Author	Thread: The Ball Is In the Womans Court
fearnada98 View Profile History	The Ball Is In the Womans Court Posted : 28 Dec, 2014 05:58 PM As I see it, the ball is in the woman's court! Many people think guys do the choosing, but I beg to differ with you. All us guys can really do is let a female know that we are interested, after that, it's really up to her. You can cry, moan, and beg, but if she isn't interested, there's not much left to do! Post Reply
1mountain View Profile History	The Ball Is In the Womans Court Posted : 6 Jan, 2015 01:56 AM Ha ha you remind me of a joke I once heard. 'At the end of a first date the guy is usually hoping there will be a second one, and the girl already knows.' I think that's how it goes at least. Post Reply
ian27 View Profile History	The Ball Is In the Womans Court Posted : 13 Jan, 2015 04:17 PM Need help if I see a lady I like I always put beautiful world in subject field then I sqy hi I am ian from hull uk I love to get to know you hope you well I am very interested in get to know you. My message get read and get no reply all at or view woman in hull say I shrek which is insult for ugly man is this the case am I ugle nobody bird me for todays please help were am I going wromg Post Reply
View Profile History	The Ball Is In the Womans Court Posted : 22 Feb, 2015 02:49 PM You're not going wrong anywhere that I can see, and you're not ugly either- I've been called Shrek a few times myself, but the ones calling me it clearly didn't understand the message of that story! Post Reply
View Profile History	The Ball Is In the Womans Court Posted : 27 Feb, 2015 11:37 AM You are correct!! But if I may inject a womans perspective on this. Its not just my personal opinion but it is of the majority that women tend to think that men dont know how to pursue in this day and age. I have experienced over and over again men initiating contact and so I reply. Ill ask a few questions pertaining to the body of their profile. Send> I get back very short answers maybe a few words! He doesnt ask questions of me in return!! This is where Ive learned to be done! It has just happened way too many times to me! I will not lead! Period. Women get the sense that men are lazy and they have given in to the worlds standards of women wearing the pants and leading. >>Or that he has ungodly intentions to begin with! A good woman doesnt turn her head at every whim. She has had every tom,don, and harry drool over her and she is ready to run at the drop of a hat! I want to be pursued . I want to know that man genuinely cares for my heart and he will jump through hoops to earn my trust. I expect this to go both ways btw... We are indeed examining fruit righteously are we not? I tend to be a very friendly gal. I can talk about just about anything!!! Its no wonder I was fairly successful in sales :) I only ask that the volley be equal. I only ask that a man show some effort. If a man contacts a woman I would think he is either all in or he isnt. We are to be lead by the spirit right? Why would a man contact a woman that he didnt feel lead by the spirit to do so? This multiple dating stuff and one or two dates a week is not my style. Quite frankly, it is NOT a christians lifestyle either! God intended for women to be courted. Courting is done after it is determined that two are suited for each other. The quickest way to win a woman over is by genuinely listening to her,loving her as Christ loves you, showing her she is secure with you,and by letting her know she can trust her thoughts with you. Just my two cents worth.. May Gods grace abide:angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	The Ball Is In the Womans Court Posted : 8 Mar, 2015 09:58 AM How does "God intend for women to be courted"? Post Reply
View Profile History	The Ball Is In the Womans Court Posted : 8 Mar, 2015 12:03 PM It wouldnt be as the world does that is for sure! I dont think dating is what God intended for us. We are to wait on God to show us the way. ie being lead by the spirit ie discernment We are lead to be attracted to another for reasons that God has pointed out and not just fleshy traits. Dating only confuses things IMHO. Dating is for those whom are married in order to keep the fires burning :angel:. Post Reply
1mountain View Profile History	The Ball Is In the Womans Court Posted : 8 Mar, 2015 11:51 PM Alright then Blondie let me add my two cents. If you women desire being pursued then you need to encourage men to pursue you and others. Don't just tell them 'we women would like men to pursue us' but act like you mean it. When a guy who's incompatible messages you, 1: don't ignore his message 2: don't jusr reply 'I'm sorry don't think we're a good match' or 'I'm sorry but I'm not interested in you' 3: encourage him to keep trying. Say something like 'I admire your guts, not many guys are man enough to risk rejection, so although I'm not interested in you keep trying with other gals'. Also for a guy it's easy to get messages mixed up, I do all the time. If it doesn't seem you're getting your message across try being a little more obvious. Men are timid to pursue often because they're not sure if their advances are desired or not, and often might get the idea they're unwanted and give up. Many might even assume they are unwanted and are bothering the lady and feel rather ashamed. Post Reply