Author	Thread: "Opposite Attracts".....wait how true could this be?
femme15 View Profile History	"Opposite Attracts".....wait how true could this be? Posted : 3 Jun, 2015 05:55 PM Is there any truth for that belief? I'm into books, and he is into video games and anime. I'm into inspirational, documentary type of movies and he is into extreme sci-fi ones. I think so advance of my age, like I'm just 24 but I think like a 30 year old woman, while he is 24 yet so stuck up with the thinking of a teen-ager. I have a deep spiritual inclination to God, while he tries to say that he has it, but it seems that he doesn't, it seems like it's enough for him that He goes to church, and that's it! He likes me, and promised to change and do his best to like the things that I do, but I doubt it. You can't change anyone right? Like if that kind of attitude or behavior is embedded in their genes, no matter how you try to modify it, still there will be a time for those things to show up. If there is anything that we have same interest is...is that we believe in the value of a family. And besides I have read from an article that most marriages go to divorce because of each partners differences. And it seems, looking for someone who is in the same league as yours is the new trend for a long lasting relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	"Opposite Attracts".....wait how true could this be? Posted : 5 Jun, 2015 10:15 AM Opposites mostly attract because of the sexual energy the friction causes, but when the fires of passion consumes itself nothing of substance is left and the relationship disintegrates. Post Reply
View Profile History	"Opposite Attracts".....wait how true could this be? Posted : 8 Jun, 2015 08:36 AM rambo shows up as admin? But then other times as rambo? hmm what gives? Post Reply
View Profile History	"Opposite Attracts".....wait how true could this be? Posted : 8 Jun, 2015 11:58 AM Thats wierd...it shows 2 posts at the time im doing this one and 3 folks have posted and it sure does say "Admin" as the 2nd poster which is rambo...:rolleyes:...Hummmm...me thinks someone or thing has hacked into CDFF...Crazy!!! Anywho...opposites do attract...just be sure ya both be on the same page of the "Book" or the attraction won't last very long... X <>< O Post Reply
eli2303 View Profile History	"Opposite Attracts".....wait how true could this be? Posted : 21 Jun, 2015 03:25 AM Opposites do attract - initially. We all want to experience something different at some point, and if someone offers that path then more often than not, we take it- although this leads to many compromises potentially affecting you standing in God's word. Having said that, as Rambo wrote above, after the friction or initial spark is over, you will find it useful to have someone similar to you. Not exactly the same, but a similar. Post Reply
oceanshore View Profile History	"Opposite Attracts".....wait how true could this be? Posted : 22 Nov, 2015 05:00 AM Great post and thanks. You know, I once heard a wise person say that in the areas where we feel deficient, we sometimes seek out others to fill that void. Like if a man does not like to talk, he might be attracted to a talkative woman, who can "make up" for his perceived weakness. Or a woman who thinks of herself as being bad with money, might want a man who is good balancing the checkbook. Sometimes this dynamic can be complimentary, where both parties benefit. But sometimes, this can also be disastrous. To prevent calamity, I think it is wise to really determine where there are differences and where there are similarities. For example, the man who does not talk marries an extroverted woman. Well, that might help him at family gatherings where he just let's his wife do all the talking. But then, when they sit at home, alone, she might be lonely, with no one to talk to. Or for the gal with money "problems", she really might just have a preference for spending instead of saving. But if she marries a CPA in order to make up for her "lack", that could lead to problems. Meaning, if he is a saver, and she a spender, well, then someone has got to bend. I am a big fan of mutually beneficial relationships. However, I also lean toward finding something with more in common, than not. If I had to put a percentage on it, I would say: 75-90% similarities and 10-25% differences. Otherwise, I fear that too many differences leads to disrespect and that can lean to contempt, which of course is one of of Gottman's four horses of relationship apocalypse. For more details, watch his short video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is Post Reply