A woman on CDFF told me that she had been on here for four years and still hadn't met any man that was willing to travel to her country to met her. Think about that for a moment folks four years! Now when I showed some interest in her she didn't even bother communicating with me anymore. Now I am thinking that her four year saga may not be only from no personal meetings but may also have to do with her being too selective in her choices. She was being too picky.
Now I have been doing some thinking and it has to be a problem where many Christians are waiting for their handsome prince charming to come on CDFF or their beautiful trophy wife.
Here's the thing people, while you're waiting for what you think is the "right" person based on looks, the real true mate intended for you may have slipped through your fingers and gone on to marry someone else.
I am not saying that attraction is not required but some of you are just being ridiculous.
[1] Stop thinking that only beautiful people are the best Christians or are going to be the best spouses.
[2] The devil doesn't look like anything in those Hollywood movies. You may end up marrying someone who may give you a very hard time. Someone incompatible. Compatibility has noting to do with the beauty or handsomeness of an individual. I've heard of Christian men ill treating their wife. Especially using verbal abuse. "I am the man you are the woman do as I say." Think it may never happen to you? Think again.
[3] Some people only want to marry their own race and won't even consider a person from another ethnicity. Do you think God thinks about your race before accepting you into His Kingdom. Oh, you're this or that so you cannot be saved.
[4] I mentioned the Christian trophy wife syndrome. A lot of men are suffering from this type of malady. They only want a beautiful wife. They won't even consider an average looking woman. Same thing applies to some women they only and their handsome malady.
I am not saying that we must not be attracted to another person. I am saying that to if you are only looking for just beauty you are going to miss the best thing that could have ever happened to you and that is having the best wonderful loving spouse.
Take time to get know the person you're interested in or attracted to. Find out if you have similar likes and interests and stop letting good persons get away.
If anyone can think of anything more that I missed feel free to add it as a reply to this.
You know in defense of an "attractive anyone" (whether a Christian, Jew, gentile, man or woman), it's not as easy as you think to have a healthy, normal, long lasting relationship! With society always reminding you of your handsomeness or beauty and to then be expected to find that equal high standard in a mate, can pressure a person into making ill thought out choices with sometimes disasters results!
Well in my short time in this earth, I've seen and have met happy couples who...whether it was the male or female, when looking at "their looks" and comparing it to their partners looks...the only thing that came to my mind was "it must truly be love"(smile)!! What am I trying to say? No matter how you dice or slice this issue of "physical attractiveness"...human, shallow nature will trump over rationale reasoning most of the time when one purses a mate! Which can work for some, but not for most others! And whether "attractive" or not (by societies standards), you got a lot of lonely, heart broken individuals out there who want a meaningful relationship just like anyone else!!
Now as Christians, we of course are to be held to a higher standard. But does that exempt us from being human...being shallow? I think not! I'm truly sorry for the disappointing experience you've had here at CDFF and by no means am I making light of it, but I would be remised if I didn't feel the need to simply encourage you to be diligent in your search for God's best, knowing that in every trial He brings you thru, will only draw you nearer to that special someone He's preparing for you and you for them(smile)! Blessings my brother!
