Author	Thread: Dating has little to do with christianity?
onerussian View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 25 Aug, 2014 10:13 AM Hello everyone. Just wanted to know your oinion. I found it extremely complicated to folllow Christian values in dating. I mean being a Christian means to own integrity,to be sincere and honest. But when you are like this with the opposite sex they never appreciate you. I was open and sincere, expressed my interest and finally found that men start taking you for granted. To keep their interest you have to make them hunt you, make them wait, guess, feel uncertain etc. We all adult people here and know how it works but for God's sake in which way all this can match out Christian values? I am talking about the initial period of relations. Why we want to be Christians but not about dating? Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 25 Aug, 2014 12:23 PM "I found it extremely complicated to folllow Christian values in dating. I mean being a Christian means to own integrity,to be sincere and honest." so it's difficult to be sincere and honest when dating? what's really the question here? Post Reply
onerussian View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 26 Aug, 2014 01:43 AM Seems like I put it in a wrong way. It happens when you are not a native speaker. It is easy to be honest and sincere but the result is poor bs you are not appreciated. Basically I did not ask any questions, just shared my thoughts. Sorry) Post Reply
Pops61 View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 26 Aug, 2014 08:10 AM Regardless of the language communicating and understanding someones thoughts and intentions can be perplexing and challenging to say the least Miss OneRussian. We're all at a disadvantage not being face to face speaking to one another and the signs of dishonesty are less visible. I do agree with you that it would be nice if we all treated our neighbor as we would our self huh? I thought you made you statement clear enough especially since english is not your native language, you didn't need apologize, I make a mess of writing and this is my one and only language :winksmile: Post Reply
HoosierHomeschooler View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 26 Aug, 2014 02:23 PM It's possible the men in question found there's some difference of belief or opinion with which they're just not comfortable. It's also possible that they were being dishonest and were not really seeking a Christ-honoring relationship. It's impossible to say, I'm afraid. I've chatted here with some nice Christian ladies. I've also chatted with one who was simply a scammer trying to get money out of me on false pretenses. Post Reply
TravisjustTravis View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 27 Aug, 2014 01:17 AM "Dating" teaches people that separation is normal. So I would agree with you when you said dating has little to do with Christianity. The two are like oil and water. Post Reply
onerussian View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 27 Aug, 2014 09:03 AM Thak you) I am trying to talk about human nature in general, not only about the disadvantages of online dating. Even if we live in the same city and can meet in person the problem is still there. If I am always open and sincere about my feelings, if I am always there for you than I will fail in this dating. Alternatively, I can say "no" when I feel "yes", I can answer your text with a 3-days interval, I can say I am busy to see you next week when I am not really....Than everything is just fine, I keep your interest and you keep pursue me...(I don't mean YOU, I mean any man) Post Reply
onerussian View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 27 Aug, 2014 09:06 AM So what should we do, Travis? How to skip dating if one is single? We can not skip it so we are imposed to play games just as people of the world do. Post Reply
Pops61 View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 27 Aug, 2014 10:28 AM I don't think it would be right nor fair for a man to expect a woman (or vise versa) he's just recently met online, or in person to completely devote all her time to him... He may wish it and maybe she does too but reality is that both have lives, family/kids, private time with God and other responsibilities also to consider. I betcha the (make him wait) cat mouse game has been used since the very beginning time. Think of before internet and cell phones how how our patience used to be much greater...we used to hand write letters and mail them off then wait... check the mail box, then wait some more... this might go on for weeks, then finally the expected mail comes unexpectedly, what a good feeling! This generation now we can't wait and we want it now, people are less patient and demanding. In dating this lack of patience is no good, relationships aren't built in a day or in just a few chats. but if it doesn't look like she/he is interested we just move on to the next person... crazy huh? Anyway, I don't think using the tactic you describe as anything Christian or non believer or that it's bad if you are being honest in the excuses used. If you say are busy then a man shouldn't press you or make you explain or feel uncomfortable in asking"doing what?!" or "Too busy for me?!" lol But accept you are busy and knows that you are interested in him so will be in touch soon when you can't stand the waiting any longer right? hehe ps. If you were syaing it to me (I don't mean YOU, I mean any man) I won't take it as an insult dear lady :goofball::goofball: I'm teasing! Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 27 Aug, 2014 06:48 PM Onerussian.....you know after reflecting on this post and others' responses, the only thing that kept coming back to my thoughts was......no matter how you cut it, human nature will always be human nature! Whether before the introduction of the "internet" or after......and realistically whether a believer or not, men and women have always had a innate need to be wanted......the need to feel special! Some individuals, when even in a relationship that seems to be working and there maybe a slight lull in communications, would just up and sabotage things convincing themselves that they should end things before the other party does! What a destructive attitude and a possible decision of no return!!!!! And your right, I feel dating really doesn't have anything to do with being a Christian......why? well I've come to the conclusion in this short time God has given me as an adult in this earth, that how a person respects and treats others has a great deal to do with the environment their raised in! Before being saved, yet being raised by parents who taught their children to respect others.....to treat them as you would want to be treated, I must admit, has taken me a long way in this life(smile)! Then when I claimed Christ as my Savior and Lord, it only became more practical, those principles taught by my parents! Long story short my sister, don't take what others do here or on any dating site seriously! Be grateful that what you learn about an individual in this process, hopefully before even meeting them, can save you a great deal of grief in the long run! Go with your God given instincts when sharing yourself with others and pray, pray and pray some more(smile)! God bless. Post Reply
onerussian View Profile History	Dating has little to do with christianity? Posted : 28 Aug, 2014 11:18 AM Thank you everyone) your thoughts are really appreciated. ' they should end things before the other party does!" How true. Have to admit I did it myself number of times. Sometimes it was due to that lack of patience mentioned by Pops and sometimes it was a preventive move of my ego. I agree fully with my sis advice not to take things too serious. I would say even taking ourselves too serious is wrong and does not help at all) Post Reply

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