Author	Thread: Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you
Admin	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 22 May, 2016 01:55 PM I'm hoping guys can help answer this question? Trying very hard to understand why it's been so difficult getting any real replies from anyone. About the bulk of the messages on here are from fakes or out of country. So, what do you look for in a profile to make it appeal to you? I can't be any more honest on mine. Has honesty lost it's appeal? Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 24 May, 2016 02:46 PM What makes a profile stand out to me is if I can tell that this person meets my requirements. For example, I am looking for someone who is kind, responsible, modest, funny, and thrifty. It would be a turn off to see that she likes to go clubbing, partying, and drinking. It would be a turn off if I found out that she has tattoos or a nose piercing or that she enjoys worldly music or violent/horror movies. It would be a turnoff if I found out that she has already been married before. It would be a turnoff if she was too detail oriented and focused on present time rather than the future and the big picture. I want to find someone who prefers abstract & future thinking rather than one who takes everything literally and can only focus on the here and now. I am looking for someone who is politically conservative. Rarely do I ever see people mention their political opinions on their profile. Believe it or not, it matters! For example, I support Trump. If I see that you support Trump, you get one point for that. Another extra point if you mention some of your favorite preachers that you like. If you are a Vegetarian, do mention it. If you have any major issues, do mention it. It's dishonest to try to cover up big stuff and then reveal them much later. :-( Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 25 May, 2016 12:14 PM Hey Val, I just checked out your profile. I like honesty. I'm a firm believer in setting the expectations up front, so no complaints from me on that part. My only criticism of what you have shared on your profile is, and this is just my opinion but you asked, I think you shared a little too much negative information. Here's how I came to that conclusion. After going back over your profile again, I see one line that makes me feel that way. Everything seems fine to me at first. You're describing your circumstances, out of work, living with your mom... I get that. We all don't have a trust fund or a rich uncle. You expect that to change! Good! That's positive. You give some plans for the future. That's good too! But then your next line... "My life has been very difficult," just seems to put everything you've just said in a new light. It comes across to me as if the things you've just mentioned are you complaining about your circumstances, which is a big turn off for me personally. That may just be me, and to put my comments in context... I was married for 25 years to a woman who was extremely critical, nothing was ever good enough. So please take my comments within that context. I may be a bit biased when I come across what appears to be negative comments. I don't know if that helps or not, and please take everything I've said as simply my opinion. We're all different, and we all have different opinions. I'm just trying to be honest and help as I can. Now please feel free to look at my profile and provide your own constructive criticism. I've contacted several American women, and I'm getting no responses. Thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 26 May, 2016 02:33 AM While describing your situation is good, not describing yourself is bad. You don't need to sell yourself just give an honest review of who you are, being generic is never attractive unless the man you want to attract wants someone who can be easily subdued or something. Just be you and let God sort out the rest. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 26 May, 2016 03:44 AM Ok, I looked again, and I see a big deal breaker for many Christian men today, at least I believe so. You say you're an occasional smoker. While your honesty is appreciated and very necessary in this case, I have a no smoking firewall. I'm guessing most men here do as well as do most of the ladies' profiles. Post Reply
Marcouse View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 21 Jul, 2016 03:32 PM Your profile looks a bit one sided, what are you doing or going to do that appeals to a guy, especially one that is the same age or younger? 45 year old divorcee's are not in demand in any sphere of life, probably less so in Christian circles. The cards are stacked against you so you need to be doing things to even up the odds if you are serious about finding someone. Apart from being a Christian what sets you apart from the 100's of other women out there? Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 21 Jul, 2016 10:20 PM I'm not sure if us gals were suppose to respond to this post since it seems to be directed to the guys... but since it's on the "Advice on Love and Dating" section of the forums, I'd like to add my 2 cents, keeping it real...what's good for the goose, may not always be good for the gander,lol(smile)!! My sister you've opt to be transparent in how you've presented yourself in your profile. Nothing wrong with that but in response to it, you would have had to prepare yourself for anything! I love the line in the movie with Jack Nicholson and Tom Cruise(Officer and a Gentleman), when Nicholson say's to Tom, "you can't handle the truth"!!! It seems when it's all said and done, the truth you've shared about yourself will ultimately separate the tare from the wheat!! I've discovered along this journey in finding my life mate that I first had to desire The Lord to work on my readiness to be "the one", before I can find "the one", lol(smile)! That has taken great strides in me being honest and forthright in first finding out who I truly am...still on that ride, but it's been worth it!!! Now as for my brother Marcouse...tonight seems to be your night that I twice must address you personally! You posted here that "45 year old divorcee's are not in demand in any sphere of life..." Now I want to believe my sister will respond to you in her own time, but I just want to say "young man", that you have a lot to learn about life, and women for that matter!! Being "any age" as a divorcee, will NEVER constitute a persons ineffectiveness in any society!! Your bias attitude, I hope and pray will be challenged and then convicted by The Holy Spirit...bringing to your mind, heart and spirit truth that reveals God's will! Be blessed. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 22 Jul, 2016 09:36 AM Amen Hisjoymypeace! I'm almost 54, so a 45 year old divorcees are in big demand. Post Reply
Cortezisboaz View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 16 Sep, 2016 12:59 PM Hi Val, I think there are several things I notice and find appealing. #1 A well written profile which describes a personality, qualities and interests. #2 Photos.....in this day and age it is simply ridiculous for anyone serious about finding someone via this modality not to have SEVERAL photos of themselves INCLUDING at least 1 full or near full body pic without it being distorted nor covered by super bulky clothing, people nor objects. The lack of these things tells me someone is simply LAZY, NOT serious about finding someone meaningful or both. Yes, it is harder for some to write about themselves but they have as days to put a profile together. If they cannot think enough about themselves to actually write some things beyond cliches it says to me they are LAZY and boring if simply Not SERIOUS. Regardless, 3 lines or less in the about me section says there really wasn't much effort put into it and is very unappealing to me. I'd think they are lazy in terms of thought process and relationship building just as they are in the pursuit of relationship. Lack of photos with them ALONE and at least 1 full body pic says not very interested in finding something meaningful or very insecure. Post Reply
Cortezisboaz View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 16 Sep, 2016 01:12 PM I forgot to add, what matters most is that real effort is put into showing a complete stranger who you are, what you're about, what makes you different from the hundreds in your similar situation in your town. You cannot please everyone. You can however put and show real effort to give an honest description and depiction of yourself. You are not trying to appeal to everyone. It will never happen regardless. You are simply trying to find ONE and that ONE possibly will NOT respond unless you put forth real and sincere effort. You may not have gotten a lot of responses...you only want the ONE anyway....right? Post Reply
Harry767 View Profile History	Guys, What makes the profile more appealing to you Posted : 22 Sep, 2016 11:17 AM I have yet to hear a female say she is on the straight and narrow. I also find humbleness appealing. These things are Christian. I can say a lot more but that's just my opinion Post Reply

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