Author	Thread: Why Is It So Diffiicult to Find Love On Dating Websites?
MDilag View Profile History	Why Is It So Diffiicult to Find Love On Dating Websites? Posted : 16 Apr, 2014 01:18 AM I heard so much stories of people who found love on the internet that I was encouraged to try it for myself so I signed-up with 2 websites, this one included, almost 2 months ago. Somehow it led to whole new level of frustration. I do recognize though that this is just a tool that we opt to use to seek love and the last say is always with the Lord. First person I came to contact with was a scammer, swept me off my feet but I realized something was amiss and I began to investigate. That's when I discovered that the romantic lines that he was using on his emails were widely used by scammers from a country in Africa. Second person is inconsistent but still corresponds with me. Sometimes, I think that maybe online dating is not for me or the decision to sign-up with these online dating sites is preempting what the Lord has planned for me. Does anyone have the same frustration or is it just me? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Is It So Diffiicult to Find Love On Dating Websites? Posted : 16 Apr, 2014 09:00 PM It takes time, lots of time and patience and diligence. That's the truth. Here is a secret: Don't waste your time with fake people. You will lose precious energy and time, and it will diminish your motivation. Pursue the right people. Try not only this site but other sites as well such as okcupid.com and Facebook. Facebook has many great forums where people can chat with each other in a friendly and open setting and you get to know each other slowly. :) Post Reply
MDilag View Profile History	Why Is It So Diffiicult to Find Love On Dating Websites? Posted : 16 Apr, 2014 11:33 PM Thanks Alive. The other website where I signed-up also has a great forum. It's specifically for Filipinas like myself. I guess you are right, it will take a lot of patience and probably setting the appropriate amount of expectations so I won't end-up getting frustrated. (",) Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Is It So Diffiicult to Find Love On Dating Websites? Posted : 21 Apr, 2014 09:21 PM You're frustrated after 2 months?!! I've been here, on and off, for probably five or more years WITH NOT A SINGLE DATE from it (it doesn't help that there doesn't seem to be many females near me). That's not even the worst of it - the only people who view my profile are women abroad - hardly any women from the UK look at it so it feels like I'm not even being given the chance to prove myself. So yeah, I can go along with what you say about it being hard to find success on dating websites. Now you might imagine after all that, that I'd have no time for online dating sites, and it's true: I don't expect I shall find my lifelong partner here, but the main reason I'm still around are the chat forums like this where anything and everything is discussed amongst likeminded, and sometimes not-so-likeminded, individuals. I may never date anyone here, but I've come to respect many for the godly advice they give, the maturity they show that I sometimes lack, and the depths they've uncovered in the scriptures that I myself missed. I can go another thirty plus years by myself, that's trivial in the grand scheme, what's not is the eternity with Christ I look forward to, where every longing of the heart is satisfied and there's no such word as "alone" - worth forgoing a few pleasures here methinks! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Is It So Diffiicult to Find Love On Dating Websites? Posted : 27 Apr, 2014 12:34 PM I feel frustrated, too. I mean, I've sent messages to girls on here but rarely get a reply. Could make a few friends, though. Still, I feel bad. During my whole life I was rejected by those girls I became interested in, and it made me think I'm ugly. Not receiving responses is, sometimes, worse than hearing a "I'm not interested." Seems like girls don't even try to know us. Women judge books by the cover much more than men do. This kind of attitude girls have towards me makes me unmotivated about marrying and raising a family. Post Reply
1mountain View Profile History	Why Is It So Diffiicult to Find Love On Dating Websites? Posted : 29 Jul, 2014 09:15 PM I feel your pain 'alip' it's so rare to get a reply I don't even message people any more, just wink. As for anyone who is using another site as well, this may interest you. I have another profile on another site, christianmingle, and their idea of a match is just plain ridiculous. I've been on there for three years and have only made a few temporary friends. http://www.bbc.com/news/blogs-magazine-monitor-28543248 "I strongly disagree with the need for algorithms," says TV presenter Sarah Beeny, founder of the mysinglefriend.com dating website. "Only the people themselves can see whether the magic's there, not a computer." Rudder admits that "OKCupid doesn't really know what it's doing", but adds: "Neither does any other website." Beeny acknowledges that there is a power of "suggestion", as exposed by the experiment. "But it's pretty amazing that he's come out and said all this," she says. "It seems like a bit of a Gerald Ratner moment. How can anyone trust his algorithms after this?" Post Reply