Let's address a question that may be in the minds of many of us.....
I have been a member for about four years. My contacts in a snapshot,
Many fakes and scammers
Some good friends through the chat rooms
100 mails from Christians exclusive of scammers/fakes
Favourite by few
And recently, a hear break!
Please rate my profile and honestly tell me my sins of commission and omission lol. There must be reasons why there's less success stories despite the huge population of singles in cdff, most looking for long term relationship and marriage.
Blessings my sister! First of all, your profile is well written and in my opinion, wisely thought through! You were transparent where needed, yet deliberate in what you're expecting from your life mate and what he can expect from you!
Now with that said, I'm also of the opinion that "online dating" is a venue we have adjusted to in society that has not only made many of us "complacent" in honestly seeking an intimate, personal, face-to-face relationship with someone but for some, has turned into somewhat a "tool" of "disposal" when things get a little complicated and dealing head on with issues that will surely arise along the journey, becoming too bothersome or difficult!! Most simply opt to become MIA(missing in action) by simply no longer responding to messages or blocking access to their profile!!
And we can be here forever discussing the whole "scam/span" plight but that will probably forever be a part of the process(smile)! Waiting on The Lord and His timing in this experience, imo, will always be the most difficult thing to do!! But He did still say to wait on Him and He would renew our strength!! Who is for you my sister, is for you. And who is not...well thank God He has a way of stepping in and removing what was not His best from the start. Stay encouraged and don't get weary! I've found out now more than ever that God really does know what He's doing, lol(smile)!!
Hiya Hispresencemypeace! It's been long my sister!
Thank you for your feedback and kindness.
Easy come love, easy go.......i think lol.
So true, online dating is dynamic and we get surprises day in day out. It's sometimes hard to know what to expect tomorrow, though you may have a dearly conversation today! Without any warning, some go into hibernation, some delete their account, some block access to their profile, some end relationship, and some are banned. We kind of tune our mind to expect anything!
Scammers and fakes are an integral part of online dating. A very annoying kind of people whose mission seems to hurt other people's feelings and bank accounts lol. Thank God people are learning fast and catching up with the tricksters strategies.
The best thing about the online dating is the good friends I have made through the chat rooms. I enjoy the interactive family. There people are more 'real'. You get good advice and insights.
I sure believe God has a right partner according to His plan. Waiting on Him is the best choice. Even Christians prove untrustworthy in matters of the heart. Thank God He comes in to seperate if the relationship is not right. One thing I have learnt is you shouldn't trade off too much in life. Otherwise, you end up losing yourself. The needs of both partners equally matter. People ought to meet each other half way. Honesty as a virtue is very important.
The dilemma for most people is how to find that special partner who fits in the jigsaw. Unfortunately, in most cases the jigsaw is a selfish expectation.......myself AND NOT us! Well, I say wait on God. Don't settle for less for convenience sake. There's one person who deserves you. True love happens when least expected. Meanwhile, let's make meaningful friendships based on honesty, respect, care and understanding.
I confess I didn't read your profile, I stopped at 40 years old and wants children.
Men that want children will generally seek younger women due to less chance of complications and the fact that they themselves will be younger.
Most men aged 38 and above have had kids or don't want them.
I know this is harsh but the only 40+ year old's I've ever dated didn't want children, which if I'm honest was one of the reasons I was with them and not a younger woman that still did want them.
Ok brother Marcouse, in defense of our sister, I believe she was just asking for a honest rating of her profile based on it's substance, content and detail. Not so much on whether you would have viewed her as a potential mate(smile)!
Though I understand your take on women over 40 opting to want children or not...it's a challenging and difficult decision for all parties involved! Of course however all that said is in my humble opinion...
Thank you for sharing. Nothing harsh my dear. Oh, you made me laugh heartily!
Profile rating is not about my preferences, or whether you are eligible for me. Rather, the presentation and relevance of its contents.
Sorry but you portray lack of understanding of profile rating. You would have to read the full profile to have moral authority to rate it.
FYI, there are men 38+ who want children. You may not know because you wouldn't normally be reading men's profiles lol. Your opinion is not as representative as you assume.
I would like an informed rating if you don't mind, not assumptions. Thank you.
Are your eyes really grey? They look brown, but your profile lists grey as the color.
Your second photo of you is not very clear, but your other two look fine, so I can still get a good idea of your appearance.
Facebook memes are cute for facebook, but my personal preference is to see pictures of the person, not memes.
I believe you are greatly limiting your options by only allowing a bachelor or widow to be your possible husband, but that's just an observation. If you're convicted in that, so be it.
The only other thing that I noticed is that you mention you have a disability, but you don't say what it is. That's ok, but that would be something that I'd ask immediately if I were to contact you.
Everything else is very well written, you say who you are, what you want, and what you expect, for whom you are waiting, etc. You provided a lot of good information. Overall, I'd say it's a fine profile. My main criticism is the memes, but that's just me.
Hello DavidsPsalms. Thank you for your authentic rating. Very appreciated. Arising therein,
My eyes are brown. That's was an error 4 years ago when I opened my account. No one ever noticed despite hundreds of visitors who say they like my photos lol. By the way, I had many more photos in my profile untill last month.
I have replaced the blurred photo. Welcome to revisit lol.
Some Facebook memes have very good messages. I wouldn't use them exclusively, though. My photos should always be the vocal point. I will trade one of them with a photo
True, I may greatly limit my options by only allowing a bachelor or widowed to be my possible husband. Nothing personal. I am pro family and pro life. I come from a culture where we fight hard to keep the family together. It grieves my heart when a family breaks. God intended marriage to hold. Only death should separate the two. The exception is unfaithfulness where the aggrieved party has no grace to genuinely forgive and move on.
I have nothing against divorced men. I only believe there could be a chance for reconciliation after the healing, no matter how long it takes. I have seen divorced couples reconcile after years of seperation. Oh, how the children rejoice in it!
Disability is what I have, not what I am. I live a positive and full life. I am a very open and honest person. However, any details would only be important to the person who makes contact. I have good friends who made contact and were interested in relationships. I discuss the disability issue at the onset. Long distance has been the issue to my online relationships than disability lol.
Oh, how obsessed you are with memes lol! DavidsPsalms, rest assured I would drop them if a man interested in relationship dislikes the memes as you do lol.
I never thought I would say this, because I've always taken a bit of a dim view of Facebook and memes because they just seem like a colossal time waster. However, I can see a bright side to including a meme in your profile. I'm not saying that everyone should (I don't have one). I by no means am trying to diminish what DavidsPsalms is saying. He makes an important point: we typically want to see pictures of you in your profile. A meme can definitely leave the reader confused, asking why you don't have more pictures of yourself instead, especially when the memes outnumber the pictures of you (I would say no one should do that). However, I would offer the suggestion that, if used sparingly, as you have, a meme can convey a fairly strong message about your character depending on what the meme says and is, and can say more about who you are than trying to explain it in your profile, especially if the meme is only one of, say, four to seven photos:
If it's a serious meme, like yours, expressing love for your country or expressing a specific message from scripture, it shows the reader something about your values. It conveys a love for your country, a sense of loyalty and patriotism, and perhaps hints at your political leaning. These are all things that some might highly value and provide important information. If it's religious, it may, and probably should, convey a scripture or specific message that is particularly important to you and may show the reader something of how the scriptures have had an effect on your life (something I greatly value in the online dating scene).
If it's a humorous meme, it can still have value. If it's a meme that really made you almost fall out of your chair , it is important to you, and by sharing it in your profile, we get a practical view into your sense of humor, and if the reader is at it too, then it means the two of you have some similar taste in humor! It tells the reader a little about whether your sense of humor is dry, sarcastic, playful, clean, or a little risqu�. I can say in my profile that my favorite comedies are the TV shows, M*A*S*H or Barney Miller, but if the reader hasn't seen these shows, she has no idea what it means about the jokes I tell or whether I'll laugh at her jokes.
Again, I'm not tying to overwrite the advice you've already received about memes. It's just another perspective and something I thought about when I saw the conversation. I would just suggest that if someone were to include a meme, it would be best to limit the number of memes so that they make up maybe 1/4 of your pictures, and make sure it's one that truly speaks to who you are, what you think is important, or that represents your sense of humor well.
Memes! Here we go....lol. I like memes that portray a specific message that's value add. They could be scriptural, romantic, or general motivational quotes. I have so many memes in my album but I share them sparingly.
At the time DavidsPsalms was rating my profile, I had three memes and three photos lol. Together with the lovely Kenya flag boot, I had a meme of two huge polar bears hugging and some thoughtful wording (I love huuuugs!). The other was a scripture quote.
, it is important to you, and by sharing it in your profile, we get a practical view into your sense of humor, and if the reader is