Author	Thread: Is He Serious About Me?
tett83 View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 15 Feb, 2015 07:00 PM Hello. I would want to share my experience about a man I have been online dating since March of 2012. He seems kind, patient, understanding - qualities I look for in a man. He has told me to wait for him and that he will marry me. He says he is not going to look for anyone else. He also told I am his last try. We had arguments that he would say I have trust issues of him and that I don't believe him but it is not true. I just felt wanted to be assured at times and we would fix things up immediately. I understood him as for his time table that he has a job to look after and that he has a lot of financial stuff going on, e.g. purchase of his new car, etc. Though the past year he got a good job which he had prayed for for 8 years. He claims God answered his prayer. The thing is nowadays, he often would say he was as tired as a dog and all that he does is to work and sleep. You see, I loved him so much and that I wanted his time but we couldn't talk to find out what is going on about him. We talked on Facebook and years ago he quit his account which I saw connections of him, his family, friends, etc. (He is single and has no children.) He introduced me to an email of him and there we poorly corresponded. He eventually made another account but he NEVER had any information on it. He even had no profile picture and identified himself there with his real name and his middle name. He said he didn't like Facebook at all. I tried to understand him. When we talked about how we would meet, he said he had no idea how to. I tried to research and explained everything to him, it is as if, I don't know, MAYBE he was being stubborn, and he would still want ME to go there visit him from our next conversations. We know the given visa provisions asked for in meeting someone especially ones that are dating and considering marriage in the U.S.. I told him it is impossible as I haven't met him at all. The visa is most likely to be declined by the consul once applied for. We would often get that topic on the side and talk about something else. Now I brought it up again and there was silence on his side. After three days he only asked if I were ok. All I do now is to make myself encouraged by God's word. I don't know if I could put my hopes up with him. Post Reply
HoosierHomeschooler View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 16 Feb, 2015 01:59 PM Disliking Facebook is not a big deal. Several of my friends I know in person have left FB or refused to join. But ... something seems odd with what you describe. 3 years seems a very long time to continue online dating someone without meeting her. Post Reply
osol_letse View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 2 Mar, 2015 12:52 AM am sorry to say..i not trust a dating site and a person i met online..all i can say is..don't trust man's promises coz they;re usually doomed to fail..trust GOD.. He knows what's best for you. Post Reply
1mountain View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 8 Mar, 2015 11:21 PM Agreed with Hoosier that facebook awful lol and no I would never have one again. I think though something must have changed on his side. To barely have contact with someone he loved so much he wanted to marry her without ever meeting her in person I'd think his feelings have changed. I think you should probably move on and find someone with real potential. God bless your search. The best advice I can give to everyone is don't fall in love until you've met in person. Ever. So much can be gathered by meeting in person that can't be in online chats and so much can be learned. Also I'd suggest at minimum you write real letters to each other, not just digital communication. Post Reply
Keonikane View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 10 May, 2015 03:06 AM What I would hope is for him to read this posting, and see his shortcomings, and if he is serious, to make amends and follow thru with it, to repent. I don't know of his side of the story but from what I see of what you shared, I have to agree with you. I don't see a trust issue here, but of you wanting assurance. He needs to see that you have feelings too, and to ignore that shows that he can't seem to see beyond his own nose. You already mentioned of him saying of being so tired, only working and sleeping. Could it be that if you did marry him, that is how your relationship will be like? Will he ever find quality time for you in your marriage? Or will it be like how he is portraying it now? Will he continue to think that you have trust issues? His actions, or lack of it is what is bringing it on. You have a right to feel that way. Above all, if this relationship is what God wants, it will be all good. But don't trust only in your feelings for your own heart can deceive you. Put your trust in God, like osol_letse mentioned. "But blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord and has made the Lord his hope and confidence. He is like a tree planted along a riverbank, with its roots reaching deep into the water�a tree not bothered by the heat nor worried by long months of drought. Its leaves stay green, and it goes right on producing all its luscious fruit. The heart is the most deceitful thing there is and desperately wicked. No one can really know how bad it is! Only the Lord knows! He searches all hearts and examines deepest motives so he can give to each person his right reward, according to his deeds�how he has lived." Jeremiah 17: 7-10 On a side note, I shared this same scripture reference with two other people today for different issues. Is God speaking? Hmmm... So far, the consensus is to maybe move on and maybe God is speaking to you thru the counsel of fellow believers so far. Go with God... and may He bless you in whatever happens. We will pray for you for God's will in this... Post Reply
View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 25 Feb, 2017 02:25 AM Maybe by now, after the end of 2 years, your story is rather old; I think you've done your best to remain true; but, his behavior as you've shared is rather evasive; you have'had every reason to give up on that fragile relationship. Hope by now you've found a new man to date with. Ingat! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 25 Feb, 2017 02:26 AM Maybe by now, after the end of 2 years, your story is rather old; I think you've done your best to remain true; but, his behavior as you've shared is rather evasive; you have'had every reason to give up on that fragile relationship. Hope by now you've found a new man to date with. Ingat! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 25 Feb, 2017 02:26 AM Maybe by now, after the end of 2 years, your story is rather old; I think you've done your best to remain true; but, his behavior as you've shared is rather evasive; you have'had every reason to give up on that fragile relationship. Hope by now you've found a new man to date with. Ingat! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is He Serious About Me? Posted : 21 Apr, 2017 03:44 AM Looks like you had a hard time in continuing to relate online with the man you thought would willing to marry you. But the way you've continued to keep in touch with him is appreciable. Hope and pray God will lead you to the man He has in His plan for you. Best wishes. Post Reply