Author	Thread: Who else doesn' t want children?
Admin	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 10 Nov, 2013 07:03 PM As soon as I changed my status from undecided to I don't want children, I started getting a lot less emails from men and that's it's a good thing because I won't be seen as a baby maker. See if you are just here for a white picket fence dream instead of actually knowing people you are going to be let down. It's just seems so crazy to want to have children when the world is so unstable at the moment. Just looking at the 10,000 dead in the Philippines makes you think about how quick it can be all gone. The world can be a cold, uncaring and sick place for adults, imagine bringing more children into it! and when people tell me their child is going to save the world I look at all the average Janes and Joes on their way to their 9 to 5 wishing they never had children, please stop lying to yourself :) It's funny how I'm the evil one for speaking up my truth! I like being a realist and I dont see the world with rosy sunglasses like many women. If you have the drive and capability of bringing more souls to struggle with sin, disease, despair, slavery to money, confusion,terrorism, natural disasters, instability ect all in the name of a few good and special moments congrats you deserve having a child now leave the rest of us alone! Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 10 Nov, 2013 08:20 PM No one is promised peace and safety. Except for advances in technology, the world is the same as it was 2000 years ago. Disease, violence, disasters, etc. If you dont want children, thats fine. But dont complain when you receive less messages. Most Christian men want families. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 10 Nov, 2013 09:35 PM " Jesus is not pleased with all the coldness and paranoia you breath everyday" ^ your words from another thread. Take your own advise. There are lots of other risky things in life than having children. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 11 Nov, 2013 03:42 AM The world has always been full of disaster since Adam and Eve sinned.God told them to go into the wold and multiply,so its Godly to have kids,regardless of how the world is.Your parents also give birth to you and the world was the same even then. Its ok if you don't love having kids,but don't also think others are wrong for wanting to have them. Given a chance i would have more,only that age is catching up with me.And i look forward to having grand children. I don't think there is anything wrong even from biblical point of view,with having kids, but i respect those who don't like having. Post Reply
View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 11 Nov, 2013 07:21 PM Respect preferences. Avoid being grumpy out of annoyance or disappointment as that unintentionally drives people away. Post Reply
View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 13 Nov, 2013 01:13 AM @OP: Go for somebody who already has kids of their own - they're less likely to want more. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 15 Nov, 2013 05:43 AM Well, I kind of felt that same way until recently. What turned my thinking around was: "What if God decided to never create humans because we might sin against Him?. God knew the risks, He had to. There was already sin in the universe when God created life on the earth, but He did it anyway. Why? I've come to the belief that it's arrogance and selfishness to use fear and reality as an excuse to not give another life a chance. By deciding not to have children based on those general lines of thought, we're basically saying "I know what is best and safest, so I will make all the choices for everyone, they will have no say in the matter. I'll just shut down the gift of creation that God gave to me, and I won't use it like He did". That's really the same kind of thinking as "I won't forgive even though God forgave me". It's unmerciful thinking. Real love beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. If realism and optimism had a child, it would be called Love. Love gives life a chance despite the risks. Love prepares for the worst, hopes for the best. That being said, just like God, we should have a plan, take circumstances into account, and be ready to sacrifice ourselves for whatever life we bring into the world. It should never be a contest to see who can make the most babies. God could have created billions of people on the earth right from the beginning, but He only created 2. We have to be responsible, most of all when it comes to creating a living being. :peace::peace: Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 15 Nov, 2013 05:50 AM And also, if you don't want children, then you definitely should be responsible and NOT have them, because you'll probably do a pretty poor job of it. If you're not ready/willing/able, don't do it. That child will suffer because of your insecurity/instability/resentment, and it might be a bit obvious, but you will not make a good parent if you don't want to. And for the record, I'm not condemning you or anything, there is no "tone" to be read into this post. I know how you feel, at least as much as a man can. I felt the same way up until 8 months ago, but I think you should look at it differently for your own sake. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 15 Nov, 2013 04:39 PM "I dont want children"!!!...I've never had children of my own...When I married I raised one child from the age of 9 to 19...She is all grown up now with 2 children of her own...I havent seen or heard from her in 10 years...Divorce does that...it was 2nd in her life to witness...Life isnt always easy...Sometimes GOD uses us for certain reasons...I am Blessed to have been a part of her life...Today...I still have no children of my own...however...I really love kids...they are the Next Generation...and it is our resonsibilty to be there for them in any way we can...xo Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 15 Nov, 2013 06:21 PM Jude You such a blassing in the column of bible study, I always read your scriptural posts, and even find answers i'm seaching for as reading what you've shared. I appreciate dear, God bless you Jude!! :applause: Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	Who else doesn' t want children? Posted : 19 Nov, 2013 12:55 AM Well, in the near future you might change your mind on not having children. Having my daughters is one of the best things that keeps me going. I think what most people don�t like about having them is the long term responsibility, and it is really huge. It affects a lot, almost everything in life. God design us women to have them. For me having children made me responsible, strong, pushed me to keep trying to be someone for them to look up to, developed my faith and trust in God. I tried to live my life the way I want them to live theirs. In retrospect, the most worthwhile I did in life is raising my daughters and it took a lot of prayers and hard work and I am happy and blessed with the parenting experience I am honored to have. Post Reply