Hi Ive been talking to a lovely young lass for a few days, and we just met and had lunch together today. WE rally seem to be hitting it off, every time I commented on how well it seemed to be going, she agreed. Lol.
My question is, how soon should we start holding hands? Cuddling? And kissing? When should it be "officially dating" and that sort of thing ... I really like this girl.
At the end of our date, I did grab her hand and give it a squeeze and say I really like her. I dont want to go too fast, thats been a mistake before.
Well personally it sounds as if you both are interested enough at this early stage, of seeing what the potential may be in your future, that taking the "natural" course, eg. meeting, using whatever source of communication at your disposal, etc., ultimately helping greatly in how you can possibly progress in your relationship!
Every relationship is different and has it's own exclusive set of challenges, but it still boils down to what is comfortable to you both when showing affection and of course, making sure that in all you do God is honored in it!. Just enjoy one another and the newness of your union(smile)! God's best to you both!
I wanted to give you some things to think about. I come in love . Your post alarmed me because I am older and wiser and I have made the mistakes that younger people make. Sin always takes us further than we want to go and it lasts alot longer than we ever intended on staying....
Kissing, cuddling?
The question to ask yourself is this: Why am I already thinking about these things? Is my focus on Jesus 100% over anything else?
Being honest with yourself is eternally CRUCIAL. Jesus said those who love him will follow his commands ie NO WILLFUL SINNING.
Jeremiah 17:9
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
Ephesians 4:22
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires
Getting to know someone of the opposite sex for a true follower of Jesus Christ is not to be done in the same fashion as those in the world who do not know Jesus.
Are you already having unclean thoughts?
2corin 6:17
"Therefore, COME OUT FROM THEIR MIDST AND BE SEPARATE," says the Lord. "AND DO NOT TOUCH WHAT IS UNCLEAN; And I will welcome you.
Revelation 18:4
Then I heard another voice from heaven say: "'Come out of her, my people,' so that you will not share in her sins, so that you will not receive any of her plagues;
You are playing with fire if you think you can kiss and cuddle w/o thinking on going further.
God has commanded us to be holy and santify ourselves. In order to accomplish this which is far more eternally important than a relationship we just cant let our hearts carry us off into lala land. Which is btw is exactly just where your enemy SATAN wants you to go because he hates anyone who walks with Christ.
Read your Bible and spend time with Jesus every single day.
Our world is in chaos and everything points to Jesus' return very soon. Noone knows when but he did say we would know the season. Dont let satan and your flesh fool you and keep you from hearing the tiny voice of the Holy Spirit. If you cant keep away from her then it better to just marry so that you do not get caught in sin.
27"You have heard that it was said, 'YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY'; 28but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29"If your right eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.�
1corin 7:9
�But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. 9But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 10But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband�
Cross References
Acts 19:36
Therefore, since these facts are undeniable, you ought to calm down and not do anything rash.
1 Thessalonians 4:4
that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable,
What's the difference between a woman and a light bulb? If you don't know that one, how about act in haste but repent at leisure - impatience causes Ishmaels...
There are some really decietfull people out there. When people first meet a lot of times they are on there best behavior (or at least good behavior) As more and more time passes many people find it hard to keep up there "nice act". I can not say that when the two of you met that there was some serious "phoniness" going on, but before you plan on altering your life to be with her...make sure that the two of you both want to spend more time with each other!
And like it was said before me, do not let this lust you are in (that's right most people get married because of lust...but they usually want to call it "love")
But don't let your lust cause you to sin! (determin now how far you are willing to go, because physical contact between two lustfull creatures can become a slippery slope. So if you only think a kiss is ok, make up your mind now about where you can kiss each other. (its proably best to stop with a kiss on the hand...maby the check!) Don't wait until the situation calls for action to decidide, because by then your judgment might be clouded!)
