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river7 View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 21 Jul, 2014 07:18 PM Hi, I have been on this site for quite awhile now.Here are some personal observations that I have made. They are mostly based on personal experience with the site. Here are some things, for you to consider, when doing your profile. 1. Don't post pictures with you in sunglasses. We can't see your eyes. This is very important to a guy. I imagine it is to a girl as well too, The eyes are the windows to the soul. If you wear them it makes you look like you have something to hide in the picture. If the sun is bothering you change your position. But what ever you do lose the sunglasses, not reg glasses unless they become dark. The eyes speak volumes. 2.Don't post pictures that are of you and others of the same sex we can't tell who is who in your zoo. If that is the only picture of you. If the picture is on its side or is so small we need a magnifying glass to see, you might as well not have one at all 3.DO SMILE It is one of the MOST IMPORTANT THINGS YOU CAN DO to make yourself attractive to the opposite sex. Not a halfhearted smile either. But a genuine real smile. 4.Don't limit GOD, put any age so you can at least receive mail from people over the age your looking for. 5.DO put the age your looking for in the main text this way, if for example say, your looking for someone 40-50 what if there is a person that is say 51 but matches everything else. If you put limits in the age category.The person can't contact you no matter what. Then what happens is, you both loose a possible partner. 6.Do go into live chat and make friends there. chat is open conversation you just jump in anytime you want to say something it is not rude it is expected and normal behavior and not considered butting in. 7.Do, fill out the profile with more than "tell you later" because that says nothing. and really say I am Not interested Don't bother me. I'm just playing. 8.DO choose your words carefully. Use concrete very descriptive words. 9.Don't say you like to laugh or have fun. That kind of statement says nothing, because every single one of us likes that. 10.Do avoid using common sayings, like "I am not searching for Mr. perfect just the perfect person for me." The statement doesn't really say anything or say what your really looking for and again says little 11.Do correct your spelling and grammar. It shows that you took the time to make sure things are right. 12.Do polish and rewrite your profile so it is the best you can make it. Remember it is your 1st impression that is presented to a possible mate. 13.Do ask a friends to read your profile to look for spelling & grammar mistakes and how it sounds, and presents itself to a reader. 14.Do the same for them. 15. Be creative with writing your profile make it stand out. Make it different from all the others and it will be remembered and maybe give you the results your looking for. After all isn't that guy or girl that your looking for worth the extra effort and time you put into your profile? On this site and any others that you have a profile on, that profile IS YOU! It represents who you are. It is your best chance at making either an outstanding impression, or NO impression it is your choice. 16. DO with Scam artists, WITNESS To THEM. Start talking about Jesus and bring the conversation always back to HIM so they can't get away from it you have to control the conversation not them. it throws them off their game. One of two things will happen either they will accept the LORD Or they run. Either way you win.They don't know what to do or say. After awhile they won't contact you anymore. This is what I did and it worked like a charm. I have had some meet the LORD, others run, and still others get so frustrated they don't know what to do. It drives them crazy. The trick is to pray and ask for the right words to share with them works every time. They put out the word don't contact River7 17.DO NOT GIVE MONEY WHEN ASKED IT IS A SCAM NO MATTER WHAT THE STORY IS They will tell you anything to get you to give them money and I mean ANYTHING! All it is, is smoke and mirrors. They are trying to play on your Christian values. Telling scam artists to stay away is like a neon flashing welcome sign to them. They will choose you every time over someone else. It says I am challenging you to come and get me if you can. RED FLAG to a bull. 18. Guard Your Heart By this I mean, Don't give yourself totally to that person until you are saying your wedding vows. Protect yourself from getting hurt to the extreme, take things slowwwwwwwwwwwly! Build the foundation give it time to set. A concrete foundation that has not set properly and had the right amount of cure time will crumble. What ever is built on that bad foundation will fall. It is the same with a relationship even though you are sure it is right, and GOD is at the center.It still has to grow and mature. If you go too fast it will be destroyed and will fail. It fails NOT because it wasn't GOD centered. but The foundation didn't have the time needed to be cured and become rock solid. What ever is built on a uncured foundation is not solid and won't hold up under pressure. 19. Sex, It is up to you BUT GOD says don't. It will more than likely ruin your relationship, if engaged in. Marriage will most likely NOT occur because of it. If the guy really loves you He as the leader should not put you in that position, even if your willing to go along. The woman needs to help control the situation also. That isn't love that is LUST pure and simple for BOTH people involved. Above all, 20.DO have fun on the site and enjoy the fellowship of other Christians. I hope this helps you to succeed in your search. I DO NOT WORK FOR THE SITE IN ANY WAY. I am just another member just like you. Any questions, or comments, I am in the 40's chat a lot. If your new to chat let us know. We will help you get comfortable. We welcome everyone.It is a friendly safe room.All ages are welcome. The young ones like it because they feel safe there with us, and they are. We generally self monitor the room. The guys in there will call an individual to task if they act in a wrong way. Using bad language ect. We can and have handled them easily.Come on by and say hooooooowwwwwwwwwwwdy echo, echo, echo, I hope to see you in chat, River 7 Post Reply
View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 22 Jul, 2014 02:18 AM Awsome advice right there river7 You had every aspect covered especially on how to deal with these scammers! Thanks once again and may God continue to give us wisdom on how to keep this precious site wotthy of its Name amen Post Reply
river7 View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 22 Jul, 2014 06:58 PM maybel Thank you for your response. I wrote about only things that I have observed and/or experienced 1st hand. I thought I might be able to help others that have just come on the site . I wanted to give them a heads up on some of the things to be aware of. I is difficult to come on a new site and not know what to expect, what to do, or how to act in certain situations. anyways, thanks for the reply. river Post Reply
river7 View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 22 Jul, 2014 06:58 PM maybel Thank you for your response. I wrote about only things that I have observed and/or experienced 1st hand. I thought I might be able to help others that have just come on the site . I wanted to give them a heads up on some of the things to be aware of. I is difficult to come on a new site and not know what to expect, what to do, or how to act in certain situations. anyways, thanks for the reply. river Post Reply
river7 View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 22 Jul, 2014 07:04 PM maybel Thank you for your response. I wrote about only things that I have observed and/or experienced 1st hand. I thought I might be able to help others that have just come on the site . I wanted to give them a heads up on some of the things to be aware of. I is difficult to come on a new site and not know what to expect, what to do, or how to act in certain situations. The stuff about the scam artists does really work . It just requires consistency in the application of that process it anyways, thanks for the reply. river Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 22 Jul, 2014 07:52 PM Thank you River7.....thank you! I just have one question and that's regarding your advice/take on posting photos. You not posting one of yourself......was that always the case or after time, just a personal choice? I ask because you were so in depth about it that I couldn't help but wonder why you don't have a pic of your own posted! Anyways, again thank you for that wealth of info and suggestions! I guess it is true that experience is truly our best teacher(smile)! Stay well kept in Him. Post Reply
river7 View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 22 Jul, 2014 10:10 PM mabel BUSTED! lol I was wondering how long it would take before someone caught me on that, answer not very long lol. My flimsy reasons are:I don't have any to put up. I have no idea how I would even get it on the site. I don't like to have my picture taken. I don't like the idea of my picture on the net. I get enough response without it. and I 'd rather not do it, so I just avoid it. It really does come down to personal pref though. Why don't you come into chat and visit I bet you'd really enjoy it. Thank you for the reply, river Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 22 Jul, 2014 10:45 PM complains about people who cover their eyes with shades and give a half hearted smile. doesn't like to put his pictures on the net strong logic Post Reply
river7 View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 23 Jul, 2014 08:53 PM C George I was not complaining. I was just making some observations. I don't care one way or the other, it is up to each individual to chose what they want to accomplish on the site. I was just sharing what I have observed, after being on this site for quite awhile. The things I have suggested have worked for others on this site. My motive, was and is strictly to help people become more successful in their search endeavors. It is entirely up to them as to what they chose to do. When I 1st came on this site, I would have found these things useful,George at least some of them, if they had been available to me at the time. This is why I wrote them up. It was a way I thought, that I might be able to help others: 1. new to the site,become more comfortable. 2.learn how to function in the most effective manner on the site. 3. avoid some of the more common pitfalls that normally happen. river Post Reply
View Profile History	some do's & don't for the site Posted : 25 Jul, 2014 10:09 AM Thank you brother river for your insight! Post Reply