Author	Thread: Advice needed to discourage suitor
5oul5eeker805 View Profile History	Advice needed to discourage suitor Posted : 17 May, 2015 02:28 PM He is a nice guy, he says the right things, sends cards, attends church and is respectful. He is a recovering alcoholic who expresses a personal relationship with his higher power - Jesus Christ. However, I just get a "pit of my stomach" feeling that something is not right. I cannot put a name to it, but I feel crowded by his pursuit. He says he knew from the moment we met that I was the one he wanted. (this kinda creeps me out) I have not returned his calls for a week but I cant dodge him forever. What can I say or do? Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice needed to discourage suitor Posted : 17 May, 2015 03:50 PM You gotta go with your gut! The Holy Spirit is located within!!! It seems you are receiving a warning in the spirit. Just tell him plainly that you are not interested and you know without a shadow of a doubt that he is not the man God has for you! Block him so he cant call. Be kind to him but distant. He could be a psycho path. Pray for the Lord to protect you from him. May Gods grace abide... Blessings!! Post Reply
Keonikane View Profile History	Advice needed to discourage suitor Posted : 17 May, 2015 05:40 PM I agree with what blondieinthehouse said. But to add to it, tell him with a statement that won't provoke questions like "Why not" would be tactful. Say something like, "It's not your fault for you are a nice guy and all, but I just don't feel attracted to you. Sorry". Then say no more. It would also help to have a "witness" with you regardless if it's over the phone or in person. That way if he still continues his pursuit, you and your witness can go to a person of authority over him, like his Pastor or laymen. You are not obligated to answer any more questions. Just walk away, hang up, or whatever applies. Hope this helps... We'll be praying for you. Post Reply
5oul5eeker805 View Profile History	Advice needed to discourage suitor Posted : 17 May, 2015 08:25 PM thank you so much for you wise council Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice needed to discourage suitor Posted : 18 May, 2015 10:25 AM Sometimes it's a good idea to specifically tell the guy that you must ask that he cease in his pursuit of you. There are times that saying you're not interested, or attracted, will only make him see you as a challenge - he may back off for a time but then start up again if he's not told explicitly to STOP :stop: Just remember to speak with kindness and love, but still be direct. Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice needed to discourage suitor Posted : 26 May, 2015 08:40 AM Forget this "gotta go with your gut feeling" nonsense.. You will not find that strange counsel written anywhere in the Bible. It sorta sounds like those who spout such things, really know what they are talking about, but a closer examination of the scripture, which tells the saint, not to add to or take away from the Word of God [Deut 4:2, Rev 22:18-19], tells the saint otherwise. A believer is to live by faith, and walk by faith. But what is faith and how is it obtained? Through much reading of the scripture. Through diligent devotion to the study of the Word of God: 9Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. 10With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments. 11Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee. 12Blessed art thou, O LORD: teach me thy statutes. 13With my lips have I declared all the judgments of thy mouth. 14I have rejoiced in the way of thy testimonies, as much as in all riches. 15I will meditate in thy precepts, and have respect unto thy ways. 16I will delight myself in thy statutes: I will not forget thy word. Psalm 119 The Word of God is to be your counsel. If you are obeying it, it will speak to you and show you how to live, and then when the wolves come calling, you will know who is and who is not, a true believer. "My sheep hear my voice and I know them and they follow me" Post Reply
5oul5eeker805 View Profile History	Advice needed to discourage suitor Posted : 27 May, 2015 06:17 PM Sometimes the Spirit that indwells the believer will give you guidance. Some details, like who to establish a relationship with and marry are not in the scripture. He met the necessary biblical guidelines, but something else didn't set right I felt that, and I did talk with him and told him that I didn't see our relationship going where he wanted it to go. I was clear and as kind as I could be. I wished him well and he actually said that he was getting the message already. God is good and I trust Him to continue to guide me. I appriciate the feedback from each of you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice needed to discourage suitor Posted : 27 May, 2015 07:22 PM Im glad it turned out alright! God is good! Gods grace to you sister! Post Reply