm not referring about that, and no she did not tell me not to contact her again and I never said that she did. Post Reply
View Profile History	Forgiveness Posted : 23 Jun, 2020 02:06 PM My apologies. I guess I need to go reread it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Forgiveness Posted : 23 Jun, 2020 02:20 PM Forgiving someone and accepting an apology are two different things. You do not have to accept an apology to forgive someone. Some apologies are lies and should not be accepted. Would you accept it if someone told you the sky was green, instead of blue? Sometimes people apologize in order to manipulate you. You can tell someone or think to yourself, I don't think you are being sincere, but I forgive you anyway. You do not even have to be offered an apology in order extend forgiveness. Post Reply