I think courtship was meant for the discovery and assurance of such before two individuals can take their matter to God as a lifetime commitment. They need to be sure of certain things first, soul mate should be in their top list of assurance.
@ Joy: Oh wow! you do have way with words, that was wisely said! Thank u so.
Soul mate is the person that you choose and you feel at peace within your heart and soul that this person will be my companion, my partner, my best friend, my equal, my lover, my helpmeet (motivate, inspire, encourage, support) for the rest of my life. This is roughly my understanding of a soul mate.
And a soul mate is not a checklist.
I did not write the article, but I read it and it made a lot of sense to me.
@ Sisy that is a very good question to ask the good people here on this forum. What is your understanding of the word soul mate?
@ Joy: Oh wow! you do have way with words, that was wisely said! Thank u so.
Soul mate is the person that you choose and you feel at peace within your heart and soul that this person will be my companion, my partner, my best friend, my equal, my lover, my helpmeet (motivate, inspire, encourage, support) for the rest of my life. This is roughly my understanding of a soul mate.
And a soul mate is not a checklist.
I did not write the article, but I read it and it made a lot of sense to me.
@ Sisy that is a very good question to ask the good people here on this forum. What is your understanding of the word soul mate?
I agree with your rough idea of what �soul mate� is,
I'm wondering though if one must commit first before God and then make the other part a soul mate? What's the rush all about that you should rather discover when it's already too late that you don't connect/complement each other very well as friends, prayer partners, as parents, with different cultures etc, that you should be stuck with one another for lifetime out of choice?
I don't think that's a wise manner of laying a foundation for a life time relationship!
Rythm, thank you! The article you shared truly inspired me(smile)!
My dear friend Sis...when trying to understand the concept of "soul mate", at least in the context referred to here, this is my take. I believe if two believers have been blessed to have found one another and faithfully thru prayer, counseling and even fasting, search the heart of God to confirm they're desire to "love until death do them part"...to me is the beginning of knowing, without doubt, if they are true "soul mates". And if confirmed, expecting The Lord to then bless their nuptials with success!
Don't get me wrong my friend, I do understand your concern if these individuals who are in love become "one" first, to then later seek God as to whether they are true soul mates...which certainly would be putting the cart before the horse(smile)! Unfortunately in real life, we know this happens way more than it should!!!
True "soul mates" can be individuals who aren't necessarily meant to become a couple, but could be destined to be close, intimate friends for life! Which can still lead to the awesome blessing of becoming intimate spiritual, mental, emotional and possibly physical life partners...if The Lord has anything to do with it:prayingm: LOL!!
Thank you so much for your input. Honestly I only shared this article because it inspired me and made me think.
Ok! Adam did not pray for Eve however she came at the time in his life when he did not even know that he needed someone like her. It was God who said it was not good for Adam to be alone and He brought Eve in his life to be his companion (help meet).
Adam was the one that decided that Eve was to be his bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh and God blessed their union. God left that choice to Adam what he wanted Eve to be in his life and I totally believe that it was God's desire for Adam and Eve to be husband and wife.
And as much as Adam's and Eve's union was blessed by God that did not mean they did not go through hardships and trials, for they did.
The point is sometimes we do delay marriages because of many different reasons and some of those are the "what ifs" (what if I make a wrong choice etc), or maybe you are not at the point in your life where you imagined yourself to be when you marry.
I do believe that you rather not marry someone because you do not have that confirmation in your spirit and that peace in your heart that the person will be your soul mate. Not because the person doesn't quite fit your description of a soul mate.
Note: I use the word "soul mate" referring to a life partner or spouse.
